I read your story and felt like it was me! I have a 22 year old brother who lives at home and drives a $40,000 car that my parents pay insurance and gas for, pay his cell phone bills and he likes to tell me how to live my life as well! So I know how you feel. We waivered a bit on the destination thing and half way through looked into having a wedding here and it was too much money. That's why we are going away as because that's what we want~ we never wanted a wedding here but looked into it because it would be easier for most people except us...so we are going away anyways. Just try and stay positive and upbeat about it and tell everyone you understand if they can't make it. We just found out my grandma can come now and that's been great! We went in expecting no one to come and it's a lot easier that way!