I agree with the others. If you search you will see a number of threads like this one. I agree that every bride on this site has felt like you do.
We are going to have 20 people plus us and our photographers at the wedding. At one point in time our estimate was near 50. Needless to say we have had a lot of people decide that they didn't want to come/couldn't afford it.
Everytime I started to second guess my decision to have a DW, I thought about planning a local wedding, and having to deal with a huge guest list and everyones opinions and impressions of what my wedding should be. And, I'm reminded that I'm doing what I want. Since no one is coming, no one really cares how I plan my wedding, so I'm having the wedding I really want.
We did decide to have an AHR. But, it is more of a semi-formal party. We are not doing any of the formalities. My opinion is my wedding and reception is in Jamaica, not here. Although my family has been getting on my last nerve becuase they keep calling it my wedding. However, if I did not have this celebration, I think I would regret it. But, it is a good reminder why I did not want to plan a local wedding.