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Quote: Originally Posted by Kristy! You mentioned that you received one gift and that was from his parents. I'm assuming that means you did not receive one from her. Are you sure you want to give her something then? I've never given engagement gifts, but my best friend (who got engaged one month before me) gave me a wedding planning kit she put together. It was so thoughful, but I still feel like a jerk for her getting something for me when I didn't get anything for her. Just a thought. To me it's not really about who got who what. I'm just really, truly happy for them and want to get her something to congratulate her and make her feel even more excited about starting their life together. I guess technically the keepsake box we got was from the whole family. I don't really know who paid for it. I don't mind giving, even if the sentiment isn't going to be returned. PLUS she's making the trip to our wedding and has bought a dress to be a bridesmaid so I feel like she's spent enough on us.

Thanks guys! At least you all are making me feel better. He's always got to be right and the best and the authority on everything. Most of the time I just humor him but this made me really mad. And I didn't even ASK for advice! I contacted him to just let him know what happened - instead of keeping it a secret or just brushing it off. It's just ridiculous to think i'm going to do everything he says all the time (like he even does half of what I tell him to). As long as he keeps his mouth shut, i'm over it.

He says it's not the first time i've ignored him. It's probably not - but seriously, i'm not going to do EVERYTHING he says immediately when he says it. It doesn't mean I don't respect him - it just means I don't work for him! Haha. I just think I should be able to make my own decisions without having him jump down my throat. It wasn't like I did it to make him angry - I just didn't think it was the right choice to call the cops. So apparently the real issue is that I don't listen to him and do everything like he says.

Quote: Originally Posted by Lady_Di please, girl it's not 1950s anymore! you made the best decision when you were there...not him. He has to get over it. Don't let him to make you feel bad AND make you to pay for it with your birthday money. PLEASE! Yeah, no worries. I told him that i'm sorry it ended up like it did (cause I am) but that he can't take it out on me when there's nothing I can do about it now! I also don't think he finds it bad enough to even fix! We've got another spot on the car where the paint cracked and its rusting underneath (makes me angry since the car is ONE year old!) and he's in no hurry to fix THAT so why should I pay for something that's not as bad?!

All he keeps saying is that he's not mad over the ding - he's mad over the fact that I ignored him. Basically, he's pissed that I didn't stroke his ego and say "ok dear, whatever you want - you're always right and know everything". GRR!

Quote: Originally Posted by Jacilynda WOW! I'm not really sure what to say. I can't believe how big of an issue this has become. BIL is a cop and if this had happened in a parking lot here a cop would just come over make each of you sign a form w/ your insurance info and each one of you get a copy and you deal w/ it from there. Although since we're friends w/ most of the cops in town they would laugh at anyone who even thought of filing a report for someone hitting your car w/ their door..... I mean seriously have you never flung open your own door and hit another car. I have several times, and I didn't do it on purpose i accidentally just pushed to hard. I also don't leave them my info saying hey sorry I hit your car when I opened my door..... who does that? They make touch up paint for a reason. You can go into any automotive store they have small bottles of paint for every make and model to match exactly... like $5 a bottle. Tell your FI to take a midol, take a bath and go to bed. yeah - my issue was that I was RIGHT THERE when she did it and she acted like it never happened. Just say - hey, sorry can I give you some money to cover getting it fixed. Cause yeah, i've done it too (honestly, never as hard as she did though). But she couldn't even admit she did it or offer some cash! He says he doesn't even care about the ding - it's the fact that I don't "respect" him by doing what he tells me to. (since he has more experience than me apparently)

Forget what I said - he's still pissed, i'm still getting chewed out. He thinks I don't respect him and that I didn't call the police ON PURPOSE - to make him mad. What the hell? THIS is why I don't listen to him sometimes - he gets SO dramatic and overreacts! I don't really see how a dent and some missing paint is worth a night of tears and yelling! He's so stubborn!!!! GRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!!!

Yeah, I can definitely take things out on him too. So I understand. And in hindsight - I should have just called the cops. But i'm with you all - I thought getting information was enough and that they wouldn't have done anything anyway. I thought I was doing the right thing and i'm getting screwed at every angle. It's not like I ignored him on purpose or to make him mad - I just thought it was going to be ok On a side note - I talked to his mom. Apparently he called her on his way home from work. She agrees he was being totally ridiculous and was checking on me to see if I was ok. She told me that I had 30 minutes to fix a nice dinner or put a nightie on before he got home. Haha. I LOVE her! I think she calmed him down a bit - she always can! And yes- in the whole scheme of things, it's not that big of a deal! We DID just buy the car new a year ago but it's not the first ding so whatever... Thanks guys!

