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most resorts are big enough that you don't need to hang out with all your guests the whole time you are there. if you need some time alone, then go do it. people will understand it's your weddingmoon. you shouldn't stress about about this. i've been to destination weddings before and most of the guests mingle with each other or other guests. i don't remember ever hearing anyone say where's the bride & groom to be? we ran into them, but it wasn't forced on them. they it's a bit rude to invite people to your destination wedding and then not want to spend at least some time with besides your wedding day. that's a lot of money people are paying to be there for you. it also doesn't mean that you have to plan every minute of every day for you guests. just go on the trip, and go with the flow. it's easy to run into people and easy to hide out too. that's the beauty of these places.

Quote: Originally Posted by msamanda Raykel, Thanks for the tips!! I will plan to pursue answers once we have our spots booked! That was one thing that made me kind of turned off was that they require you to book before confirming the wedding dates etc. I obviously, like you guys want a specific location and don't want to wait until a month before my wedding to get it confirmed! So thanks for the help. Now hopefully my TA will get back to we with rates soon!! i didn't have to book the trip before i let the paloma know. i asked her if the date i wanted was available and she said yes. then she said i had to book the trip within 3 months to hold the date. i was having a hard time getting prices and group rate quotes that i thought were reasonable. so we booked the date with paloma in mid september and then booked our trip in mid november with a travel agent and we choose to not do a group rate quote. it was 300-500$ more per person to do that. my wedding is still 3 months away, so far we have 14 booked that i know of, could be more. most people are prefering to book their own trip so they can pick & choose which days to go. as for locations at the resort...they are all beautiful you can't go wrong.

Quote: Originally Posted by echo2_62 First off I am really sorry that you're going through this and congratulations on recognizing that at the time you were in the store, the available staff were unable to give you any resolution. A lot of people would have simply freaked out on them, just for even being present! I agree that first having a discussion with the owner is critical so that you can determine how far they are willing to go to help correct the situation. Dealing with someone who is obviously, and rightfully, upset is one thing but dealing with someone who is irate and behaving irrationally is a whole other issue. Definitely be firm and hold your ground until you are satisfied. Best case scenario, they order you a new dress PRONTO and everything is resolved. Otherwise, look at all the options you can! Oddly enough I saw this very same problem on Say Yes to the Dress (which I very rarely watch as usually it makes me SO frustrated!). One of the other girls had mentioned adding a longer layer, which was in essence what they were planning to do on the show, using the same material as the rest of the dress was made from. In your case, I would see if they could possibly make an additional underlayer to your dress so that you maintain the sheath look to it and create an additional layer around the bottom using the same material. So most of the length would be a slip-like material which will prevent it being seen due to the silky nature of your dress material with a wide "hem" of material matching your dress. Plus if it was a full skirt underneath, it could be sewn into the wait where the material already has rouching and you wouldn't see any of the new seams. I don't know if that quite makes sense and of course if its completely not what you want then just do what makes you happy!!!! Good luck and let us know what happens when you talk to the owner!! The thing about this dress is there is no other layer underneath it. That's one of the main reasons I picked it because it was light for getting married in Mexico. All the dresses I tried on with under layers were so hot in the store. The dress has a slit up the side which you can't really tell by the photo. I went and found the original sales receipt and at the bottom they have a list of their policies. I did not sign a contract. It says all sales are final, no refunds or exchanges. It also says they do not do alterations without the clients undergarments or footwear. So what I'm wondering is they broke their own policy rule. I ordered that dress in July and hadn't looked at the receipt since. When I went in Dec to see the dress and pay the final amount I asked since I live 4hrs away if we could do the fitting (also since the store wasn't busy). They said no problem. They did not bring up anything about their policy and they knew I didn't have any footwear. The only thing discussed was that I was planning on wearing nice flip flops no more than 1 inch thick. Now is this going to be my error because I assumed the seamstress would take that into account? The owner was suppose to call me at 6pm and it's after 7pm and still nothing. I don't even understand why she couldn't call me 3 days ago when I sent the letter/email. I am getting more and more frustrated by this whole thing as each minute passes it's making me feel sick. I really just can't believe the nerve of this store and that I am even experiencing this problem. I did propose to FI that we skip out on the whole wedding attire and just wear somberos. Too bad he didn't go for it.

i brought a flat pair of flip flops with me. when everyone says flat most out there are 1 inch and under. the ones i brought were 1/2 inch. i'm trying to find lower, but you still see my feet. i will check what the contract says. thanks for that tip teshy1.

Thanks for the comments so far, I appreciate everyone's input. I have to say I think I was in shock this was happening to me, and I was so tired as I just drove 4hrs to this shop, another reason why I was so mad. Once I knew the owner wasn't in and the staff couldn't do anything I didn't even think it was worth my time to yell at them. It took everything in my power to hold back my tears. My mom could tell I was upset by the look on my face and my lack of speaking. The thing about the hem, is there is absolutely nothing left to let out. It is probably about 1/8 inch, if that. My mom's friend said maybe they could add a tiered layer to the bottom to extend it, but i'm not sure how that will look. If I don't wear anything on my feet then I could get away with it, but as soon as I put something on my feet are showing. I have been looking everywhere for decent flats that are about 1/4 inch but haven't had much luck yet. The dress is already paid for. I had to pay half of it when I ordered and the other half when it came in (before the alterations were done). What are my rights as a customer to get a full refund at this point?

