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Great pictures - you look so beautiful and happy! Congratulations!

I agree with the other ladies - you have every right to be angry - hearing that the man you love is about to do something stupid and dangerous, and doesn't even have the full capacity to make the right decision is frustrating. when he does come home, ask him how he'd have felt if you told him you were going to get in the car with your drunk irresponsible friend. how he'd feel if he was left wondering if you'd made it home safely or if at all....we don't always realize how our actions affect the ones we love till we put ourselves in their shoes. I hope he gets the message and you'll work it out. good luck!

gorgeous! it looks great on you!

Congratulations Lisa - you look beautiful!!! Thsnk you for the review and i can't wait to see more pictures!

I just got personalized pens, fans and some little flip flop candles from there, as well as some giant (44oz) glow in the dark cups from there. the candles were a little smaller than i was expecting, but I may not have looked at the size...they are TINY, but everything else is great. i also looked at the reviews on everything there when making my decisions...I think that was helpful.

I could show FI a picture of my dress and 15 other dresses and he would still not remember when he sees me on the day. for us, it's one of the only traditions we're keeping, so my dress is at the shop till it's altered, and then my mom will keep it till it's time to go. FI won't see it till our wedding day. I want him to be blown away when he sees me in it. He isn't the type to care about style unless i wore something with a high neck and long sleeves...and that's not my style at all! He knows it has a corset back and it's strapless, which describes about 5000 dresses, so he will be 100% surprised! I think everyone has to do what they're most comfortable with...like I always say, it's YOUR day, do what you want!

This is 2nd and LAST time for both! He's been divorced for almost 20 years and me for 10 so we both took our time doing it again.

2 months and 2 weeks and i'm starting to feel like OMG i'm getting married in freaking Jamaica and I have so much to do!!!!! Very overwhelmed right now!

Funny, i was thinking the other day how we should keep this thread active after we all get married!

Quote: Originally Posted by caribbeanLover Your Fi went to vegas for his bachelor?! lol We watched the hang over movie, I told him he was allowed..not that any of his friends or us have the money for that! When and what are you doing for yours? We watched Hangover too - FI has never been to Vegas - none of his friends can go to do a Bachelor party though...same thing!

Quote: Originally Posted by JuneWeddingDreams My heart goes out to you...I feel anxious for you! I went through this with my first marriage...although he was doing similar things with one of my good friends. In the end, he needs to give you what you are asking for (passwords, work out of a different location, etc) until he has built your trust up again. If he isn't willing to do those little things he obviously is hiding something and/or doesn't want to change his ways. Have you asked him how he would feel if he saw similar emails that you were sending to another man? I am sure he wouldn't like it at all. Out of respect for you he needs to do what you ask to build that trust back up! Hang in there! I feel like I am going through this all over again with you...it is truly the worst feeling in the world. Your heart sinks...in the end...you need to do what you are comfortable with and what is best for you! You know him better than the rest of us do...trust what your gut tells you! I will be saying a few prayers for you tonight! Lots of hugs! I am so sorry that you are going through all of this and feeling so awful. I think the question asked above is one of the best things you can asked him. The one time FI and I had a really bad fight, I got that advice from his mom...and it worked out really well...it really made him stop and think. i'm not saying it will make everything all better, but it might be a start. I think going and talking to someone together is a great idea - i'm not sure reading all of the emails between him and the other girl is such a good one - it will do nothing but hurt you. you already have your suspicions and evidence...now is the time to go and try to save your marriage, if you think it's worth it. As you can see you have lots of support and love from all of us here, and hopefully from your people at home as well. good luck and lots of hugs!

Love the BM dress Suzy!

Yay! so glad you are ok...if the worst thing is that you can't scuba you are way ahead of the game.

Seriously, my mother told me if I eloped she would never forgive me and even after she died she would haunt me for all eternity. We're Jewish. Guilt is our specialty. When I mentioned the possibility of getting married in Jersey first, she kept asking when and where and who would be the witness...and I wouldn't do that without her would I....on and on...I can stand up to her on almost anything, but I think this would make her cry...and that would kill me. meanwhile, FMIL says, go do what you want and be happy. AND he's an only child. Go figure.

I thnk if we did it here secretly the guilt of getting married without my parents there would haunt me forever...lol!