I need to vent. This afternoon I went to fedex to pick up a box FOR MY FIANCE. When I got in my car I noticed I had a text from a friend. So while I sat in my car, I replied. As I'm replying, the lady parked next to me SLAMS her car door open into mine. I text my fiance, telling him what happened. I then get out, take pictures with my phone and text him her plate number (I didn't have a pen anywhere one me). She comes out and tell her that I was sitting in my car when she opened her door into mine and that she left two marks - taking paint off with one of them. I told her that I was going to need her information. She acts like she didn't know she did it (it was hard enough to take paint off for crying out loud! How do you not notice?!). She gives me her name, phone number, mailing address and says she won't give me her DL# or insurance policy number. My fiance said to call the cops if she wouldn't give me any info. I told her I would have to call the cops then. So she gives me her business card with email and says that'll be enough information, that she already emailed her insurance company (from her phone). I told her AGAIN that I needed the information but she refused. At this point she finds a camera in her car and gets out to take her own pictures. I now have a picture OF HER TAKING PICTURES. I decided not to call the cops right there because I thought I had enough info, thought she would cooperate, understand not wanting to give out personal info these days, and really didn't need to stay away from work for longer (a job I just started last Tuesday because of a relocation due to FIANCE'S JOB). I give my fiance all the info and he starts contacting the insurance company. He seems to think we won't get anywhere because i didn't get her policy number. THEN he starts riding MY ass for not calling the cops immediately. He's giving me crap, making me feel even worse - talking about how I ignored him and it's my fault. I called her back and she again refuses to give me info. Said that if I EMAILED her OUR insurance info, that she would send hers. She never ONCE mentioned anything about getting our information (other than wanting contact phone numbers). SO my fiance sends me the number for the police department and tells me to call them and file a report. I call them and they won't talk to me unless i'm at the scene of the incident. I go back over there, call for a cop. Then when he comes and I tell him the story - he starts getting on ME about how he could charge me with fleeing the scene of an accident if she won't cooperate and come back to the scene. He claims that we made an "agreement" when we both left (who the hell decides WHAT we agreed just by leaving). The cop calls her. She gives him her info and claims there's no damage on her vehicle. So he tells me that he's writing the report indicating that we both left but is NOT charging us since she's willing to talk to him. He takes all my info as well and says that's he's going to go see her car (SHE apparently doesn't have to come back to the scene to talk to a cop). Then he gives me the "call us immediately no matter what" talk - says they don't mind and informs me that insurance will probably drop the claim because we both left and that it'll end up in court. And then the cop tells me that she works for a lawyer "a BIG, GOOD one" so it doesn't look good for us. He basically implies that it's something so small that we should just ignore it. Of course i'm in tears the whole time he's talking to me. Again, fiance is all over my ass about "not listening" to him and calling the cops immediately. Then has the maturity to tell me that I have to pay to have it fixed with my "birthday money". My birthday was Sunday - HAPPY FUCKING BIRTHDAY TO ME. I'm so upset right now. I've lost all faith in humanity and the justice system. Ok, I should have called the cops right there. It's not that big and its really only paint - not a dent or crease. I THOUGHT I was being nice by not calling the cops on her right there - seeing as I THOUGHT she would cooperate. She didn't even offer me cash to just go away! AND THEN I've got my fiance making me feel even worse - acting like it's my fault and taking all his anger out on me when I DIDN'T DO IT! The person who's fault it was is going to get off - not have to pay to have it fixed. I've got a scratch/missing paint on my car now that i'll have to pay to fix when it wasn't even my fault AND a fiance who's being a DICK. Ok, thanks for letting me vent. Sorry about the language.

Quote: Originally Posted by saltocoach Honestly...they're not so bad! My problem is the lace on my dress and the detailing on the toes do not like eachother. I'll make it work though because they look great together. I don't need to hear that. Scratch that - I don't think my fiance wants me to hear that! Haha! hmm.....

Quote: Originally Posted by saltocoach Here are my shoes!!! I have the best friends in the world. AHHHH!!! OMG! I would kill for those. But i'd probably also kill myself walking in them. I'm very VERY jealous.

I remember doing this for my cousins wedding back in the 90's. It seems sorta lame now but I can't find a pair of shoes that are exactly what I want for the reception! Like every other girl probably, I want the Manolo Blahniks Something Blue Shoes. But the prices (and heel height!) really doesn't make that practical. I really want a sexy kitten heel pump in a deep blue - with maybe some rhinestone accents/design across the toe. Am I asking too much?!?! Anybody had any luck with getting shoes dyed? Maybe it's not a "kitten" heel but something like this Dyeables - Product Detail in a deep sapphire color. Help?

