I to understand both the ups and downs. We wanted to go away but I wanted to have a party atmosphere with the people I care about. Infortunately not everyone felt the same. My family is a tight knit family so they are all going but none of FI's family will be going. One of his cousins is coming. I know this is hard for him because everybody who will be there is associated with me, but there is not m uch you can do. I am surprised by who is going, because it is people I never expected. And of course the people I thought would go (they love to travel) can't seem to make it. Out of 90 invites, 13 people will be attending. But regardless of who comes it will be great (so FI keeps telling me). There could always be surprises at the end, but enjoy the day with people who care enough to be there. Remember the people who were unable to comee due to circumstances beyond their control, and laugh at those who are missing out on the time of their lives. For me this is not a wedding day, but a wedding week! Sure your guests will have their own time, but there are going to be at least 3 or 4 days of stuff to do with the wedding. Welcome dinner, wedding, excursions, bachorette party, etc.