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Hi! I was wondering if there was anyone out there still who has used the Chuppah for a beach ceremony instead of the beach gazebo? My ceremony is booked for 4pm, and I have read that it's not very sunny over the gazebo at that time, so I was wondering about how practical it would be to pop the chuppah up somewhere sunny! Anyone do this? And in terms of the chuppah, have you even seen it done? was it nice? I think I might be the only bride on here who is not really into the beach gazebo, but maybe pictures just don't do it justice!

Thank you SO much for posting!!

Hi! I'm going to be married at the ROR in January 2010, and I am wondering about how easily i could get pillar candles there? And how much they would cost.. any ideas?

I PM'd you! good luck!

YAY!! I'm so excited! Hope your wedding goes (and went) great!!

That dress looks better on you than on the model!! You totally hit it out of the park!!! Congrats!!!

Congratulations!! That IS so exciting!!!

SO many people have said that this is tacky, that it's sad, because people like to get things in the mail, etc.. but I think it is a GREAT idea!! As you said, it's GREEN, which is RAD, they are unlikely to get lost! (stored safely in your inbox) and fun and different! Esp. since your FH is a web designer I say go for it!!

thank you all for the input! this makes me feel so much better!

Hi! I'm just wondering how many of you are paying for your bridesmaid's dresses and how many have bridesmaids who are footing the bill? Also - how much do the dresses cost, and how much of a say did your bridesmaids have in your choice? My answers: Dress costs $175, it was chosen by one of my bridesmaids (who tried on 5 that we chose together, and was REALLY excited about this one) Bridesmaids are paying for the dress, I am paying for alterations I'm just wondering if I'm doing the wrong thing here.. should I be paying for the dresses? I know there is probably another thread on here, but I couldn't find one with a poll like this and I would really like to know what people think! Thanks ladies!!

(about the ticker) haha in the past 5 months, I have already read ALL of the reviews that I could find on here! I love them! But I love the new ones too.. more up to date info!

OOOH thanks Christine!

hi! Does it seem like there have been fewer reviews this month than previous months? or is it just me? I miss them! haha in other news.. I live in Canada, and it was 42 degrees C (107.6F) yesterday.. I am literally melting.. and looking haggard! haha I'm starting to seriously think about purchasing some non-melt makeup for the wedding and testing it now!

Hi! Has anybody had the steel drum band play anything other than Cannon in D while they walked down the isle? I am thinking of getting them for an hour (just because I think it will be easier than figuring out timing with CD's etc, plus it will be nice to have them entertain our guests for an hour after the ceremony!) I'm just wondering what kinds of things they play? is it island music?

thank you so much to EVERYBODY.. I was feeling SO crappy today and you have totally helped bring me up!! nicest brides around!

Thank you! What a nice response.. i thought I would get some tough love, but what you said was just what I needed to hear. thank you!

I feel really embarrassed even writing this, but I am having second thoughts about the destination wedding and our chosen hotel (ROR).. for the following reasons; 1. the economy is SO bad, I feel guilty, like having a DW where everybody is spending thousands to come is SO wasteful at a time when people should probably be being less frivolous. 2. I wanted a DW, because I thought it would be really fun, and I still think that.. but I am starting to worry about whether or not it will be 'traditional' enough for me. I REALLY want nice food. Not rediculously fancy, but something that people will REALLY enjoy. I also REALLY want people to dance! My FAVORITE part of weddings is the speaches and dancing! I'm really afraid that I'm giving that up.. and I booked a poolside reception because I thought it was the most beautiful and had heard such nice things about it, but now I'm worried about the food (BBQ), and Chandlyn said it ends at 10:30 and that just sounds so early! Esp. if it doesn't start until 6:30.. and dinner and speeches go until 830. I'm sorry to be so complainy.. I don't know what's gotten into me.. I am not usually a second guessing person.. but I just really want the wedding to have the feel of a 'festive' wedding.. i don't know if that makes sense.. I'm probably worrying about nothing.. but I just REALLY do want to feel like it's special (beyond the obvious special'ness' that just getting MARRIED to the love of my life will bring), and not just a random dinner out with dressed up people.. does this make sense? Anybody else ever feel like this? Thanks for listening.. I love this forum!

Hi! I have (another) question about the ROR poolside reception. Has anybody had anything other than the serve-yourself buffet? How much extra did it cost? What was the meal like? Thanks ladies!!!

