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coconoir1908 that is a good attitude and I plan to introduce my step children as mine as well, I'll deal with any questions that may arise given I'm not that much older than his oldest 2. I myself can relate since my parents divorced when I was 8, my dad got remarried when I was 15. I don't have a relationship with my father's wife, whole nother story. I am respectful to her and I've finally gotten to a point where I don't even worry about their relationship I just pray. Since I feel how I do about my father's wife and that situation I try my best not to have FI kids look at me or carry things with me the same as I experienced. I've had my days but as I stated I'm looking at it now as I've done the hard part.

Ok so I top you all FI has 4 kids 17, 15, 13, and 6. Thank God they all have the same mother so it's only one woman I have to deal with. When we met the youngest was on the way so I've been in their lives for 7 years now and to be honest the hard part is over cause 2 are almost grown now. I'm still undecided if I want my own kids but maybe we will have one just for our union. I'm 32 so it will be sooner than later for me as well, FI is 37, late teen parent too. I have had to do some growing up as well as him and the kids but as I stated the hard part is over. In my growing up I have learned to deal with things in a better manner so some things that use to bother me don't anymore or just aren't important. I have a few friends who are step-moms so that helps some too, I'm all ears for anyone needing to vent cause having some support is very helpful.

Hello All!!! I am back for information and inspiration. I called my wedding off a little ove a year ago but plans are back on and we just want to do it. I want to either 3/31/11 or 4/1/11 but can't decide. It will just be the 2 of us this time because we just want to do it and get it over with already, we're going on 7 years of being together. Either date would work for us and we are even open to any location this time since it's just us 2. He really wants to go to St. Kitts so I'm getting infor on there first to see if it's possible with such short notice but again we are open to locations. Any advice/suggestion welcome.

Aaaawwww how cute! My friend was called SMAW for a while, I guess I fall in this category. I can identify with having no children and not sure if I want my own. I will be gaining 4 kids and ready for the challenge!

Thank you JanineA, I will check them out!

Hello, Can any of you recommend a good bakery in south beach miami for cup cakes. I have a friend having her bachlorette weekend there and we need cup cakes. Thanks and happy planning!

Hello All! Just dropping in, well actually looking for a bakery in South Beach Florida for my friend's Bachlorette Party. Anyway welcome to those who have found us, congrats to those recently married, and happy planning to the rest of you guys!!!! Hello Imuze...How are you, big day is a month away YAY!!!

Hello All, Dreamstar224 you are not alone I called my wedding off back in October so I haven't posted in a long time. Our wedding was supposed to be 5/15/10 and we still went from the 5/14-5/18, I wasn't sure how I was going to feel that day and how being at the property would make me feel but I was fine. After cancelling all but 2 rooms we made a last minute decision to go cause a friend was celebrating his birthday and I'm so glad we went. Although we called our weding off we still had a wonderful time. As many have said everything happens for a reason, the situation will pass just as time does. To all the other ladies I would say that eventhough I stopped planning my wedding long time ago I'm almost sure that the staff will do any and all they can to accomodate you for your wedding and during your stay. We had a wonderful vacation and I know for a fact if we still had our wedding it would have been beautiful and they would have been just as great if not better. Richard and Ryan were so pleased to help us with anything we asked for during our stay. The property is sooooo beautiful and the food was pretty good. I really don't have any complaints about the property or the staff. HAPPY PLANNING LANDIES AND CONGRATS TO THE REST OF YOU!!!

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Thanks, I added a poll. Maybe I should have put that in the poll, cost for guest, that's a good thing to consider.

Thanks, I added a poll. Maybe I should have put that in the poll, cost for guest, that's a good thing to consider.

For those who have picked a location, I'm curios what was your #1 reason you picked that location.

I just did a private party with Tait Boudoir and Erica is GOOD, ladies jump on it if she's coming to your area!

Hello All, I just wanted to put it out there that Erica at Tait Boudoir Photography is sooooo GOOD. Although, I am not getting married anymore I had already planned a private party for me and my friends and I had it Sunday. We had major fun and Erica was so good and helpful. We were already pretty comfortable because mostly everybody knew each other but she also helped us. She knew all the poses and ways to get good shots. I would recommend her to anyone. If she is gonna be in your area or you can get to her I believe she is worth it. Her work online looks good if you want to start there but she also bought books with her for us to look at and she does hella good work. I can't wait for my pics to get back cause I just know they're gonna be NICE and SEXY! Just in case anyone is looking for boudoir photography.......my suggestion!

If anyone is interested I have 40 decks of playing cards from Michael's for $30 I am offering them to you ladies first to avoid having to worry about shipping. So if anyone is interested PM me and I will get back to you so we can figure out the exchange. After the holidays I will just place put them in the FS section, so let me know! Happy Holidays!!!

