Prettyhazardous

Can you tell me the price of 4 sets of earrings and 4 necklaces.

OMG Mesita your pictures were awesome. Your wedding was beautiful. You 2 are such a beautiful couple. I was sitting here crying at your pics. Be Blessed.

Mesita love your siggy pic your new hubby looks like a light skin Idris Alba (I guess ur wondering where I got that from)... Well at least he poses like him lol!!! can't wait to read ur review!!!! TTFN

Hey ladies thanks for all your support, your responses were so helpful. I feel the need to clear some stuff up thou. My concern isn't really regarding his mother. As of yesterday she told her sister that she had no idea why Brian isn't a part of her life yet she also told her sister that Brian did tell her that the ways she talks to him is unacceptable. I totally understand that if she's not willing to accept and own up to what she did than Brian needs not have any kind of relationship with her. Also regarding what the minister said she could tell that Brian wasn't totally over the situation and she felt that him meeting with his mother and discussing the issue one last time would help. She had actually said to just to explain to her that she's no longer a part of his life etc etc and move on... (moving on being the most important part bc I personally don't feel that any abuser needs any kind of explanations) Both the minister and myself are social workers and we both understand that issues need to be worked thru not ignored, which is clearly what he's doing. So his feelings regarding the situation are just festering rather than being worked out (he does this with alot of stuff and if he cant learn to actually work thru problems rather than act like they don't exist than we will clearly have problems in the future... Altho I totally understand that this is just his defense mechanism of choice). I have a situation somewhat like his with my own mother but I have accepted what shes done (and continually doing). Eventhough I don't like it I don't harp on it nor does it bother me. I know she won't change so while I don't deal with her I also don't hate her. My concern is regarding the rest of the family. Because he finds no fault with them and they did nothing wrong (besides not seeing the signs of abuse but no one holds them at fault for that). Brian wants them to be a part of his life but I guess he doesn't see that as a possibility unless his mother is a part as well. Also we come from a deeply rooted religious background and forgiveness is mandatory. I spoken with many ministers about this and they also say that we can't chose what we forgive we have to just forgive because God forgives us daily. So one can forgive and move on, but it'd be almost silly to forget everything. Ok I gotta go but he was supposed to contact her today. When he gets in I'll update you all on the situation.

His mother has breast cancer and was not doing to well. During Pre-marital counseling the pastor said that he needed to mend to relationship with his mother and invite her to the wedding. He sent her an invite but did not contact her. Of course she contacted me and asked to have him contact her. I always tell him when she calls and he always says that he's not contacting her, as she is no longer a part of his life. This idea makes me really uncomfy bc I think what if I do something wrong can he just kick me out of his life as well.. Well last night things got really wierd bc as I was home alone his aunt and cousin knocked on the door. When i opened it they introduced themselves and asked in Brian lived here. I said yes but that he wouldn't be home until 10pm, but asked them to come back last night. They were so happy and his aunt was crying and hugging me. I then called him and told him what happened and that they would be coming back. He arrived home early and we talked a bit ab the situation. When they arrived it was a really nice reunion and they discussed what happened with him and his mom (his aunt almost didn't seem like she believed him but his cousin said she had an idea bc she used to spend the night with him and remembers him getting "beat" but she didn't realize the severity). We all talked about his life over the past years and then the wedding came up. His mother hadn't told them ab the wedding (with good reason of course, as she and I have never even met and she hasn't seen Brian in years). His cousin was livid. She was very angry that he didn't invite them to the wedding and that he intended on getting married without any family involvement, she covered it up really welll but I knew she was pissed. They even questioned my feelings ab the whole situation. I explained that I constantly pushed him to talk with his mother in the past but eventually just gave in to him doing it in his own time. Well now they want to come to the wedding and our ship is full. I feel so bad bc it's not their fault that they weren't invited and I seem like a bitch for allowing him to do this. They were really nice and they kept telling me how good of a family they have but I thnk they were really embarrassed, as was I. I have no idea how this situation will play out but I think it's unfair that they can't come to the wedding. It's so much more... but this is basically the issue... Please help me out with how to handle this... He was really mean this morning and said it was bc he was rushing but I know how he operates and things are gonna be bad between as he works thru this. I am just so stressed that it's gonna be hard for me to handle all of this at one time.

