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swankster77 ...i wouldn't worry too much on how you are going to keep in touch with your guests...you'll be surprised for the size of the place you will run into people all the time. if you are concerned about the 1st couple of days or guests coming on different dates just tell them to meet you at the tulum lobby bar (or wherever you decide). i've been to the resort 2x before and we either ran into friends at the coba pool bar, akumal beach, lobby bar or hacienda. most people did their own thing for dinner unless otherwise planned and met up afterwards for drinks.

love these!

such a good reference site. i have been making so many lists of things to remember. this is good as i tweaked the information to our needs for the big day!

janelle was conrado the old resort photog or someone you hired outside? i have been speaking via email with arreife studio (sp?) and they have sent me some photos of their work. glad to hear another bride who was happy using them.

we are have a DW and AHR. we invited 170 and we expect about 35-40 people to come to the DW. for the AHR we expect about 100. we'll see what happens though. the AHR only holds 120...haha! i was told to invite more than you expect to come especially if people live all over the place which is the case for us (all over canada, US, and even england!!). estimate about 90% guests if it's local and about 65% if it's out of town. both of our stuff is out of town.

love them! they look romantic & fun!

the pink looks more modern IMO

i too felt weird about having one. my bridesmaids really want to throw me one. so i insisted it doesn't cost them lots of money. one offered to have it in her home, and we'll bring food/drink for everyone. not sure how the guestlist will work out since people are from all over the place and we are having it on a saturday evening. either way, it's exciting as it's not often i spend time with a room full of women (i work with all guys).

oh i'm off the weekend in feb. would be nice to meet some others.

congrats! you looked beautiful...loved your hair!

haha...that was the best!

yeah i hope they are covering the alterations cost. i already said repeatedly i wasn't paying for it.

oh for sure i will. i'm hoping everything is going to be fine. if it's not at least i have my mom there to stick it to the owner (she's way better than me at that). i hope if anything positive comes out of this experience is that others can learn from my problem.

i too am in the process of trying to find nice flats to wear with my dress... these are nice at aldo $60 ZACATE - women's fashion flats sandals for sale at ALDO Shoes. dessy $15 Wedding Flip Flops in Iridescent Taffeta: The Dessy Group

WOW!...wendy thanks for sharing your video & pics with us. i cried...it was beautiful, i keep thinking if i cry this easily watching everyone else's video how am i going to get through my own ceremony!?! loved your dress too! congrats!

thanks ladies for the suggestions and support. there isn't much to update at the moment on the situation. i had to get FI to call the store for me and complain to get the owner to call me. it still took her a few more days before we connected. so in total it was 11 days of phone calls, emails, messages before we spoke. she said the seamstress lengthened the dress by 3/4inch and she thinks it is going to be too long now (i doubt it). i asked how they got the extra length and she claims from steaming the dress and stretching it. i am on a mad hunt for really flat yet nice sandals before i go for the next fitting. i'm thinking of going mid feb as my mom is out of town until then and she's been there at all the fittings with me. i have a few friends who offered to go with me but since they never saw me in the dress before i don't want them to get distracted by seeing me and not realizing the issue with the length. i told the owner straight up that i am not happy with getting the run around and can't guarantee anything until i try on the dress. i'm not going to lie i am extremely nervous but i'm trying not to stress out about it.

tripadvisor is good for one thing --- seeing 'real' photos of the resort/hotel you are planning on going to. if you know how to decipher reading the reviews of the resort they can be helpful...but you can't take every persons word for granted. some people honestly complain about the most petty things it's unreal. go on the message boards and post questions and ask like on here. you will get a better idea of what the place is like. just remember more people will go online to say something negative before they will take the time to say something positive. plus you can't make everyone in your group happy so if you hear someone complain on your trip, just say something positive back. ex. oh the food here is really salty, say yest but the desserts are delicious. i always find people who are negative have a hard time going on and on if i'm boosting about how great everything else is.

yes it is totally bad etiquette to ask your guests to pay for their meal at your wedding shower. if you/your bridesmaids can't afford to do something like $25/pp high tea then do something in the budget. i think it would be way more personal and fun to host a 'high tea' inspired party at someone's house. it's inexpensive to go buy a few types of tea and make finger sandwiches, scones, jams, and desserts. remember guests are buying you a gift, asking them to pay for a meal too is just rude & tacky. think about how you would feel if you got that invite. weddings are expensive enough for people to attend.

you have every right to be disappointed. i would be too. i don't know your history with this girl so i can't comment on if this is typical behaviour or not. if this was happening to me so close to the wedding i would just move past it and focus on your day. if she is still acting weird after the wedding then maybe a little distance between the two of you would be best.

I also have 4 BM's & 3 GM's who all live in different cities/provinces. I told the girls to pick a lightweight, simple, elegant black dress. The GM's we are just trying to narrow down how to do this. I might go with the one who lives here, pick out the outfit and tell the other guys what to get and at what store (and make sure they have that store in their city). Club Monaco, Le Chateau also has great men's clothes for this. I have to say though, I thought telling the girls to pick out their own black dress was an easy task...but it has proven to be more difficult. If you can at least show them styles that you like that may help. I know they kept asking me for reassurance. One person especially has made a big deal about black dresses in mexico. I just reminded her we're paying for the outfit and that it's our day. Good luck!

one i read on another forum was... drinking straws for your wedding day (while getting ready) if you are going to mexico you shouldn't need bug spray, in dominican/cuba you will i always bring a pair of socks & hoodie for back at the room, i always get the chills if i'm sunburned and the A/C is on in the room. i love the idea of bringing ice tea singles for the water, half way through the week i'm always looking for something else to drink besides water, pop, juice or booze. ice tea is perfect. for hangovers & stomach problems (indigestion, nausea, diarrhea) bring Po Chai pills they work wonders!!! best money spent! Amazon.com: Po Chai (Bao Ji Wan) Pills - Herbal Supplement (10 Vials Per Box) - 1 Box: Health & Personal Care

so the update so far is pretty much nothing but me getting the run around. the owner has responded to my emails, saying she would call at certain times and never did. more emails sent by me, another missed call by her. more phone calls made by me with no return call. now she's saying she can't call me until next week. i am feeling very powerless i have written very firm emails stated what i wanted done. i call and i'm told she's not there or busy and she'll call me back. i live 4hrs away and i've been working. i can't exactly just pop by the store to catch her off guard. this whole thing is making me sick. i don't even know what to do.

oh i also wanted to say i know couples who moved to another resort to be away from their guests and one of them (husband or wife) wished they were with everyone else having fun. just a thought!