I feel your pain!! My husband's parents are very well off & offered to pay for NOTHING!! On the other hand, my mother, who is widowed with a teenage daughter, offered up $6000 to help with whatever she could. I just don't understand where this thinking came from that the groom's family pays for nothing. I finally had my then FI ask if they were going to help with the wedding in any way. After some pushing, they decided to pay for the AHR, but only if it could be on their terms, WTF?? So, in the end, we had to go with what THEY wanted for the AHR, b/c we were maxed out after paying for the remainder of the wedding/honeymoon. Agh, in-laws, (trust me they only get worse once you're married.) Good luck with those future in-laws girl