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My FI has a HUGE cruise addiction so we decided to go on a cruise for our wedding. We knew we didnt want to book the wedding with the ship because the prices are so high. We found a local WC on the island called Weddings the Island Way We knew we wanted St. Thomas because we both fell in love with the island and this way we dont have to jump through any hoops since its considered the "united states". Everyone that is coming we told them to enjoy this as a vacation and all we ask is the morning of the wedding and that night to meet up for a reception dinner. We are looking into blocking some tables that night for our reception nothing to fancy. We will be have a huge AHR where we all can let loose. The packages the WC has to offer is amazing and is priced just right. Im confident that it will be the wedding my FI and I both want.

All I can say is a music legand has passed. What he did and may have done is in the past. He is gone and nothing more can come of this.

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Im like so excited for the after show. I will be glued to the TV my door will be locked so no one can bother me

Jennifer I do get what you mean. It is pretty sad. I hate to admit I will be watching at noon today on CNN. Im at work and well its slow.

Quote: Originally Posted by starchild Rule #1 if you want to be happy - recognize that your wedding is not a big deal to anyone but you. For all intents and purposes it means nothing to anyone except you and the person you are marrying. Some people are excited for you, willing to spend money to attend, happy to buy you gifts, etc. but you aren't the first person to get married and you won't be the last. So what, who cares, move along. Don't give this anymore thought, just do your own thing. It doesn't matter how long he is home and where he will be. He is home, get it? Some people don't come home, how about that? Who cares who is favored? Who cares about a guilt trip? Seriously, peace of mind will come when you realize that your wedding will come and go like a rainstorm and then what? Find something else to be upset about? Stop it. You are in love. Be happy, be free, stop sweating the small stuff. Thank you! That was some great advice~ Since the day after posting this I just shrugged my shoulders and was like o'well. I moved on. If my FMIL and FSIL can come great if not its not the end of the world. I know they both wanted to be a part of this however its understandable. I think they are ok with not being able to go now too. I told them Ill try and take pics if I can and if I cant decide on a couple of dresses Ill bring them back for their opinions.

Quote: Originally Posted by Christine Jamy well said! It took me quite a while to realize that my wedding was my wedding and wasn't the most important day in anyone else's life except my husband and I. I think you need to stop worrying about how everyone else feels. You can't plan a DW thinking that everyone is going to jump on the boat and be a part of it. Most people plan DW's so they can make it more about the couple and not about the family and their wishes. Also I just wanted to remind you that this is a public forum and everything you post is out there in the internet world. I would hate for your FI or his family to see you bitching about his brother coming home from Iraq. IMHO you are being incredibly selfish and need to take a step back to see the bigger picture. You spend a lot of time whining and complaining about things relating to your wedding and other drama. Perhaps you need to take some time to think about why you do this. Why are you so unhappy with all of this? I know this may sound really harsh, but I started to do this shortly before I realized some things about my wedding. About 7 months before my wedding I changed my plans to bring it closer to home for my family. It was causing me so much stress and it just wasn't worth jeopordizing my relationships for one day of my life. so that's my two cents. I know I would get different opinions on the board and this section is "venting" Im sorry if my venting is unrealistic to you. Things come up and I put it out there to get advice no matter if its happy or harsh. All that matters is my FI and I getting married. However bumps come in the road and I like to talk about them to get them off my chest.

Quote: Originally Posted by Christine Jamy well said! It took me quite a while to realize that my wedding was my wedding and wasn't the most important day in anyone else's life except my husband and I. I think you need to stop worrying about how everyone else feels. You can't plan a DW thinking that everyone is going to jump on the boat and be a part of it. Most people plan DW's so they can make it more about the couple and not about the family and their wishes. Also I just wanted to remind you that this is a public forum and everything you post is out there in the internet world. I would hate for your FI or his family to see you bitching about his brother coming home from Iraq. IMHO you are being incredibly selfish and need to take a step back to see the bigger picture. You spend a lot of time whining and complaining about things relating to your wedding and other drama. Perhaps you need to take some time to think about why you do this. Why are you so unhappy with all of this? I know this may sound really harsh, but I started to do this shortly before I realized some things about my wedding. About 7 months before my wedding I changed my plans to bring it closer to home for my family. It was causing me so much stress and it just wasn't worth jeopordizing my relationships for one day of my life. so that's my two cents. They want to be a part of this but everytime I plan something ahead of time I need to change it for them. I say no I am sorry I wont change it and they get upset. So Im upset because I feel I need to change my wedding plans for others. Again like most of you girls said its about my FI and I not anyone else. Hence why I feel upset about this whole situation.

