big3n09

Hello All, This thread is very helpful cause I have no idea what I'm going to do with my hair. I'm going to keep praying my hairdresser makes the trip, LOL! If not I will be back here to read each and every post to figure it out!

Good Job, I will be back when I'm ready to get started on mine thanks for the info!

First I want to say LOVE endures all! I'm a paramedic and had a cute 17 year old boy yesterday with blood sugar of 20, I thought to myself he's a cutie I hope he finds a good person to help him with managing his diabetes. After treating him I left him with some encouraging words that he will because he said his brothers told him he would never find anybody. Diabetes is more about management and it sound like you are doing your best and all you can and nobody should be trying to figure out how and why you able to do it. Everything is not for everybody and what one person can deal with the next person may not be able to that's why we we're all created differently.

Totally understandable if you don't want to do it. we threw one for a friend a month before the wedding because most of the people that came to the shower wasn't going to the DW. We did the strip/pole dancing class then met for drinks 2 hours later that night we had fun she appreciated it and she received mostly lingrie gifts. It's your choice and people will sometimes still bring gifts.

I had to find this thread to find out what my response was to this, because it's now my issue. I am getting married at Moon Dance Cliffs and they are now offering us AI and it would ultimatley help us since we are staying 7 days. We normally don't do AI cause we aren't heavy eaters but we do drink enough, LOL! However our AI doesn't include airport transfers which we would pay for if we do it and I already wanted to do OOT cable boxes with goodies. I still feel like I need to do more or shouldn't do it. Any suggestions or encouragement because I have been leaning more to not doing it.

Hello All, I'm still around and planning. We have changed our date for the 3rd and final time to 5/15/10. I am now trying to decide if I want to now do the AI option. As I stated in my last post I would speak to them about the price differences and Linus addressed the sitution for me and hopefully since then things have gotten better for you all. Taovandel-congrants on your new plans and it will still be wonderful, now you'll be really glowing! Claudette-can't wait till you return with all the good news from your big day! Happy planning to you All!

Quote: Originally Posted by SgtPepperette Our wedding date will be our 9th anniversary. But guess how we picked our annivesary date? We didnt know when we officially became boyfriend/girlfriend, so its the first day we slept together. LOL LOL! I considered that because we don't remember when we actually became an exclusive couple. We use the date we met as our anniversary now and it was going to be our wedding date, 5th anniversary but we moved our date back and now it on FI's parents 45th anniversary.

Quote: Originally Posted by FutureMRS. wow...what is that about... I thought it was just me!

Ok, so I would pick a date that works for the both of you guys if they can't be there for about 30 min maybe for the mini ceremony or stop by just to show there support then I would not be changing things around for them. I assume you are taliking about at the most a 4 hour event and if they cant fit you in for 30min to an hour that day then oh well. The friend that will be out of town may just miss it. Are these people going to be at the DW ceremony because if so then at least they were part of something, can't please everybody and you and DH should be the one's that matter most.

Quote: Originally Posted by Soon2beWed09 I hate that question 2 "where's ur ring"..ughh sometimes I think about buying a nice ring until I get my offical ring..lol I was telling FI that last night he said why do it and laugh "I think he thinks Im crazy..lol" Anyway some people think Im living in a fantasy world since I have no ring and planning a wedding...I'm tired of caring what people thinks..We know its real and set a date..so If you don't have an issue with waiting then why waste the money unless you just want to. I am more concerned about him asking then having a ring because I know I will get one or I may decide not to. I'm only speaking about the engagement ring because we are def getting wedding rings and that's fine too if we only wear those if that's what we decide to do. The rings I looked at and liked were expensive and I doubt if I will feel comfortable wearing it to work anyhow so now I'm wondering is it going to be a waste of money.

Quote: Originally Posted by ehegwer As a guy, I'm gonna say no - you probably aren't engaged. Who has he told? His parents? His buddies? His co-workers Is he happy? I know I was on cloud 9 after I proposed. As a wedding professional, it's pretty clear to me who is engaged, vs who wants to have a wedding, if you know what I mean. Yes I do know what you mean and as I stated in my post his parents, friends, and co-workers, he even asked one friend to be his BM already, they ALL know and I did not tell them. As far as he is concerned we would have been married 3 years ago or we could go to the JOP tomorrow but I was not ready 3 years ago and I don't like the idea of JOP. I was introduced to him by one of my good girlfriends and she told me years ago how they had a conversation and he said that I was the one. I really think it's more that in his mind he will officially ask at the same time he gives me the ring. Once before he said he was going to do it at the engagement party with everyone there and I told him that I don't want to be on the spot like that. So we will continue planning and looking foward to our big day!

Quote: Originally Posted by lynnmb1021 I recommend calling Kim or Miriam if you have concerns over the AI thing. Kim was helpful when I talked to her yesterday and reassured me that the prices I was originally quoted (the grand opening rates) won't change especially since we have a deposit on all the rooms. I'm not sure how it will work if you don't already have deposits on rooms.. but speak to them. They've been very reasonable and easy to work with from day 1, since we reserved our wedding date. As far as vendors, I do recommend reserving bigger things like the photographer and DJ/band as early as possible. I feel like I can wait on decor/ flowers (hope I'm not wrong on this!) I emailed the DJ Kim recommended (Sound Illusions).. curious to see if there is a price difference. Thanks for the info on keeping Jamaican currency in mind. Let's all stay calm!! I did speak to Miriam and I asked her a few questions. She did confirm that everyone that originally booked will be fine the AI is for new bookings. She also said if I need more rooms for my date they will be offered the same things other than the grand opening rates. I asked her about the vendors pricing and she said that there are no kickbacks and that she will speak to the owner and Linus about the pricing differences to find out why there is a difference. She said she will call me back or have one of them get in contact with me. I asked her if the WC services are complementary and then we still have to book things on our own to get better pricing from the same vendors then is the WC services only for the day of your ceremony services. She said she understood my concern and would check the situation out. So hopefully we can find out what the issue is. So once she gets back to me I will do what you suggested because I don't want to run into the vendors I really want being booked, thanks for the advice. Mastistyle - there are some tour compainies that may give you a different price. Funny Dominque called me today to ask how planning was going!

