I am in the same situation. I posted a thread about my fustrations as well. It sucks that people have to be this way but as people have been telling me, this is all part of the wedding planning package. I just dont understand it, b/c my FI and I are the type people that would do whatever it takes to be at someones wedding, especially if its family. I keep focusing on what the other girls have been telling me, as long as the 2 of us are there thats all that matters.