I too am facing the same situation with my large family. I am the 'baby' of nine and had lots of guilt about asking my immediate family to attend my wedding in Jamaica. Especially in this economy. Somedays I still wonder if I am asking too much of them. But, this is what I want and I don't think I will have any regrets. Also, they are not obligated to come. Yes, it would be nice it they did but I can always have a small get-together at home sometime after the wedding.