I'm a little confused are you saying they can't make the reception or the actual wedding? If it's the DW they can get tricky because everybody is not going to be there bottom line. You and DH have to decide what you guys want and who you can live without being there. Like you said somebody is going to be pissed and as long as it's not you or DH, then that's ok. I understand how the scheduling thing works I am a Paramedic and there are a few people at work I want to invite but they are on different shifts so they may can't make it but the show must go on. FI grandparents whom I love are like 90 and I don't think they will be able to make the trip and I know they would love to but thie is what we want and we a going to have it without tmen unfortunately. As long as you #1 people ( parents, siblings, other VIP's) can make it I would choose the date that works best for both of you. Remember everybody is not going to come, even the people you think may or say they are may not when it's time. If it's the reception then if they can't stop by for a few minutes that day to support you guys then, again the show must go on.

Yes, it has changed but I never really go pass the 2nd or 3rd page. Maybe somebody will have an answer when they wake up and see this thread, LOL!

Me and FI have been together going on 5 years and the date is set. I have been opposed to living together before we're married so we haven't but now we need to be saving money, if I move it would help. I have been in my house 7 years mostly by myself and very comfortable. So I had a break down last night talking and thinking about it. I'm not sure if I'm scared or because now I have to be in another surrounding that's not going to be as comfortable as my house. I really feel like I'm loosing a limb and I don't know what to do. I mean I know I have to move but I need some MAJOR motivation. FI has 3 kids that come and go and I have none and have lived peacefully and very clean in my house the way I wanted to. I live out of all my closets and just feel like I'm loosing everything, like the ground is coming from under me. The one thing I did come up with today is I can have a packing party with my girls, that made me feel a little motivated. Can anybody relate or offer me advice/motivation to get over it and move.

Quote: Originally Posted by divadivine25 Big3n09, Have you considered using the stylists at the resort? That was my initial plan but I didn't really want the hassle of wearing a weave, which is so not me, and not enjoying the beautiful water in Jamaica. We arrive 3 days before the wedding and I just cant see me not in the water :.( No, I'm a little picky on my hair handling so that's not an option. I would rather pay for her a ticket if I have to she is my close friend so she may just be coming anyway and again one of my BM's is pretty good with styling. I will wear my hair straight with a flower in it or get flexy rods before I go and then get them touched up before the ceremony if I have to, that should only require my ceremics and maybe a good blow dryer. But I feel you cause if I can get in the water and one of my girls just do my hair before the ceremony, that'll be the road I'm taking.

Quote: Originally Posted by divadivine25 Thank you! I thought I tagged them as well, but couldn't find them! Hopefully theres a few brides that have some good answers now! My hair is about chin length and I plan to wear a simple chignon for the wedding itself. A friend suggested tree braids and I found these pics online that I like. The first is of the tree braids and the second is individual braids which is another style option. I think that both can be styled nicely for the wedding and are low maintenance. I think you can have a moderator merge the two threads. Those options look nice, but anything other than my regular relaxed hair is just not going to be me. I may offer to pay for my hairdresser's flight, cause I can't be worried about my hair. But I only care about it looking decent for the ceremony and pictures, the rest of the trip I don't care much. we are going on a thur. and the ceremony will be sat. so I may have to stay out of the water and then sun. get my hair cornrowed going straight back.

Thanks petals, I just went to the other thread and we are deep and all worried about heads, LOL!

I'm still in the air about this. I think for me it's going to depend on who comes and can do something to my hair. I have never had a weave so not sure I want one now and I know FI may have a issue with that. I hope my hairdresser comes cause we are close friends but if not one of my BM's is pretty good with styling hair. So in my mind I want my hair to be out and Iwill get it done before the ceremony and then before one of the 2take off I will get them to cornrow my hair for the rest of the trip. But it depends on what your comfortable with, a sew in or braids will be most conveniet(sp), i just don't want my hair in braids for my ceremony and pictures.

OMG! I sure hope somebody has a recommendation for a place in that area. I understand how you feel and I hate paying or patronizing places that have sucky customer service. This is a very big day for you and they should be more accomodating than their being. Times are hard and brings out the worst in some people. I know it's easier said than done but try not to stress it will help you be able to think clearer. I wish you the best of luck and hope you still have a wonderful day regardless of those A$$ Holes.

Congrats and welcome neighbor!

I agree it's ok to have a cheat day. I did that for 6 weeks and lost weight but after that I was back to pigging out. I'm still trying to get back maybe next week I'll start again, need to get ready for my trip to the Bahamas next month. Good Luck!

OMG! I hope they clear all this up like ASAP! I have been holding off calling knowing my date is far out but I paid the deposit for our villa and 7 other rooms early to get the grand opening rate and they not about to get over on me. I may need to make a phone call and find out what is going on. When I do I will let you guys know what was said!

Yes, it's good to know you’re not alone. The question I hate is "where is your ring", again I have expensive taste but I also know how to prioritize as well. I will get one when we can we have other things on the table right now that's priority over a ring. Not sure if you guys listen to Michael Basiden (sp) radio talk show but today's topic he asked ladies would they want a ring or a house and more ladies actually said a ring. my opinion on that was, that's part of the reason we are in this current economy.