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Quote: Originally Posted by cougs omg stacey, your FI is totally a keeper for nipping that in the bud!!! and you both should talk to your parents about not mentioning the legal day to anyone and keeping it secret. i think if family/guests start finding out that mexico isn't "the real deal," it could cause a problem for you. it's ultimately why we chose to have our legal ceremony in mexico ... our family wouldn't have understood, or worse, been pissed off! i'm so jealous of the people who can get the legal crap out of the way easily at home! We DID tell the parents that it was hush hush. My parents haven't said a word.. its all FIs parents, and I know we made it clear to them too. That's another topic though... LOL

I totally know what you mean about people having common sense. We're having our legal ceremony before going down to Cabo for our symbolic wedding. We have only invited parents to the legal ceremony and FI's mom said a few weeks ago "so and so have decided they are coming to the legal ceremony instead of Mexico" Thank gosh FI said "they weren't invited, they don't have that option!" haha

I didn't do too bad on the weekend. It's been really cold and windy here lately, so I've been indulging in hot chocolates from Starbucks haha

Quote: Originally Posted by EmmaGaussoin I found some cheap convertible dresses for my girls. I am doing fuchsia but this website has turquoise too. I ordered mine a few days ago and the store owner has been very good with communication. NEW Convertible ELAN Jersey TURQUOISE Dress to Skirt S How did your girls like the dress?

I agree that she looks like the catlady.. a very shocked looking catlady. It makes me so sad! She couldnt even chew her food. I think Spencer has something to do with her body issues. She was SO confident before!

I woke up this morning and magically gained 3lbs! Im going to say that its because i've been working out like crazy! But I hope it goes down for tomorrows weigh in. I know I havent gained because my clothes feel great!

Quote: Originally Posted by jennypenny23 Im realllly sore today too- Yesterday, I ran my first 3km without stopping once, (a HUGE feat for me!) then I went to my zumba class.... ugh It's been a tough week and I'm sooo looking forward to the weekend.... c'mon Saturday morning!!!! Congrats on the 3 km!! Thats awesome! I can't wait for the weekend either.. i've worked 18 days in a row now ugh

Good Morning Ladies! So I did the Jackie Warner workout video last night, and then got FI to drag me out of bed this morning for a run! haha I feel great!

Quote: Originally Posted by MissWarren Which minister in Cabo are you using? Thank you! We're using Marco Arechiga

Good Morning Ladies! I'm back full swing this morning eating good. I was horrible all weekend haha. Yesterday I came to work motivated to be good, and then my boss wanted to take us all out to lunch, so of course I went!! Cindy, I LOVE those slimfast bars, they're amazing. The peanut butter ones remind me of crispy crunch bars.

Yay! Everyone did so great!! What is everyone doing for meal plans?

For sure! Our symbolic ceremony is almost identical to the legal one we are having before we leave for our wedding in Cabo. The only difference is that we won't be signing anything (Im sure you could work something out if you wanted to for show). Our minister in Cabo is even giving us a certificate afterwards!

I made an agreement with FI.. If I can get down to a certain weight by May 8th (its 4-5 lbs down), then he will buy me a super cute new summer dress for "Polynesian night" (theme dinner and dance that were going to) hehehe

Quote: Originally Posted by mnh1983 So, with tomorrow starting week 2, how about a challenge? I was thinking that everyone could pick their biggest "guilty pleasure" food and see if they can go the whole week without it. Anyone want to try it with me? I'm going to go without Mexican food, either at a restaurant or at home. No yummy tortilla chips for me! Chips... I will go without them!

Oh my gosh, Renee! I LOVE that fitbitch blog! She is hilarious!!

