~Stephanie~

Quote: Originally Posted by BachataBride I'm with you on #1 & #3 too!! I love my MIL too!! She is so sweet!! But I guess it helps that she lives in another province and I only see her once or twice a year!! My proposal was less than stellar. It was very impromptu...there wasn't even a ring!! My confession... I want a maternity ticker!!! I never thought I was going to be ready to have a baby this quick after our wedding!!! Well...a part of me is still not really ready, but there is another part of me that is dying to be pregnant!! Maybe that's way I love my FMIL! She lives in another state! She is very quirky, she makes me laugh. And although I am not married yet and I have kids from a previous marriage, FI and I have had the talks about if we will have any more kids. I really want another baby someday but my kids are getting older and it would be like starting over, so its a tough decision but we have decided that we will in a few years. As much as I want my freedom with future DH to do fun things, I can't imagine not having a baby with him! Confession for today... I ate a really large piece of birthday cake last night with lots of chocolate frosting... I feel very guilty today. I will not spend all day on here at work today like I did yesterday.

We got engaged October 2008 and are getting married June 2010- so not two years but longer than we would like. Its really about money, we are paying for everything ourselves, no help from the parents. Plus we know a lot of people we invited would not be able to go unless they had lots of time to save.

Quote: Originally Posted by Betsy So a little background, DH and I moved to a new town last September and I had to leave my job which I LOVED!! So we have 2 little ones and so now I stay home with our almost 2 year old and our other girl is in Kindergarten...... ANYWAYS it has been great fun staying home with our little guy but I miss having adult contact and my own little stash of money......so just by chance I was getting my eyes checked last week and they asked me to bring in my resume ( I have background in insurance/billing...that sort of thing) so I brought back my resume, had an interview on Friday and she called today and HIRED ME!!! It is just part-time which is actually perfect, 3-4 afternoons a week so I will still get to spend time with my baby and daughter!! It is perfect and I feel so blessed in this economy to be lucky enough to get a job! Thank God!! Just wanted to share the good news! I AM SO EXCITED Congrats! That is very awesome! What a perfect combination! I did in home daycare when I was pregnant with my second child due to a job lose and who is going to hire someone 8 months pregnant! So it allowed me to stay home with my new baby. First chance I got though I got a part time job, I was dying for adult contact!! lol. Where in Iowa are you? I think you are the only other Iowa person I have seen on here!!

Oh Veronica! I am just bursting with excitment for you! Wow, I can't even imagine! I have so long to wait and you are leaving tomorrow! OMG, I wish it was me! I have some many questions I wish I had answers! Good Luck, have fun, come back and share all your wisdom! You are going to be a Mrs.!

I like your favorite one and the one right before that with the colored ribbon under the chest... both very pretty! OHH you have me so excited! I wish it was time for me to dress shop!

Welcome jkesall and Tightywhitey!

YAY! So glad everything is ok!

My LONG list of confessions: 1. I am not happy with my FI proposal but I could never tell him. He said all the right things but it didn't take place anywhere really special, it didn't feel like he planned this great romantic thing that I had hoped for. 2. My FI's daughter is 13 and I tried so hard to make things work with her but she just isn't affectionate/friendly etc. I know its not just me, she is like that with everyone but I get so frusterated! To make it worse she is in the moody, mouthy teen stage where everything is about her and it causes a lot of stress in our house. Sometimes I wish she lived with her mom because it would be easier on our relationship but I could never tell my FI that. 3. I am probably one of the very few girls on here that likes my FMIL! That itself is a confession! lol. But as hard as I try with my FBIL, he just will not warm up to me and its been 2 1/2 years. My FI moved to another state to be with me and I don't know if he is resentful of that or not. He is never mean, just doesn't really talk to me. 4. My brother and it wife are supposed to come to my DW but after several years of marriage and NOT wanting children they drop the bomb on me that NOW they are going to start trying to have kids and so if she gets pregnant they can't come. I'm not trying to be selfish but WTF? You never wanted kids before and now you are going to use that as an excuse? It also bothers me that my SIL isn't very warm to me, but we do get along, just wish we were better friends. 5. My Ex-husband is Satan. There are many days that I would like to back over him with my car, repeatedly. We always agreed to get along for the kids and we did really well at that until he met his current FI. She seems to think that we are not supposed to get along and likes to be a thorn in my ass. She is constently trying pick apart my parenting and acts like she is a better mother than me even though she has no children. I just want to yell at her "go have your own babies and leave mine alone!"

