Welcome to the forum. I am sorry that you are having a tough time deciding what to do. I know you want ALL of your friends at your beautiful beach wedding, but maybe you could go ahead and plan the dream wedding that you want and them simply have a small party when you return home for the friends who could not make it. Maybe wih just a cake and desserts?? Don't give up on what you really want in your heart It is fabulous in the Caribbean, trust me and you will remember it for your lifetime.