That is the best story EVER!

So my fiance's family called over the weekend and his sister told me her boyfriend proposed!!! I'm so flipping happy for them and so excited that we get to share in the wedding planning together (even more now than before)! But....I'm wondering if you all received engagement gifts and what the best gift was? We only got one - it was from my fiance's parents/family and was a beautiful wood keepsake box with our names on a silver name plate. I LOVE it and I'll need to talk to his mom to see if they're doing something similar for his sister. If they aren't - I'd love to do something like this. If not, I don't have many other ideas. Maybe an engraved picture frame with their names and engagement date on it? I can pull a picture taken right after from the internet and put in it. Any other ideas?

Thanks for the link to the pashminas! What an awesome website!

#2 #2 #2!!!! Where is it from?

Quote: Originally Posted by PetitRouge I had myself convinced that i did not want a veil. I thought that since we were doing the destination wedding thing, that it would be more relaxed and i view a veil as being very traditional. When i first tried my dress on i thought it looked great without one. Then my mom convinced me to just try it, and I actually ended up loving it. It just added that finishing touch for me. So i ended up getting one, but i told my mom if it starts blowing around everywhere during the ceremony, for her to get ready to catch it, b.c it will be tossed in her direction if it gets annoying. So i guess you never know until you try it. My veil has a beaded comb, going to have it set lower down on my head not right on top. It falls to about my elbow and is double tiered. It should be nice but i am still anxious to get it to start practicing potential hairstyles to see if I still want to wear it Haha yeah. I felt the same way initially - was just going to do a flower or pretty comb or something. But then I got convinced that I would miss one - it kinda just completes the look. Though I don't want a big bulky, long one. Or to have it over my face...

Is there a thread for veils? I think I want a one tiered elbow length veil with some rhinestones on it. I REALLY want to buy it now because good deals can be found on ebay BUT I don't even have my dress!! I'm sure there will still be deal after I get my dress. What is everybody else doing? Veil? No veil? What kind? Thanks!

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Thanks for all the info. I guess I have a couple basic questions (since I haven't heard back from the wedding coordinator). Do you know if they will allow us to write our own ceremony script? What if it's half an hour? I thought I read somewhere that the new beach chapel has a webcam but I can't find that info anywhere now. Does that sound right? If I reserved the beach can I change locations once I get there? If I made a wedding reservation online but we won't need it to be legal, do I need to notify them and change it to a renewal (we don't want our families knowing we did it earlier)? Do they offer group dinner in one of the restaurants? Will they charge us again for off property guests for dinner? So, I realize we already booked the place and BEFORE would have been the time to ask these questions. I'm mostly curious - isn't going to ruin the wedding if things don't work out differently. Even just one of these questions answered would be great. Thanks!

I love the Justin Alexander dress best. But it really is all about how YOU feel in the dress. Both are gorgeous. Good luck!

Quote: Originally Posted by bosi My parents insist on singing two hymns during the ceremony So I plan on making thempopular ones and to ask a steel band to accompany the hymns. Hahaha that's awesome! I want more than just three songs but I don't know how to fit anymore in without it being an awkward - "ok let's sit and listen to this song" - kind of thing. I figured one could start while we do the sand ceremony but that won't take up a whole song.... PS- is there a different thread for music during the ceremony?

Ahh!! I want to use it all!! So lovely! On a side note...is anybody having music during the ceremony? Beside the processional and recessional?

I love the hourglass shape #1 gives you!! But I think #3 would also be gorgeous with a sweetheart top. #2 is a beautiful dress too but it like it least of all 3. Good luck - what a hard decision!

Quote: Originally Posted by slapsappyhappy the problem I am having is that I have 8 bridesmaids and 2 jr bridesmaids, and it says that the bouquets at the resort are $120 each!!!!!!! WHAT? I should have thought about this before having this many bridesmaids!!! oh well it is too late for that now but I think it will be cheaper to get silk here are home and have each one be responsible for bringing it down with them. I really love fresh flowers though... If I get them silk can I still get real for my bouquet? mine is free with the package, but I am just wondering how I can get it to match and not look weird if theirs are fake and mine are real... what do you think? I don't think yours needs to match theirs necessarily. If you make theirs with tropical flowers in your colors it should look fine. Yours will be a bit different but that's ok since you're the bride. Good luck and be happy you got that many people to be willing to go! I'm on my second maid of honor and am still skeptical that i'll even have one come wedding day.