Quote: Originally Posted by elifrigo Hi Stacey! You don't sound at all like "poor sport". You are focus on something VERY important in your life, which is loosing weight and being healthy! so, CONGRATS to you for going home for lunch tomorrow rather than making a wrong choice.!!!!! Today is has been very hard for me... I was doing ok this morning, but this afternoon I "had" to eat two pieces of chocolate.. I feel like such a looser.. I didn't need to eat them, but I did anyways... I feel like I failed already... horrible. Well the coworker who put together the pizza and cake thing just came to me and said "Is there something wrong?". I was like no, i'm fine. She says "well you're not having pizza or cake tomorrow". I was replied with "Listen, I'm getting married on the beach in November, I dont need to say anything else" haha that was the end of story. I hope I don't give in and have any. You know what I do when I eat bad and Im feeling horrible. I go home and exercise it off.

Quote: Originally Posted by butterfly4kathy2 Holy crap! these stories are C R A Z Y! Makes me very thankful for my sane (and VERY nice) MIL!! I dont know if I could handle it! lol! Consider yourself very lucky!

Quote: Originally Posted by carolina24 OMG your MIL is a complete (word i shouldnt say)!!! I will tell you from experience that your FI needs to stop this entire situation right now, I mean like TODAY! he needs to sit down with his mom and firmly explain to her that you are #1 in his life and she has to respect you or she can forget about him. I know that sounds horrible BUT its the ONLY thing that works in these situations. she's crossed the line WAY to much!!! she should have never ruined your engagement...to me, that's the worst of it. My father's mom was like this with my mom, saying things, ruining moments, the dress code for their wedding was black tie (tux only), very formal (my moms dad was a prominent attorney) and grandma called the men on her side of the family and made them wear navy suits!!! then she went to my mom's dad's funeral in a red dress!! i mean the list goes on and on....this ALWAYS caused major fights b/t my parents b/c although my dad would stop it when he witnessed the situatuions, it still continued to happen if he wasn't there. it wasn't until 5 years ago (23 years into their marriage) that he finally put her in her place. but it's too late b/c my mom doesnt talk to her anymore and she isn't welcomed at my parents house when she comes to the states!! mom's are afriad to not be the #1 woman in their son's lives, so they act completely crazy and do hurtful things. the only way to break this is for the son to set firm ground rules and follow through with them. DO NOT let his brother come to your legal wedding!! sorry but this got me so fired up, this should be the happiest time of your life and NO ONE needs to ruin it!!! Wow, I really appreciate your advice. FI and I had a huge talk about it the other night. The last time he sat his mom down and told her to back off and that I am number one, we didnt speak to her for months. But now that we are all back on good terms, it is all starting to happen again. I know that FI needs to talk to her again, its just hard because we know she will fly off the handle again. (i dont mind, but he does). My parents have met FIs parents a few times too. The first time they met, my MIL told my mom that I am the reason her two sons don't talk anymore. My parent's are just as appauled by the things that come out of my MILs mouth as I am lol. I can NOT believe your MIL did that to the black tie wedding. That's outrageous! If my MIL does end up wearing the white dress at my wedding, I know that she will be the one looking ridiculous.

I've never heard of Zumba, but it sure sounds interesting. My work is ordering pizza and cake tomorrow for lunch UGH.. so myself, and one of my other coworkers (who is a bridesmaid in someones wedding in November), will be going to my house for lunch tomorrow. I hate to sound like a "poor sport" at work, but I can't even look at the food or smell it, and the moment I do - game over!

Quote: Originally Posted by vdaybride My MIL is worse than yours!! I really feel for you, but listen to this! My MIL found an old girlfriend from 10 years ago and invited her over to her house. She sat her down and let her know that FI and I were about to go away and get married and that if she wanted to "let him know how she feels" that she should let him know soon. This "woman" and I use the term loosely wrote a love letter professing her love and how she never got over him and that he should give her another chance!! Guess what the MIL from HELL did... she called my FI over and suggested that he "come alone." SHe hand delivered the note and told him to "find a quiet place and read this, it's important." WTF!?!? Who does that!? Not just because of that, but for a series of unfortunate events, we don't even speak anymore. It was just my great luck that her flight was cancelled due to an awful snow storm and she missed the wedding. I know that this seems cruel, but this woman has been a true thorn in my side. I imagine if she made it she too would have worn a white dress.. pure evil. We have been married for over 2 months and she has YET to call to say congrats or hey dog, welcome to the family. I nicely sent a card with our pic on it saying..."Introducing the ____, our wedding date, location" I then wrote on the bottom of the card.. "Thank you so much for welcoming me into the family" I put this in the mail last week . She lives in Atlanta and we live in NY. I am sure he got an earful when she received it . He knows NOT to come to me with her negative bull. I shared my tragic MIL story to show you that it could always be worse! I hope that FI will stick by your side and tell her the white dress in NOT an option for her. Good luck! Sending cyberhugs for you. All I can say is WOW!! That is INSANE!! I can't believe she did that!!!!! I would have flew off the handle. I've been able to compose myself so far, but that would be the end of it!