So I went for my dress fitting last friday and my dress was hemmed too short. Has this ever happened to anyone? I am unsure what to do or how to handle this situation. The owner/seamstress was not there for the fitting, even though she was suppose to be. The staff made it seem like it was no big deal, but it was. I was so mad, but I didn't want to be 'that' girl who freaks out or cries in the bridal shop so I saved that for later. I was planning on wearing sandals and I brought a sample pair and you could see my whole foot. That was not how that was suppose to be. I didn't have any shoes on when they did the alterations but the seamstress knew I wasn't planning on wearing anything more than 1 inch thick. The sample shoes I brought were 1/2 inch thick. Both me & my mom think the dress looks stupid now and I feel very self concsious it it. The staff just kept saying well it's no big deal you are getting married on the beach. I had to remind them that it is a big deal cuz I won't be standing on sand the whole time, I still need to walk around the resort and we are having a formal at home reception when we get back. The staff told me the owner would call me on Monday to discuss this and she didn't. I wrote a formal letter/email of complaint to make her (owner) aware of the situation. She responded and said she had no idea any of this happened and didn't call Monday as she was off that day. She says she is going to call me tonight to discuss this. What should I be asking for done? I already said in the letter I wasn't paying for the alterations. I'm pretty sure it's too late too order another dress as it took 6 months to get in and our wedding is in 3 months. For those reading my dress is maggie sottero - kadence ivory (Kadence - by Maggie Sottero look at the picture and imagine seeing the models whole foot sticking out...that's what i'm dealing with. I'm so upset about this whole ordeal I don't even want to wear the dress anymore. I'm trying to justify going out and spending another $1000 on a dress. Any input would be appreciated. Thanks

Quote: Originally Posted by HereFishie That's how we're doing it Just a thought... maybe its not available because its already booked by another bride for that timeslot?? hmmm, i didn't even think of that. guess it doesn't hurt to ask.

Quote: Originally Posted by KLee147 I stayed at Coba and got married at Tulum. The only resturants I was given to choose from were the ones on the Coba side. When you're sorting that stuff out with Karla perhaps you should make a special request to her. yeah i'll ask again and see what she says. FI really wanted to eat at one of the restaurants at tulum

Quote: Originally Posted by trobin01 Weddingfavours.ca has various fans. I'm not sure if they have what you are looking for, but their shipping is fast, reasonably priced and, since they are based in Ontario, there is no surprise customs fees. Good luck oooh thanks for sharing that website...this is exactly what i was looking for. i too was getting frustrated with all the US sites & shipping costs.

Quote: Originally Posted by Holly22 I'm going to check out the burlington store! What a deal They didn't have any last week tho : ( Maybe I'll have luck i went to the burlington store too...and i didn't see any. i didn't even know about this post until now either. this may be a stupid question...but what section in the store did you find them? maybe i missed them.

what a great video! so i have a question cuz i'm reading on here one thing and was told another. we are staying at the coba, but getting married at tulum beach. i originally asked for akumal but was told it wasn't available. i was under the impression we would then have dinner at one of the tulum restaurants but was told we could only choose from 3 places at coba. others on here (who i can't remember off hand) said they are staying at the coba, getting married at akumal and having dinner at the akumal side. would love some input, thanks.

anyone have any luck finding some nice ivory dressy flip flop/sandals?

great review! thanks for sharing and congrats! i loved your white dress you wore for your rehearsal dinner, and the one after your wedding ceremony! where'd ya get them?

oh i came online to ask a few questions and others already asked...about bringing your own vows. good to know. as for corona, i don't remember seeing it anywhere when i've been in the past. it's mostly dos-x. also, there are all night snack bars that serve beer for sure. oh and a tip i learned on my second visit...you can order personal pizza's at the all night snack bar. that was a lifesaver for me since i thought they only had burgers & hot dogs (and i'm vegetarian). i'm getting anxious...just a little over 3 months to go!

thanks for sharing. i've been just starting to work on my playlist, so i appreciate the suggestions.

Quote: Originally Posted by KLee147 Thats what we did and all you need is your passport, tourist card and 2 witnesses for both bride and groom. Now they even have the marriage licence translated and apostiled for you. I'm still waiting for mine but I was told it takes 2 to 3 months. I still have a little waiting left. ok great...that's what we were told we needed to do too. i had some info with the old way too, so i just wanted to make sure. sounds like they are making things easier!

you could also try michael's for the DIY kits, they have some nice ones and she could add a couple touches to make them her own. plus michaels always has 40% off coupons, just go online. i am getting mine done by some friends who just started their own business. they claim they will work with any budget so you can check them out. they are based out of windsor-chatham area. http://www.somethingblueandmore.com/index2.php

congrats elena...always refreshing to here another bride with a positive experience. just curious of any ontario brides who had the legal ceremony. what requirements did have to do? i keep get mixed info. just want to be prepared.

they look great. i wanted to have mine like that...but i ended up with something a bit different! i'm sure your guests will love them!

wow everything looked great...especially your ceremony/reception! congrats

just talk to them and let them know your plans before you set a date/book anything. if you let parents be involved and still a part of the process...it shouldn't be a problem. decide what is more important to you...doing the wedding the way you want...or what everyone else wants. just to warn you...everyone has an opinion on how things should be. remember it's your day. good luck and enjoy the process!

i've seen some pics of people releasing balloons after the ceremony

this probably sounds bad but i didn't even think to ask her to come or FI's stepmom. when i went shopping with my mom it was decided last minute that day. i'm glad no one else came with us (even friends) cuz i was so overwhelmed by the experience. i couldn't imagine having everyone's opinion coming at me during that experience. plus we got my dress 4hrs away from where she lives.

always love when people share their planning threads...even after the fact. still helpful for us up and coming brides! loved your wedding photos too! congrats

loved your slideshow! congrats...and you looked so beautiful in your dress!