Quote: Originally Posted by yoAzul Thanks Tracy and Mummergirl - its good to know Im not the only one with these horrible thoughts! Not that I want u guys to deal with it but always makes u feel better when you arent alone Mummergirl - i do the SAME thing...i always think someone is gonna get in a car accident - its BAD. Like last night FI and I realized we were out of coffee so FI says he will go out and pick some up and my FIRST thought is OMG dont what if you get in a car accident - like WTF! He ended up going and obviously nothing happened - but i feel like im going crazy! OMG! FI and I have the same thoughts about stuff. For example if I am driving home in bad weather or something he has thoughts that he will lose me, that something will happen and gets upset. I have been doing this in the last week because my son is getting his tonsils out this week and although both my kids have been under before, I can't help thinking something is wrong this time and I should be listening to myself. I feel so silly about it.

We didn't hear from you over the weekend, is everything ok, do you have any answers? I hope you are doing ok.

Quote: Originally Posted by ErinB That one sounds like a wedding straight off of CMT's My Big Fat Redneck Wedding! Has anyone seen that show! OMG! it's funny and sad all at the same time. It's also hard to tell who is really that into camo and who just wants to be on reality tv. OMG! My FI and I watch that show and laugh so hard! There was this one where they made a homemade port-o-potty with a hole in the ground, a chair with no seat and a fence! That show is our guility pleasure!

That's so fun! Exactly what I want to do before our trip to Mexico! Very cool that you go some pictures too!

I don't hide shows from my FI and I can actually get him to watch some of them! I got him hooked on Despreate Housewives (until the new season with the 5 year jump) and we go through streaches of watching HGTV but he gets sick of it after awhile. He hates the WE shows like Rich Bride Poor Bride, Bridezillas, etc. so he usually won't watch those with me or if he does he falls asleep. Luckily we both love House and CSI - so if all else we watch those. Neither of us is a reality TV fan, except for Rock of Love for me because Bret Michaels is who I should be marrying and FI knows that when he comes knocking on my door he has to give me up! lol. Seriously though, I have met Bret in person and been on his tour bus and OMG! So FI makes fun of me when I watch it but who cares!

Ok so one of my best friends recently got married (shotgun wedding) and although I do not want to say bad things I would be embarrassed to have the wedding she did. At her mother-in-law's double-wide! There was folding chairs set up for the ceremony in the front yard. The the guests had to help haul the folding chairs to the back yard for the reception that took place under some tarps propped up as tents. With folding chairs, mis-matched tables. 2-liter bottles, pot-luck food, no photographer, no decorations. They put down plywood as a dance floor over the muddy grass and one of the groom's brothers played "DJ". There was no dress code, flip flops, tank tops, even some camo! The part that bothered me the most was the kids toys, car parts and other misc crap that was left in the yard! Why not clean it up for the wedding? no clue! Then if it couldn't get any better, these folks decided to get up and sing and even though they were terrible, everyone else seemed to think they were great! I about died.

Go to dafont.com they have some vegas fonts that you are looking for as well as I ton of other fun ones!