The last time my FI asked his mom to STFU, they didn't speak to us for months. I thought it was fantastic - he didn't so much! LOL

It's so nice to have other people to rant and rave to about my MIL. My FI told her about an hour ago NO WHITE DRESS.. absolutely NOT it is so innappropriate, so now she has asked if she can wear black. When I told my MOH about the white dress, her immediate response was "did it come with a matching veil?!" I told FI the other night that if he didnt deal with his mom, she would be the end of our relationship, because its just TOO much. We got this ridiculous message on our answering machine a while ago because my FI and I didnt visit on our days off (god forbid us have a life outside of her), anyways the message was along the lines of "I have no idea if my son even lives here, I would feel awfully silly calling the wrong number and leaving a message to someone else, where did my son go" blah blah.. it went on for about 5 minutes of that.

I wish she was joking about the twin thing too, but she wasn't. She is obsessed with FI and I have kids, it freaks me out. She says stuff like "your kids will NOT go to a babysitter, I will be taking care of them when you go back to work". (who's to say I'll go back to work?!". I'm so happy that I am not the only one going through MIL problems on here. Whenever I do the "disappearing act" they tell FI that I hate them.

My MIL is driving me crazy!!!! I don't even know where to start the list. FI and I have been together for 5 years and all of the MIL problems started when we got engaged 2.5 years ago. The night we got engaged we called the family/friends and his MIL was upset that she wasn't here to witness the engagement (no one was, it was just FI and I).. anyways she threw such a fit that I almost wanted to give the ring back. Now when I think back to the night I got engaged, I don't remember how it happened, how happy I was, all I remember is how upset I was!! A few months ago she told me to start eating sweet potato fries, so I can have a better chance of twins, that way there is one for FI and I, and one for her. All she ever does is talk about "grand kids" and its to the point where she is scaring me away from even wanting kids. FI and I joke about having to close all the blinds and lock the doors because she won't leave us alone. FI and I are getting legally married a month before going down to Cabo and initially we were going to go by ourselves to the court house, but since none of the Grandparents are physically able to make it to Cabo, we decided to do it in the backyard with Grandparents and Parents.. we made it very clear that no one else was invited. I even called my brother and his wife to explain the situation, because I didnt want any hard feelings. Well a couple of weeks ago MIL and FIL were over and MIL says that my FIs brother has decided hes going to come to the legal wedding instead of the Cabo wedding. Thank gosh FI lost it and said "he doesn't have that option - he's not invited" Here is the most recent issue and the one that put me over the edge to actually write this note. MIL bought a white dress to wear to our wedding. I'm at the point where I don't even know what to do anymore with her. There is always something new. My life is like that "monster in law" movie lol I don't know how to deal with her without making anything akward. FI says things when he is around and hears them, but for the most part MIL waits until he is out of the room to throw her little jabs out there. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to deal with MIL? Right now my strategy is to stay away from her. (they live in the same town as us by the way)

Good Morning!! One of the girls at work who ALWAYS brings in bad food for everything has finally decided she wants to eat good and exercise again, thank gosh! Now I have no real reason to be cheating on my diet because FI eats really healthy too!! Is anyone in here doing any specific exercise programs? I love turbo jam and the jackie warner videos!!