Neha - Everything looked beautiful, CONGRATULATIONS!

I vote for #2

THANK YOU ALL FOR YOUR SUPPORT!!!

I honestly understand being confused about getting married because you were lied to, I called my wedding off a month ago, but you have to really think about things rationally. Right now you may still be upset and very emotional about the situation and that's totally understandable. Have you all went to counseling together or individually? I see you stated that the gambling was an issue before. It may be worth a try before just calling things off. You have to forgive him for what he did and for your own sanity and counseling may help you do that as well as get you guys back on track. I wish you guys the best of luck.

Ladies I wish you all the best with MDC! My wedding plans are off it's posted here http://bestdestinationwedding.com/fo...ml#post1045597 I'm sure you all will have lovely weddings!!!

Thank you all for letting me vent! I appreciatie your prayers, advice, support, encouragement, and just for you posting. Some of you were able to read between the lines and see that I already knew what needed to be done and that I needed to walk away from this situation. We discussed things and agreed to call the wedding off. I do want to say in my defense that the one time when I was unfaithful was years ago and prior to us being engaged and that doesn't make it better it only states that I was not in a marriage mindset. We both clearly see tht marriage right now is not for us and even explored the idea that we may not be the two people for each other eventhough we do absolutely LOVE each other. We agree that we need to do some more growing and soul searching before getting married, so thank you all again! Happy planning and living to you ALL!!!

Initially I had no idea or plans for our relationship to go the route it did but it did and this past year has been such a roller coaster and I'm so nauseated and sick I don't know what may happen if I don't get off..... Let me take you back to 5 years ago when we met through a mutual friend and she told me his history and I was like ok and still befriended him. My intentions were to just be friends and have a good time given his history. His history at the time was he had just came out of a rocky 10 year on and off relationship 4 months prior that 3 children were born to and she was about 4/5 months pregnant. I was one to never get into a serious relationship with men that had children because of all the drama, that quickly changed. I proceeded cautiously due to the fact he had a baby on the way and I didn't know how he was going to act once the child was born. That had no affect on our relationship on his behalf but of course it was a major issuer with the ex, which was understandable to a certain degree. So things between us were almost great his family loved me from day one. Christmas 2005 he had all the kids and that may have been the 3rd time since birth he had the baby. Ex comes over to his parents house causes a big blow up because she wanted her baby and did not want the baby around me, baby at the time 10/11 months. So it caused some major suspicion by everyone as to why she was acting that way with him. So since then she has not let him have a relationship with the child he sees the child when he goes to the house to pick up the other kids or events for the other kids and the kid has been over his mom's house a few times with the other kids. So we have had discussions about him taking a paternity test, not by my suggestion, and he was all for it and his parents even think he should have all the kids tested. One other point is that he acts so passive to his Ex and it is such a turn off to me it's like one of those situations because they have kids she can pull strings. My issue with that is I came from a broken home my parents divorced when I was 8 and I know how arrangements can be made and you still have a good relationship with your parents. So this past year....I have changed our original date because I caught him with a girl at his house. I have not always been as faithful as I should have and I forgave him with the understanding that it never happens again. We joined church and started counseling. Counseling was good but I'm not positive how receptive he was to it. The next thing was he was deceitful about a court date for child support and did not tell me until the situation escalated to a legal matter. I had been encouraging him to get things handeled in court for years since they couldn't handle things amongst themselves. Last but not least he went to court and did not take the paternity test for the youngest child after we agreeded he would and talked about it in great detail and he has to pay child support for him. Now he claims he is still going to do it but WHEN.....? My issue is I don't want to be resentful to the child because in the back of my mind were not sure he is his child because the child does not deserve that. However adding another child to the relationship is def a factor in our future and I feel I have a right to know up front. So I just want to call it quits now! I think I have done all I can, I have been patient, understanding, supportive, and helpful in every way I can. I have prayed, prayed, and prayed, and prayed some more. I guess now I just want to make sure I'm making the right decision by leaving. We did have a small 3 month break up 2 1/2 years ago and I thought then I had decided his goods outweighed the bad and I really wanted us to be together. Now it seems like the good vs. bad is equal or the bad is outweighing the good. I just needed to VENT and I don't even want to keep being on the trip dow the aisle this way. Thanks for letting me vent sorry for the length and thanks for listening.

Sorry this is happening, you would think people would let you have one day for a few hours at least. I would def have friends, family, and WC or staff just keep her away from me. It's so uncalled for and it's pointless that she's coming if she feels the need to be so negative. I hope things work out, good luck!