Quote: Originally Posted by love2cul8r Hi Scarletina, I also made my own planner and here are my tabs (not in any particular order): 1. dress (bride/bridesmaids) / accessories 2. decorations / color combos 3. food / cake 4. photography / videography 5. venue info - ceremony/reception 6. calendar / checklist 7. destination information (mailings/print-outs/contacts) 8. a pocket to keep track of receipts For a simple countdown calendar, I just tore one out from one of the bridal magazines to keep me up on what things should be done and checked off every month. I feel that a DIY planner should be whatever you want to put into it. If anything catches your eye in a magazine, tear it out and put it in there - it's really your idea book. =) It's something to show your wedding coordinator, your family, or your bridesmaids, or your vendors to give them a sense of what you want your wedding to be like! Good luck and have fun with it! I also did my own and it is similar to this.. I have a 3 ring binder with tabbed dividers labeled: 1. Budget 2. Checklists 3. Travel Info (airfare, resort info, contact info) 4. Contracts/deposits 5. Wedding Package details 6. Photographer 7. Videographer 8. Music 9. Ceremony details 10. Reception details (including dinner menus) 11. Flowers 12. Cake 13. Decorations 14. Dresses/Suits/Attire 15. Invitations 16. Extras Some pocket folders where needed as well. I looked for a premade planner too and didn't find any that really covered what I wanted or were specific to a DW. Hope this helps!

I like the shell on #2 but overall #1 is better.

Wow, those are really pretty! Very elegant and fun!

Very cute! Love how no one else has anything like it! It's so fun!

YAY! me too me too! Welcome and good luck with your planning!

I'm sure this is not your situation but I am asking my brother to walk me down the aisle because my dad likely won't be coming and my dad and I are not close anyways. Not the tradition but DW aren't supposed to be. Maybe he could walk you down with your dad? Maybe you can also designate a "special" dance with just him and you like the father/daughter dance does or the mother/son dance. It would be really special to me to have a dance with my brother.

I have no clue what songs I will be selecting yet but I like the idea of Beautiful Day by U2 for the recessional song. Its upbeat and fun. I also like the idea of doing something funnier like I feel good by James Brown or Celebration by Kool and the Gang.

I'm sorry you are having such a terrible time with your mom. I had a falling out with my dad when I graduated high school. My dad is a serial husband, he can't seem to be alone but the relationships never worked out and he dragged me though many relationships in my teen years. He recognized this finally and told me not to let him do it again. Then he met his current wife and I knew that she was wrong for him but I didn't say anything. It wasn't until she started a argument with me calling me horrible names that I told my dad what I thought and that if he couldn't stand up for me and tell her to stop that it was her or me. I am his only child and he chose her. I moved on and got married and had two children and didn't talk to him or see him for 5 years. Our family pushed for us to reconnect but we are both stuborn. When I was getting close to having my second child I decided that it was time to try and fix it because it wasn't fair to my children. We began talking but have never "talked" about what happened. He is still with her. I was right about her though, she took him away from my family and he never sees them and they all hate her for that. We have a very "distant" relationship now. He sees us a couple times a year and we talk on the phone occationally. I don't know if he will come to my wedding. I know he wants to but she doesn't. I know there are a lot of things he would do but isn't allowed to. My mom and I have been close for a long time, we hardly ever fight. But she has never had an active roll in my children's lives, she is a holiday grandma or should I say "nana" because she felt too young to be a grandma. She never watches my children not even for a couple hours, she doesn't call them or spend time with them but yet they love her to pieces whenever they see her. My ex-husband and I use to fight all the time about her (he hated her) and even though I was angry with her, she was still my mom, so we fought because he didn't understand. Well yesterday was my youngest child's birthday. He turned 6. And my ex's mom managed to call him but mine didn't, not even a card. So I sent her a message "reminding" her it was his birthday. She called feeling terrible but it was too late, after 8 years of build-up I very directly told her how I felt about her absence in my children's lives. She was crying blaming it on her health, and I felt bad, but at the same time relieved. I know nothing will change, she has always been selfish. But what am I going to do, she is my mom. I didn't mean to ramble on like that, my point was going to be that we all have issues with our parents and I hope you find solutions to yours. I know its especially difficult during this time of our lives with planning a wedding because we want them there and we want everything with them to be perfect or the way it was when we were younger or whatever... Good luck and I hope you can work things out. We are hear when you need to vent.

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Thanks, she is on my short list for photographers. Just having a hard time chosing one. Please post your pictures when you get them, it has been difficult trying to find more of her work! Congrats on your wedding!