Fricken HAPPY dance!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! My favorite Wes quotes of the night! "I feel at home living around Spanish people" "If its me boys, Ill be back home having lots of sex" What a dirt bag!

I to agree dont cancel because I am sure that is not what your FFIL (RIP) would want. Do something like the other ladies said to remember him. Have a table setting placed were he would sit and a picture. Just something for you and your FI to know he is there with you in spirit. My heart goes out to you and your IL's. Take a deep breath time will heal your pain!

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Well I found this thread almost a month after it was started. Oops o'well. I am also a April 2010 bride 4/2/10 to be exact. We are going on a cruise and once we port in St. Thomas we will be getting married We already sent out our STD's and in a few months will be sending out the invitations. We are sending them out sooner than later so we can get a count on whos going to the actual wedding and not just the reception. We will be having an AHR about a month after we return which will be exciting! Im starting to get things in to order of what we want and what we are looking for. Still lots of planning but atleast we have the venues booked

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Quote: Originally Posted by foxytv But he is NOT just a state or two away - he has been fighting for our country. I know when I was planning my wedding, I wanted everyone to feel as though it was the most important thing - and it hurt my feelings when I felt like people placed more emphasis or importance on other things. But your wedding is NOT the most important thing going on, even though we like to think it is. And especially in this case, this is just DIFFERENT. I would almost guarantee that if you checked with the boutique, that they would change the date for you, given the circumstances ... however, I understand that your friends have already taken off work and it would be a hassle. So, it sounds like you are going to have to suck it up and take it from your FMIL if it's not worth it to you to change the appointment. When his family favors his wedding and all he has to offer the family than other family members then I get pissed. Its not just the dress shopping there are other things they find more important for his wedding not ours! But the guilt trip I have been getting is not making things any better. I will keep my appts however they cannot be mad at me more for that! There really is more than this incident!

Quote: Originally Posted by foxytv My DH was in Iraq for 14 months - starting just a week after we were engaged. He, too, got his 2 weeks of R&R, just like your future BIL ... and honestly I am taken aback by your insensitivity to what he and his family have been going through while he has been in Iraq. You obviously have no idea what type of stress and anxiety all involved are under when a loved one is overseas in war time. I have had friends and family overseas so I do know the feeling. I am sure its not as strong as a DH but like I stated before Im excited myself to see him and so is my FI. As before it would not be any different if he was just a state or two away they really favor this one! Im sorry if you were offended by the comment it was never meant to be like that towards anyone. I do praise all the men and women who fight for us!

Thank you guys! Like I said I will keep my appt. I already have people who have taken off work and I paid for a private showing. No matter what this is for my FI and I. I just want to find the "one" to look beautiful my for FH.

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Great job! We also did postcards much cheaper postage

Quote: Originally Posted by KarlaS Ditto...i still don't have a banner yet? Does anyone know if they are being put up in a particular order? I guess we are all easily excited, I can't wait to get mine! I think you need 300 posts if I read it right!

My really main issues is Im getting a guilt trip. She is telling me how sad she is and whatnot. Again im not chaning my appt but I know she wont be happy with me!

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He is home for 2-weeks. He will not be home each day! I would want so see my brother also truly! However, I know he would not want to stick with his sis by his side when he has a FI and other obligations. I would not expect him to just chill with just the fam and thats it. Im keeping my appts my only thing is my FMIL seems upset about it. Im sorry but I will not continue to keep changing my plans. After talking to my FI he agrees with what I am saying. We both know he wont stick out at home. He will spend a few days here and there but he has a FI to be with and friends. My FI knows how important it is to me to have my mom and FMIL there but when it comes to his brother they bend over backwards. If he was just out of state coming to visit for a couple weeks it would be the same way War or no war we are always placed on the back burner. Im not trying to come off like I dont care he is over seas fighting the fact is I know he wont be home each day!!!!! I care about him and his safety and I will be glad I can see him too!

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