Quote: Originally Posted by echo2_62 Awesome job Michele!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I had two sessions with my trainer this week and while I haven't been wicked sore afterwards I could definitely feel it in the muscles we'd been focusing on. He's really trying to help strengthen my core before we get into a lot of other stuff because I've definitely got some weakness there from last years accident and it's amazing how obvious that weakness is during some moves! I couldn't believe how much I had to THINK about the particular exercise that I was doing at the time. The part that really bummed me out about the whole thing is that Geoff is naturally good at ANY thing athletic, including working out at the gym and seeing results in like two days. It drives me nuts even though it's a trait that attracts me as well. So I've mentioned before that he's really tight with his money so the other day (in a rather disapproving voice) he asked how much had I bothered spending on this training and how long did I plan to bother doing it. I mean, it's great that he doesn't think I need to lose weight or anything but he just doesn't understand that some people like having a trainer or need that help to focus on their exercising. Plus, I know I spent more than I would have like to so it's hard to justify already, without his disapproval. He'd never tell me that I wasn't allowed to do it or anything, but it kind of makes me feel like I'm wasting my time on something that won't even have results or show any accomplishment. I'm going to keep at it, but I just wish he'd 'get it' a little more. FI is the same way being good at EVERYTHING naturally and also sees results quickly and doesn't understand the need for a trainer...I should just be motivated....and I spent a TON on the trainer...and FI said maybe I should have just gotten the lipo because I'd already look good....Nice, right? give it a bit more time and let him see a little more results. My bicep is actually a bit defined now and even though he laughs when i show him, I know he's impressed and proud that I'm working so hard. And it is amazing how much you have to think about the exercise.... keep up the good work...we're all proud of you!

Quote: Originally Posted by angie8119 woohooo!!!! i am loving this check list!!! here's thought- I went to inquire about my marriage liscense at my town municipal building and you know what they said... we can't do anything for you, your getting married in Jamaica. As long as your legally married in Jamaica your legally married. Will the USA acknowledge my marriage that lady sounded like a bunch of crap. Angie - from what I know the Jamaica marriage is valid in the US but it takes a long time to get the marriage certificate, which is one of the reasons a lot of people get married in the US first and then do a symbolic ceremony at the resort. We're going to get married at the resort...I wanted to do it here first but we decided if we're going through all of the trouble to have everyone down there, we might as well do the real ceremony down there too.

Quote: Originally Posted by Islandbride2b Hi ladies, I had emailed Lori about the flowers as well. This is what she had said, and she sent me an attachment of all the flowers. (I hope the attachment posts!) "Please see attached floral magazine for your perusal. The bouquets that comes with the wedding packages are as follows: 128, 130, 149-164. Lori Douglas Wedding Coordinator Grand Palladium Lady Hamilton Resort and Spa Grand Palladium Jamaica Resort and Spa The Point, Lucea P.O. Hanover, Jamaica W.I. Telephone: 876 619 0000 extn 8251 Fax: 1876-620-0001 Email: [email protected]" Okay I keep trying to add it as an attachment, but I think it is just too big. I'm not sure what to do, any suggestions are welcome. In till then, Lori has been extremely helpful and patient with me. I'm sure if you e.mail her she will definitely send you the attachment of flower options. I'm sure you can have something else done s far as flowers..these are just the few that come with selective packages. Quote: Originally Posted by Islandbride2b Mel as far as your photographers I was told that we can bring our own photographers in to the resort. We are not allowed to hire out side Jamaican photographers. We are bringing ours with us instead of using the resorts. I have seen some of their photos. Some are great some are not so great. (We went to GPJ in June) To us, our photos are one of the most important things, because its really the only thing we get to bring back with us that is tangible as far as our wedding day/week. Plus I just really LOVE pictures! Don't feel like your unorganized! I was under the impression that everything would be taken care of when we got to the resort as far as picking out things. Everything will be easy breezy! I do have to say though, that since the WC have changed so much, i find myself doing a lot of "pre picking" and asking a lot of questions to Lori. The wedding packages have changed dramatically since over 6 months ago when I saved our wedding date with a deposit. alright ladies, It's late, I have got to get to bed. I hope some of these posts of mine make since to someone! lol. Happy planning! I didn't like any of the flowers that we were given as choices but I think we're going to be able to work something out with me paying a little extra. As for the photographer - I'm using a Jamacan Photographer (Sungold) - their work is amazing, who has done work at GPJ before and not had any problems getting in there.

