we have chosen a place we really like but the quote includes a rum punch for everyone upon arrival, wine and beer, and valet parking. My father is a Minister and he may contribute but feel reluctant to because of the alcohol, as well as who knows what his wife might say. My mother doesn't drink either and my only issue with the wine is that it's their house white and red wine which I doubt me or FI will like, we like sweet dessert wines. So I'm wondering can I just get away with a cash bar and please fill me in on the valet parking, I didn't even think about that. It's a 3 hour friday night event at a hotel in a room that holds 80 comfortably that they display art in to give you an idea of the type of party it will be. I guess cocktail party style because we will have passed hors d'oeuvres not any sit down dinner. I just wanted to give our families a chance to meet each other especially before the wedding. I was gonna do a cookout but felt people would be less likey to mingle and get to know one another. Please offer me some advice, thanks!