Tara & Tonya - Congratulations on the new houses - so exciting!
Erin - so nice to have a shower!
Tonya - I think it's nice to not want gifts - we don't either, but if you have a shower, people will bring them, regardless of whether or not you tell them to. If you want to go with Emily Post, you aren't supposed to mention gifts at all in any invitation, but you can spread the word and put it on your website if you have one that you don't want any, or go with Meghan's idea or ask for donations to a charity.
I am sincerely hoping that nobody makes me a shower. We have been trying to get rid of things - not get any more things! But we're both 40 and had to combine 2 homes and 20 years of living on our own and accumulation! I'm not having a bachelorette party either, I have no bridal party and we're not having an AHR.
FI supposedly picked out wedding bands for us when he picked out my e-ring - I have no idea what they look like but he did a great job with my ring, so I'm going to trust him with this.
right now I have my invitations in my living room and need to address them but I can't get motivated to do it!