Hi Ladies - down 9 pounds in 3 weeks!!!!! Imagine, dieting + exercise = weightloss

I WILL be: Walked down the aisle by my parents *this is a Jewish tradition, and the only religious tradition we will be following Wearing a white dress not seeing FI before the wedding - once we eat breakfast - we won't see each other till I walk down the aisle. I WILL NOT be: Spending the night apart from FI Having a bridal party or maid/matron of honor having parent/child dances wearing a garter or doing a bouquet toss doing a sand ceremony *seems to be traditional for DW Brides having any kind of religious ceremony using any kind of classical music for the ceremony

Quote: Originally Posted by ebredhawk i did something scary last week guys... i decided to change my colors! the only thing it really affects are the flowers (meaning bouquets, bouts and centerpieces) but i am 100% okay with that! i was talking to my flower lady and i mentioned that if i could do it all over again i'd just go crazy with tropical colors instead of trying to fit everything into a defined color scheme. well, she said she was up for the challenge, so now that's what we're doing! i went from white and pink to pink, orange, green and yellow! the pink chair sashes and flower girl dresses will still go well and it'll make everything look less matchy-matchy too, which i'm very glad about! now we have to try to find all of these flowers again though.. here's hoping it won't be too hard! melidell.. 100 days left for us today! Erin - my colors are pink...well fuscia, orange and green...you'll be fine with the changes... Quote: Originally Posted by angie8119 Jersey Kitten-I am in Bergen county but am actually flying out of philly on the 7th...how about you? I'm flying out of Philly on the 8th. Carribbeanlover- you ARE SO RIGHT with the lack of head count! Exactly what I have been stressing about, I can't really start these oot bags until I know who the heck is coming. a hot mess. Ladies- can I tell you I pretty much started hysterically crying a few days ago and it was such a relief!!!! Since then, I am booking appointments and making decisions! yay!!! I know exactly what you mean - Once I admitted to FI and my friends that it is actually stressing me out to do this, I felt better and have been able to do things. Quote: Originally Posted by Melidell Quick question- is anyone else having trouble viewing the most recent page of this thread? I can see that it's been updated, and that there's another page, but whenever I try to go to the last page I get redirected back to the second last. It's a bit aggravating. ETA- posting seems to bump me up to the new page. Weird. A lot of times I will see a new post from someone on this thread and I can't get to it....so frustrating!!! Time is truly ticking away ladies. I'm at 2 months, 3 weeks, which is really like 11 weeks, right? Not very long when I think about it and all of what I have to do!!!

In regards to the menu, I'm thinking of asking them to do a tasting plate of the 2 choices, rather than having to ask my guests what they want in advance. Who is going to want to know what they want to eat in 2.5 months?

Quote: Originally Posted by katie424 I have been so swamped, and now my schedule is a little more flexible. One of you ladies is getting married in May, a week after me and your little wedding ticker says "3 month, 2 weeks" EEEEEEK! That means I have less time! I haven't even made a to do list (looks like I know what I will be doing today). :-) My biggest freak out is the photography. I have heard mixed reviews, but I am in an out of contract work, so we are hesitant to book our own photographer to come because if money gets tight, we can just pick a less expensive package at the resort. What are you ladies doing for photography? I have a photographer from Jamaica. Everyone is so flexible - I think if you book them and then need to change the package they'd be able to do that.

Ladies - I got on the scale at the gym yesterday. Down 5 pounds since I started with the trainer!!!!!

Quote: Originally Posted by angie8119 real quick change of subject- is anyone extremely emotional and stressed between this wedding and their everday life! I think I am driving FI crazy. OOT bags and no favors....great idea!!!!! Yes Angie - very emotional and stressed. you are not alone! I'm actually going to stop working in a few weeks to make it easier to concentrate! It will be ok. Just breathe deep. Where in Jersey are you? And we are date twins!!! YAY!!! And now my mom wants to do a little AHR as soon as we get back. with 2.5 months to plan....I'm happy she wants to do it but we're really cutting it close!