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Sorry your having trouble but while your waiting on a response I would just respond to any thread that you have some input for even to the new brides. I can't give much more help than that because I don't know the vendor rules.

It's always better to be safe than sorry and taking in certain considerations it may be really worht it. I am considering purchasing a wedding policymyself, thanks for the info.

Good question, I'm planning to go and try this dress on. I am thinking about getting my hair cut and it will be shorter in the back and wouldn't take away from the dress. If your hair is long I would wear it up. If you have the dress try it with a few different looks. If you still have fittings to do wear your hair to the fittings the way you may want to wear it so you can get an idea that way.

Not sure exactly if $1000 will be enough. I am pricing the same idea for our engagement party and I'm up to $3500, so good luck!

Quote: Originally Posted by Jennifer Davis I would speak to your MIL, with your FI there and explain where you are coming from, before I would even consider apologizing. Since there has been some time passed, it may be easier to have a covil conversation to explain your feelings and why your MIL was wrong (she was wrong - no doubt). I would plan my thoughts ahead of time, maybe jot some things down in case you get upset, you will not lose your train of though. Explain to her that you felt that her words were completely out of line, rude and hurtful. If she then realizes her mistake and apologizes, then I would apologize for making a scene and possibly over-reacting (I wasn't there to witness what happened but I do know people have a strong tendency to over-react when upset - I am the Queen of this if its any consolation to you). If your MIL does not see the error of her ways and apologize at least she will understand, as will your fiance, why you are angry with her and she will understand your position. You both may just agree to disagree on this issue. However, your MIL isn't going anywhere, no matter how much you may want her to, and if you guys do not find a way to at least pleasantly cope with one another, it is going to make both of your lives miserable. I really don't think you want that. Good luck! So sorry this happened to you people sometimes just don't know what to say, regardless of freedom of speech. My future step-son said to my niece a few weeks my dress will probably be ugly and she told me. I laughed when she told me because he is such a girl, LOL! I would talk to her and take the high road, your FI will appreciate it and understand in the future why you have ill feelings towards her. If in the conversation you feel like apologizing for your behavior and being out of character then I would. We can only hope she will see how she was wrong and apologize as well. Not sure how FI's relationship is with his mother but she is his mother and the only one he will ever have and you guys will need to try to be cordial atleast to keep the peace.

Congrats!!! Everything will still be nice, don't forget about us and let us know how things turn out! BTW,You could still do a Jamaican or Island theme.

wow, I'm glad I looked at this so that I will include a good amount in my budget for them. I'm not cheap but I do have a budget and I guess I didn't know what your supposed to give.

I uess the VS one is the only one you want because I have seen many different ones out there but if not try this site weddingish.com or google it, good luck!

Thank ladies for the information I plan on doing some can't wait!

Can you book without mentioning the wedding party? I totally understand I hate having to pay or benifit people who are rude and don't deserve it. I would check and see if that's the only way you can book. Your cousin may be getting a group rate or something similar and may need you to book that way. If that's the case I would put my feeling aside to support family and then send something in writing to the TA's supervisor/manager and maybe even put a note on trip advisor.

What is the proper etiquette on engagement parties? FI's parents said we can use their house but I'm not sure I want to for different reasons. If we have it at a venue do we provide everything, can you do a cash bar? I can only remembe one that I have been to and it was like a cookout. Any information would be appreciated, thanks in advance!

Google it and you will get many results.

Quote: Originally Posted by 2bebridejamaica Nope, we have not talked at all really. She emailed after the wedding to snoop mostly on who else went and where certain people were. I commented back on a few things.. but left her to wonder and try to dig out the info somewhere else. In an email she went on to say "It's too much work to hate you anymore".. NICE way to start an email right Everyone knows the game with her ... so mostly my friends will play nice when she comments on something to them on FB or MS. But it's for the best now I see. You can never make everyone happy and have the 3 sets of friends - friends forever- friends for right now - and friends you will one day meet. Hope this helps 8o) Good for you, especially recognizing where people fit and their positions in your life.

