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I can't remember if when we first started planning we siad we were not going to have a bridal party or our first conversation consisted of him and 10 of his friends and I was opposed to that idea. Anyway we have been back and forth about having a bridal party or not. About a month or so ago we discussed it again and at the end of the conversation it was we're not having one. Yesterday I asked could I at least have my sisterand I never wanted more than 3, 4 at the most. We have been going back and forth all yesterday and today about it and he is now being very very adamant about not having anyone in the wedding but us. This is what he said: It's about us and nobody needs to share in that moment but us, you can't share everything with your sister, you want somethings for your sister that are not for her and that maybe she doesn't even want, I don't want anyone else to walk down the aisle, I don't wan't to look over your shoulder and see anyone, what will we have that is sacred for just us other than the ceremony because it's more important than the honeymoon. WTH!!! Where did all that come from and I neede to justify why I want her in the ceremony. Now I do agree with some of those things and was willing to compromise like have her sit during the ceremony or even enter from the side but he is acting like it's either me or her. Now IMHO I think it's something other than what he is saying like he doesn't want to choose between all his friends or did him and my sister have a conversation that left a bad taste in his mouth or what. As far as I know they have always gotten along and no bad vibes were between them. Now I don't know what the heck is going on and it is pissing me off that he is acting so adamant about it. I think my sister wants to be in it and she will probably get on my nerves some but I love her the same regardless so I want her to be in it. I also thinks she has been even dealing with the fact that she is loosing me to a certain degree and that I'm her little sister but that still doesn't change how I feel about her being in the ceremony. I feel like he is really trying to make or prove a point and this is not the time or way to go about doing that. I had a friend that just lost her sister, which I can't imagine and then think about not letting my sister be a part of this special day in my ceremony and it means a lot to both of us, that hurts. I know she would understand if I told her we decided not to have a bridal party but how would she really feel inside and how am I going to feel that day about not going with something I wanted. I now me and FI decisions are priority and it is ALL about us but what is this really about is he out of line or what.

I hope things get better for your situation. FI and my sister get along as far as I know but now he is saying he doesn't want a brida party and that my sister does not need to be in it. He saying it is all about us which I agree but me and my sister are close and I would like for her to have a special part in our ceremony.

WOW! FI doen't want a bridal party and I kinda can compromise and just have my sister but he doesn't even want that and I think he is being unfair. I also think there is an underlying reason whay he doesn't even want her in it and he just isn't saying and I'm really having mixed feelings about the whole bridal party thing right now.

Yes I did get a dress from ROB and I like it but I'm an options person so I am still weighing my options, LOL! I am going to look at dresses today as a matter of fact. I am also waiting for a Maggie Sottero (Melanie) to come in to this shop in Laurel to try on. When I try that on if I like it that's the one and I will just have to sell my other dress. Prettyhazardous - Thanks for the info. I don't plan on doing mine till Feb or March next year. I will keep them in mind along with Tait photography. Capeach31 - I also think it depends because some dresses take about 4 months just to arrive and then you may need alterations. According to the timeline charts they say by October you should order your dress, I'm getting married in May too. I think for now you should start looking and trying on dresses then find out how long the dresses you like would take to come in so you have an idea of what time frame your working with as far as ordering. If Dec. will give you enough time you can just take your mom back to show her the dresses you liked the most. We still have to plan a an outing for us to all meet. HAPPY PLANNING TO YOU ALL!!!

WOW! Ladies I hope you find a good replacement. They have another assistant that is supposed to be good maybe you guys want to check him out.

Thanks! I'm sending the link to FI just to see what he says. He has been a loser mostly, causing us to argue. I will give him credit for this week getting the word out to his friends so that they could book their rooms.

gbyrd - Misha's work is great I was going to use her but I couldn't get in contact with her and then we we're offered a prize from the photography contest Nora Bohanan gave. My choice was between her and possibly bringing someone from home. Christy335 - I'm with you no cake for me, well maybe a very small one. I sent pictures of the cupcake set up I want and was quoted a price. I would much rather have cup cakes and of all people, I think I should get what I want, LOL. I like your idea and people either with have some and enjoy it or they can pass. If you are offering other options then I'm sure they will find something they like. Hopefully by Friday I will have the entire MDC booked with my guest and then we will see what happens between now and May. I am going to need some other rooms and I found a few options but I wish I knew how close they really are. I couldn't find a map that MDC is on to really be able to figure it out. I hope it's only a few people too because then they/we will have to worry about transportation.

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I would probably be honest in the bast way I could. I would tell them how his own family felt about being ignored at their wedding and that you don't want the drama at your wedding. I would explain the potential possibilty of that happeneing and hopefully he gets it. I agree it is rude that they asked anyway, did you already explain something to your guest about people inviting others?

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Quote: Originally Posted by chickadee024 Most places do accept the American dollar, but it's good to have some Jamaican money, just in case. We needed it when we stopped at a roadside stand on our way to Treasure Beach, on the south coast of Jamaica. Plus, it's a good idea to know the conversion rate in case you are quoted a price in Jamaican dollars. I used this website Negril.com - Negril Jamaica when planning my wedding because they gave the daily exchange rate at the Hi-Lo grocery store in Negril. It came in pretty handy, imo. Thanks, the pocket guide they have is kinda what I'm looking for even though it changes daily they would be able to get an idea so they won't get ripped off in any way.

Sorry you are having issues with FMIL. I agree with Alkoch, she may be going through realizing that shortly her son is going to be married and another woman will come before her. Me and my sister are very close but she has been distant with me lately and I think it's the reality that things are going to change some what between us. Most of the time people are reluctant to change and fearful because they don't know what to expect. I would just give her some space and time to let her deal with it and see if that helps. Good job on knowing when to choose your battles. Good Luck!!!

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A2Bride - you read my mind they have them in the sunday paper also!

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Sure Debra!!! msmoodyr - If I go at 10 I'm sure I'll still be there at 12.

I know they accept the american dollar but my friend just went a week ago and she ran into a few people trying to get over on her because of the difference. She caught on to the fact they miscalculated and corrected them and it was taken care of. She also mentioned how some people kept trying to give her Jamaican money for change and she didn't want it. So in case someone is not good at calculating quickly I was trying to offer some help to those folks cause I don't want then getting the wrong change back or somebody getting over on them. Again I don't remember running into a problem when I was there and I SUCK at math.

I can't remember having an issue with the conversion rates when I previously went to Jamaica but I don't want my guest to be suprised so has anyone had any issue so that I can give them a heads up. Is there like a conversion chart I can provide them with or how are you addressing it, if at all?

I may be interested and I'm not far from you so keep me posted please, thanks!

I would be worried about my hair breaking off esp. if your stylist is not recommending it, but if you must you should have plan B in case it does break off. Good Luck!

OK, who's going on Friday to ROB at Mazzia Gallerie! From my experience going to the one in Rockville I do not plan to arrive early and deal with the drama. I am leaning towards arriving around 10. If anyone is interested in meetig there or going to lunch after leaving I'm down, there are several good locations to eat at.

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