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wow. that's all I can say! Christie, I'm so sorry you've had to go through this! It really sounds like your sister was just trying to push your buttons and that she's projecting onto you, A LOT. She is probably jealous of you and while this is no excuse, it may explain her timing & crazy behavior. Just keep focused on all that's good in your life and within your control. The rest will work itself out.

Quote: Originally Posted by Future Mrs. Kt Ellis Smooth by Santana and Rob Thomas We're going to learn the tango and have some dramatic choreographed dance to surprise everyone. It will be funny because though I love ballroom dancing movies(but never done it), FI is a manly man football player and it will be hilarious to see his moves:) that is awesome!

Quote: Originally Posted by nsbride2010 ours is going to be "Making Memories of Us" by Keith Urban, that will fade into a dance evolution... haha then fade out of dance evolution back into "Making Memories of Us"! love it!! how fun!

I like #1 & 3, but I also think it depends on what they feel good in & on what your dress looks like too. I wanted #1 for my bm's but when we went & tried them on the cottony fabric & style didn't look great next to my lace dress. Not that they all have to be the same, but they just looked disconnected so we ended up picking chiffon. Are you having navy & pink as your colors?

Congrats Allyson! Kim, that's quite the list of florists! It'll be great to have that in case we want to buy any extras. Thanks Lauren. I feel a little weird contacting Kristin at Dazzling to get DJ contact info since I'm not using her as a wedding planner - any thoughts? Oh, & I found out about having the lounges for cocktails. Rebeca said they can set up 2 full living rooms for $350 in case anyone's interested. (like in post 594)

I would wear 1 for the reception - it's sooo fun! And I'd wear 2 for a legal ceremony (unless your DW is also your legal one). good luck deciding!!

So for the cocktail hour apparently there's a bar area set-up and some tall tables with linens. I think that's it. Rebeca sent this pic & said these are the types of tables included.

Quote: Originally Posted by kimberl07 Has anyone had any success at renegotiating room rates and upgrades? Has anyone investigated local florist options? I am also thinking of bringing in my own DJ or can we hire our a local live band on our own? Hey Kim, we went w/ a travel agent so I don't know about upgrades & haven't tried to re-negotiate. I haven't looked into local florists either b/c the package includes my bouquet, the boutonnieres & a couple of centerpieces. I'll probably look for some cheap candles for the tables (thanks Lauren - good advice!) Are you looking for specific flowers or wanting to make centerpieces for less? I emailed Rebeca today about hiring a DJ (if she has a list of people we should contact) & she said "you do not have to worry about, I will contact our DJ and program it for your wedding day, what you can do is send a list of songs you would like to listen that day". I know Lauren hired a DJ, but I tried googling him & didn't find him. Also, I thought I'd post the pics she sent me. I'm still waiting to find out what exactly is included in terms of set-up for the cocktail hour. All she sent me were pictures of set-ups with extras like lounges, throw pillows & a gazebo. cocktail option (the lounges are extra, but I don't know how much) another option (everything is extra) plain reception table (no centerpieces = included in package) reception (all 3 are at las palmas) reception reception (i'm guessing the lanterns are extra?)

Quote: Originally Posted by J&MWedding Rebeca mentioned to me that small votice candles are included. It sounds to me that just the floral is what is charged. She basically told me whatever she has to use, I can use at no charge, and whatever I bring, she will set up at no charge. I bit the bullet and am paying $55 per table for my centerpieces - small white rose bouquet in a vase. I figure i'm only having 4 or 5 tables, so that's not too bad. I'm bringing my own table runners and crystal dangling ornaments to put in the bouquet centerpieces. She also told me that I could use silver plate chargers for $2.5 each, but I think I'm prob passing on that also. I'm making menus that have silver and iridescent color to it, so that will bring color along with the table runner and crystals. So I just got an email back from Rebeca and I had asked if any candles are included on the tables in the Ultimate pkg and she said that no candles are included, but are available for an extra charge. It's not that big of a deal, but I wish she was just consistent with people across the board. I may just wait til we get there & see if we can find some candles at walmart or somewhere cuz I feel like having something would be nice but there's no way I'm paying $80 for votives (I think that's what someone said the cost is?).

i dig it, this'll be fun!

Autumn that sounds like sooooo much fun!!! I haven't been to SF in years and have never been to wine country. My parents go every year (my g'parents are out there) & I'm so jealous! Jess, that pic is hilarious! You're like Miss Bride America! looks like you girls had a great time!

Congratulations to you two!! What a romantic exciting engagement and how wonderful you'll be returning to RM for your wedding! And wow! You already have 21 booked! How great! Good luck with the rest of your planning!

hee hee! Lisa, that 2nd one almost made me spit out my coffee! ha ha ha ha

I'm doing one with my bm's over Xmas break when I go back to Chicago and I'm already nervous! It may be hard to hide cuz I'm not sure if FI will be w/ me or not; he's coming home w/ me for xmas but may have to go back to NY before I do. If so that'd be good. If not we'll just say we're having a girls' day; like a mini bach party. I found a couple trampy/cute outfits online - one at Fredericks & one at VS Frederick's of Hollywood - Strapless Stretch Jacquard Corset & Victoria's Secret - Bustier set I like this one too Victoria's Secret - Signature satin skirted thong and he's a big Cubs fan so I think I'll get a Zambrano jersey & wear that.