It is really amazing how people will act when you need their support the most. My sisiter can be a handful and when we looked at dresses a month ago she already was complaining so I told her we weren't doing a wedding party and she acted dissappointed, so I'll put that on the burner for now. However, I have seen friends not be supportive and admit that 10yrs ago when my best friend got pregnant she later bought it to my attention how I was not being supportive at that time. Over all I am the most outgoing and dependable out of all my friends so I feel they could treat me the same and so far no real problems. I would suggest you talking to her about it and if it doesn't change you have to make a decision on where your friendship stands with her. You may have to distance her for now in life we move at different paces and she just may not be able to accept where you are in your life right now. I would have the heart to heart with her and then see the results then decide. Jealousy is such a killer of everything it touches!

That's a nice idea. I am still thinking on what I will be doing because all of my grandparents have passed on. FI's mother's parents have passed and not sure if his father's parents are going to make the trip, their like 90.

These are such great ideas. I think I'm going to do a photobooth with props and a dry erase board, hope it turns out nice.

Those are nice, I'm still thinking about doing those.

Just the two of you will be fine as long as that's what you bot want. The dress is a decision I am basing on what I will be comfortable in and I of course it will look nice, but I never wanted the big ball gown princess type dress myself, so whatever you like and feel comfortable in will work.

Good Job!!!

That was the hardest thing for me and I went through just about every Island there is but while looking in Jamaica I liked Round Hill the most. Half Moon seemed a little pricey and can't remember what I did't like about Rose Hall. But I also crossed off any resort that held more than one wedding a day, that help me narrow down my list. Good Luck!!!

That's very touching, best of luck to both of you!

Quote: Originally Posted by Christine I am a little confused by your post...are you saying you should thank people for just going to the wedding? I didn't have a real DW, a semi- DW and had quite a few people who did not even give us a card so honestly we did not write thank yous to them. We did make sure to speak to all 125 guests at our wedding and thank them for being there and let them know how much we appreciated them sharing our day. I also went above and beyond for our wedding and did not feel I should have to then thank them for coming. I did sent thank yous for anyone who gave us a card and/or gift. It is very tacky of those brides who didn't send thank yous if you got them a gift. Also its very sweet of you to say that you will get your thank yous out right away, and if you can you should, but sometimes things happen for people and its difficult to get them out, etiquette says that brides have 1 year from the wedding to get their thank yous out. ps. I am moving this to the etiquette and to do's section. Please make sure you post in the most appropriate section. Thanks for moving my post I honestly looked for the etiquette section and obviously overlooked it.

I apologize for not mentioning the timing on when the cards should be sent out but considering you have a whole year to do it, that's even more of a reason to make sure you send them. I don't think you can put a price on someone's time so the fact that someone took the time out to attend a wedding related event they could have chosen not to say's something about them and they deserve to be thanked appropriately. I think the same way you send STD's and invitations you could send a thank you note/card, even if it's for their time and support. I honestly consider their presence as the gift so I don't mind if I don't receive anything tangible. My girlfriend that I mentioned that did send a thank you had a DW and we did not buy them a gift. Her thank you card read: This day we thank our family and friends, for celebrating our joy, supporting us and sharing our love. We sincerely appreciate you for being a part of our special day and making our dreams come true. Love knows no bounds. Our wedding would not have been complete without the support of our family and friends. Thank you for coming to Puerto Rico with us! Very appropriate and appreciated! As for my girlfriends shower I am totally not mad at her. She had a last minute wedding and BM threw the shower probably not considering the guest list. However, I did attend the shower and gave a gift and I think she should have sent thank you cards or emails if she liked but something. I personally just think it's good manners to thank people. frazali - sorry your thank you's were not received as just thank you. Do you think it was their conscious that made them feel like you were reminding them they had not given a gift and maybe they were on the defense? They totally should't have taken it that way.

I don't think it's tacky and I understand and agree with why you want to give them. It's too expensive for me but I think it's nice and people will appreciate it.

I agree with binzer, I would send them a STD for the AHR so they know what they are being invited to and I would only discuss details with those that are invited to the destination. If someone tries to corner you just let them know the ceremony is going to be small and for immediate family and friends. I also agree with Celina many people may say their coming and then for various reasons back out! I'm still trying to figure how I'm going to address my situation because I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings but I also know who I want there as well as who I can depend on to be there so I'm not gonna stress, after all it's our big day!