I have a slightly different opinion.. While I definitely AGREE that there should be NO expectation of gifts (and I do like having a note on the wedding website under registry that says "We are so grateful to share such a special memory with you and we feel that your presence and the fun that we will share is more than enough"). HOWEVER, I think it is rude to INSIST and INSIST about it.. the truth is, some people will be relieved to know that you truely don't expect a gift, and for me, actually stating that on the website made sense, because we wanted to get that info out there (and NOT on the invitation, although I wouldn't judge if someone else did.. I don't think that's a huge deal, as long as you don't write "we are registered HERE" on the invite! haha) The fact is though, that some people really WANT to get you a gift.. not because they feel obligated, or because they think it's expected, but just because they genuinely want to. To these people, I really think (and others have told me this too), that it can be very off-putting for someone to be extremely insistant about NO gifts.. at some point, you just have to say THANK YOU! I know it's a destination wedding, and it's a huge cost, and I agree that nothing should be expected, but I also don't think you should feel badly for a second if you have been gracious, put it out there that gifts are not expected, and someone CHOOSES to give you a gift. I also think it's totally fine to register. My mom is throwing me a bridal shower, and although my registry info isn't on the invites or on my wedding website, many people have asked, and have been REALLY glad to know that I have registered.. simply put - it's easier for some of them (obviously some people will have their own ideas, or will make something, but some people will want to get you a gift, and have no idea of what to get), and it is also a FUN (and once in a lifetime) opportunity to make a wish-list of things that you might not buy for yourself! Whatever your plans are regarding gifts - HAVE FUN with it! As long as you aren't being demanding there is NOTHING to feel guilty about! let your gran buy you a gift if she wants to! What's the big deal! These people are adults, and they can decide whether or not they can afford (and want to) purchase a plane ticket AND a gift!

i think poolside dancing only (with bar) after dinner is 12pp or something.. if you have the whole thing there, it's 55pp.

Hi! SO, I confirmed my poolside reception last week, and I have a question - This might be REALLY stupid, but I looked at the pictures on other threads and couldn't tell - Does the poolside reception area overlook the beach? (Also.. I think someone already confirmed this, but the poolside reception takes place at the pools in the suites section of the hotel right?) Thanks!

Hi! I'm just wondering what information people included about their resorts? I'm going to be getting married at the RIU ocho rios, and we're having boarding pass style invites made.. and i know that the first one will be the invite, and the third one will have the tear off save the date, and I was hoping to make the middle one an info card.. with resort info, the link to our website for travel info, and a map maybe? I'm sorry if this has already been posted.. I'm looking for ROR specific info.. or just whatever.. I'm really not creative!

Hi! My wedding is booked (and confirmed) for January 23 2010 at noon. We were hoping to get a later time (on any of the three days listed in the thread title), however, if we can't we can't, and I'm hoping it won't be a big deal. BUT I am a little bit worried about sending out my invites.. we have sent save the dates.. but travel space is getting tight (on the plane).. and I feel strange encouraging people to book when they haven't even recieved formal invites. SO i feel the pressure to send out the invites, but I don't really want to send out a specific date and have it change. SO, I was hoping that if you are booked to be married (especially on the 23rd), could you let me know? The resort said I had to wait 90 days to find out who didn't confirm.. and possibly switch times, but I thought if YOU are on here, and you know you are definitely getting married after noon on the 23rd, that would save me a lot of trouble, and I would just send out my invites with my current date. Thanks so much!!

ohhh my goodness.. i am so clueless! I just realized that FREE means totally free, and if you pay the $350, you GET the minister.. is this right? Sorry ladies! I think I'm having one of those days! (and not sure how to delete posts.. hmmm)

Hi! I have scanned the first 26 pages of the jamaica forum, and also did a search for this.. with no luck, so I'm hoping you can help me! I am getting married at the ROR in Jan 2010. We chose the free package, thinking that we'd get upgrades. We have confirmed a poolside reception etc.. and are planning to upgrade our flowers, cake etc. SO I was looking through the free package info on the RIU site and I saw that it says that the minister/judge service is NOT included! I'm so confused? So how much does it cost to get the judge/minister? And how do you book it? When I emailed Chandlyn about booking the poolside reception, she got back to me and only attached the BBQ list and a short list of possible upgrades.. but nothing about paying for a minister.. can somebody help me out with this? Also, I don't really see the point of even paying the $350 for the free package, if it doesn't include a minister, we're going to have to pay to upgrade flowers (I'm guessing we'll have to pay the full price of the new flowers), same goes for cake, and we're NOT having a semi private dinner at a specialty restaurant.. can somebody enlighten me a little bit pleasse