Thanks for posting that Autumn. I know I have that list somewhere, but I don't remember if it had the pics. And, what if we ask Rebeca if we can leave the starfish with her in between Jess' & your dates? btw, where are you going for your bachelorette party?

Thanks, Christie - you are totally right! And I liked your cheesy song reference. Kathy, admitting you have a problem is the first step. Body Dysmorphics Anonymous may try to recruit you for their inaugural session. Seriously, though, you look great so maybe you should listen to what these other wise BDW ladies are saying.

Kathy I love this astrology site! I love reading about this stuff, though obviously not all of it fits. ie: I'm definitely NOT a social butterfly - like you & K, I have a few very close friends & then a few more that are friends but not super close. And I would never make friends w/ someone to "make me look good". ugg. But with astrology signs, you take the bad w/ the good - I am extremely loyal and justice/fairness is a hot-button topic with me. Anyway, Kathy, I really understand when you say you don't feel good enough sometimes cuz I also tend to hold myself to a ridiculous standard that, of course, when I don't live up to I get frustrated about. That's def something we can (& should) work on though b/c it's not fair to us & it's certainly not good for our mental health. Just try to go easier on yourself. I like to think about what "advice" I'd give a friend who was beating her/himself up about something and then try to take it myself. Easier said than done, but it's worth a shot. Feeling guilty all the time about not being good enough is just not worth it! Life's too damn short. Oh, btw, where are you planning on losing 25 pounds from, your hollow leg Seriously, though, from the looks of your siggy pic, you look like you'll disappear if you lose more weight! Sorry, that's me sticking my nose where it doesn't belong. And KK, you're absolutely right - your friend should never have talked to that other girl about you or your plans and she should have been jumping for joy & asking what she could do to help, or at the very least say that she'd be there!! I'm guessing you didn't ask her to be a bridesmaid? You know her so if you don't feel it's worth talking to her about then I guess just sit back & see what happens. Wow, people sure can suck.

Quote: Originally Posted by ~*Kathy*~ ohhh Karen, I SO get it! I'm the same, I'm a very giving person in relationships and friendships and I really want everyone to be happy (which is next to impossible of course) and I'm really sad/frustrated when I can't make everyone happy, ya know? It's a horrible, vicious circle for me and I let it bother me when I shouldn't, but what are ya gonna do? Kathy, KK, we are 3 "K" peas in a pod!! Seriously, you two are describing me!! But, I'm a libra not a capricorn (but my mama's one). I'm the peacekeeper and always think of other people first, sometimes too much so. K, def de-friend this acquaintance from FB. What a loser. She's obviously trying to weasel her way into your good graces to go to the DR! Not gonna happen! And how awful your FI had to read that & even wonder. Not funny at all. As far as your "good friend", her response is really hurtful and it's more than understandable that you'd want to write her off. She may be jealous of you; without knowing anything about her it sort of rings a buzz to me. I think you should take a deep breath and maybe have a sit-down with her at some point just to let her know you were hurt by what she said. It doesn't have to be all dramatic, but simply explain your feelings. If she is a friend at all, she should want to hear how you feel. keep your chin up lady!

Quote: Originally Posted by ashey063009 Hey girls-- just poking in to creep as usual. lol Karen-- LOVE LOVE LOVE the bands! They are amazing! Thanks married lady!! Girls, I think the starfish could really work sans drama. We can totally find out if it'd be ok to leave it at the front desk - I'm guessing it would only be a few days anyway.

Adorable! Thanks for sharing it! Def can't beat the price too!!

Autumn, I LOVE the starfish passing idea for DreamGirls! How fun! I really wanted to get one, but haven't yet and I think it'd be really cool for us to share one. here are a couple I found Starfish Bouquet Jewelry - 3 colors Simply Flowers - Products - Bouquet Jewels

Quote: Originally Posted by kimberl07 I can't wait to see your welcome bags Jill. We have bought a lot of items for ours, but haven't yet put them all together...waiting for the final count. Initially from the early response to the STD, we thought we'd have about 60 people. But now we are getting new reservations from the invites- I think we are looking at 90 people- talk about panic...I don't know what to do. Upgrades for us our going to out of the question with 90 people. Rebeca told me that Las Palmas terrace seats up to 70, so I don't even know what our options will be for 90 at the reception. I hope we are not stuck indoors. I emailed Rebeca today and am waiting for her response. Any suggestions? 86 Booked and Counting! WOW that's a lot of people! You guys must feel so loved! I know it's overwhelming right now but seriously that is so wonderful! And I'm sure it will work out - on the beach or world terrace like Autumn suggested. Take a deep breath & let us know what Rebeca says.

welcome to the forum! How great of you to join & help plan!! You both will find a plethora of great ideas on the site, but it's just a tiny bit addicting so be careful.

Joann, your invitations turned out beautifully! I love the colors and the adorable brads you used! Congrats!!