ThefutureMrsBrown

I'm actually considering having my reception here, so thanks for the information.

I’m getting married in 4 months and I am completely not focused on this wedding. We just closed on our new home this past Friday. For months now my mind has totally been consumed with the house, furniture, curtains, and patterns. Now that we’ve closed on the house and everything should be delivered and setup within the next few weeks I’m freaking out about the wedding. I pulled out my wedding dress and now I’m thinking I really don’t like it for the beach wedding and want to purchase a new dress. Keep in mind I bought the dress Aug of last year. I’m thinking more of a flowing princess dress for the beach, what do you ladies think?

1. Name - Kelly S 2. Where are you from - North Carolina 3. Where are you getting married in St Thomas - ceremony - Megan's Bay, reception - undecided but leaning towards Havana Blue 4. When are you getting married - Oct 16, 2010 5. Who is you WC - nobody yet

Quote: Originally Posted by purpleshells hi all.. I need to vent out of excitement..lol...weird i know.... check this out, we are getting married in 2 1/2 months and all i can think about is starting a family with my wonderful husband to be...normal in a way right?.. well my entire life, 26 years old now....i never wanted children,didnt like them, did not want one, just doggies suddenly we bought a house 2 years ago, and these urges start just poping in my head outa the blue...dreams every now and then..and then every so often..boom BABY thoughts would come and then it started becoming more and more frequent...to the point of now being obsessed with thinking of when we should start trying to conceive...thinking of names, deco, all of it......my fiance is totally aware of my baby craziness and is completely excited that I want children and cannot wait to start trying...by the way, i literally wake up in excitement, thinking of deco ideas or names....and cannot fall back asleep because I am so excited..helloooo im not even pregnant or even close to becoming pregnant..... we have not really set a date on when we should start trying, but we cannot wait...... obviously my biological clock that everyone told me would soon kick in has done so, FULL BLOWN... has anyone else gone through this? please share so I have someone else to talk to about these overwhelming thoughts going through my mind 24/7 Purpleshells, I am feeling the same way and we are hoping to conceive on our honeymoon. He and I both want to get started on our little family so I'm super exicted!!

I meet my FI, Devin, 6yrs ago at work. The first day he started work and I was introduced to him there was an instant attraction. We worked together for a year and half before he decided to pursue his maters degree at Indiana University and I decided to obtain my masters at Columbia University. During the two years we were apart we remained great friends, continuing to keep the lines of communication open and visit each other as time permitted. Once we settled back in the area we began to attend a lot of family functions together. His family and my family alike would ask us when we were going to get married and we would always tell them we were just friends because we honestly were “just friendsâ€. Through thick and thin we had been there for each other and in Mar of 2008 we began to date exclusively. In March of 2009, entire family; mom, dad, brothers, sisters, and their wives, husband, and children went on a family cruise to the Caribbean and of course Devin went with me. Devin ended up spending a lot of time with my dad and brothers while he sent me off to the spa and various land excursions. I really didn’t think anything of it because he had already informed me prior to the trip that he just wanted to relax and unwind from the hustle and bustle of work. Fast forward to day five of our cruise, we stop in St. Thomas and head over to Magen’s Bay which is a very beautiful beach. We lay out our blanket and he goes to get drinks and he ends up leaving me on the blanket for a long time, I’m wondering why is it taking so long to get these drinks. He comes back but doesn’t give me my drink and he starts talking about how our relationship is beautiful just like this beach and how we had been through so much together as friends and partners. He hands me my drink and the umbrella on my drink is upside down and there is a beautiful ring lay there. He then says “I want to make you my friend for life, Kelly will you marry me!!!†I was so surprised, shocked and happy. Turns out my family knew all about the upcoming engagement and had planned an engagement dinner on the cruise that evening. My journey with Devin has been amazing thus far. We’re heading back to Magen’s Bay for our Wedding on Oct 16, 2010.

Best wished to you and your FI....Be Blessed!!

@Natural, We're actually thinking about changing our venue back to the states. He proposed to me in St.Thomas, Magen's Bay to be exact, so I wanted to go back and get married there. After attending so many bridal shows I'm considering a venue here in North Carolina for the wedding and then doing the honeymoon in St. Thomas. The costs is coming out to be the same so why not just do it here where everyone can enjoy the nupitals!!

Thanks Jennybelli1 for mentioning the previous threads posted by Jennandmike08 and I had to go back and read them “So Distraught Have to Cancel” and “No Engagement Ring Syndrome”. I’m glad that the therapist has been helpful. It seems, based on your posts, there have been issues in the relationship for quite some time now. Your FI is in NO position to marry you or anyone else for that matter. You stated he was suicidal and feeling less than a man. Men want to be the provider and protectors and if he feels he can’t do these things of course he’s going to feel inadequate. Based on your previous post, your FI has never proposed to you or bought you an engagement ring and you’ve had to cancel your wedding once before. Those are clear signs that HE DOESN’T want to get married. With all that being said, I’m wondering if you’re just in love with the fantasy or idea of getting married that you can’t see this man clearly doesn’t need to be pressured into marrying you. Let him get his self together as a whole complete man. I know you don’t mind paying all the bills, but no father wants his daughter to get married to a man who can’t provide for her and it seems like your FI feels the same way. I know you’ve done a lot of planning and you state your family won’t understand, but it’s really not about them it’s about your happiness. You may want to seek some one on one therapy for yourself as I’m sensing you may have some underlying self-esteem issues. I’m glad you’ve decided to have a spiritual base as God is real and prayer works. I’m sure all will work out as God intended, best of luck to you and your FI.

Great Post. Very insightful

Wedding Date: Feb 6, 2010 I'm still in the planning phase so not much to share at this point, but I'm getting some great ideas from you ladies.

Name: Stephanie Wedding Date: Feb 6, 2010 Wedding Location: Dreams Los Cabos Hi, my name is Stephanie and I just got engaged on Valentines Day 2009. Now I just need to gather some great ideas so I can plan my wedding.