Ok this may be a rather long story... My FI and I have been together almost 4 yrs (4 yrs in October). After we had been dating for about a year my FI cut off all contact to his family (I was away at college when we first started dating). This was because of an abusive relationship with her, she and I never met, but we talked on the phone a couple times. Once my FI purchased his house he changed his cell number and no longer had any contact with his mother. I knew for a while that they didn't have a good relationship, but the idea of no contact with her was perplexing to me. After ab 2 yrs of dating he finally told me ab their relationship and that she was physically, verbally and emotionally abusive to him. She was not married and is really close to her siblings. He would rather cut her out of his life and have her save face with her family than explain to the family what she did to him. So over the past couple of years his mother would call me maybe 2x a year to check in on him (this is because she only had my cell number and no contact info for him). The convos would always end with her crying and asking me to have him contact her (will continue)

Congrats Erika

Hey ladies do you mind if I join in with you. I'm tryin to get my bm to do this diet as well. Do you all start day 1 on Mondays?

Are you kidding me my fi knows my weight bra size clothes size shoe size.. I know all of his sizes too except his bra size lol. We have been together almost 4 yrs and living together for 6 months I think it'd be impossible for him not to know.

OMG today after I weighed in I had my annual ob gyn appt (We discussed putting me on Clomid s/p?, right after the wedding so I can start popping out babies lol j/k on the popping out babies part, but I am going on clomid bc I have PCOS). Anyway I digress. So I went to get on the scale and the nurse says "ok time to get on the scale" I'm like "OMG I hate this part, I'm such a cow" then the nurse gave me this weird laugh. So I turned around and that's when I noticed that she wieghed at least 200 more lbs than me (only Ann knows how much that would really mean). I got really quiet and felt really bad for her. She's like "yea we all hate the scale" I almost cried for her. I really wasn't trying to be rude but I think I may have hurt her feelings. Also I weighed 2 more lbs than I did at weigh in (this was like 1.5 hrs after my weigh in) the nurse said my clothes adds ab 2 lbs. I'm just like great...

Sounds good carla

I agree I love my banner, it makes me fee so VIP.. Now I'm off to work on making Senior Member status lol. A while again I had banked points and paid for a glitter name thingy but it never came up. It was a bit confusing but I'll try to do it again.

Erika everytime I look at your pic I crack up bc it's like 85 degrees here today lol. My BM was in town this weekend so she picked out her gown and ordered it and everything. She is now soo motivated to the lose some weight bc the alterations lady told her that she could take her gown down 2 sizes. (if the next season starts right after this one I will try to get her to join bdw so she can do the biggest loser with us, she'd have you all cracking up). So now she's on me about losing the weight. I'm doing very well with what I eat but I'm not working out and my weight just stays within the same 5 lbs. I really just wanna give up and buy a pair of spanx....

Welcome Crystal I'm curious as to why you chose to work with a WC in MD vs one in St Thomas It's so easy to work with someone who actually know that area ya know (although I guess you wc may already know the island lol) Maybe you could consult with a St Thomas WC... Well anyway welcome to the thread and happy planning (please don't be offended by my question I'm just nosey. I asked one of my family members and my next door neighbor are both wc's and my fam wanted me to work with someone here as well as someone in st thomas... I'm like no I really can't afford that lol).

I would also say that things like this should go in the contract or something saying that if you are DQ'd you are no longer eligible to continue with any contests. However I know I'd be pissed if I was this person and I didn't get my $ back. I think that's totally unfair. So I still say DQ her and give her and her fi their $$ back.

I think they should be allowed to continue or have their $$ refunded. But yea this issue should def go in the rules for next season (my big weight loss season haha).

I didn't do anything like hang over kits in my oot bags bc I have a few ministers and older family members in my group.

Ann I sent in my pic but my phone shows that it went in at 12:07 am is that why it says that I didn't send anything. I'm sorry I was in the bed when I remembered my weigh in. I didn't realize it was after 12 am when I sent the text.

Wow Vikki congrats, I wanna be you lol. My FI and I are trying to adopt a pit bull. We find out today if we can get her. If not we'll look at another dog. I think having her will def help me with walking and/or jogging. We are trying to adopt her from the SPCA in MD but since neither of us has ever had a pit bull they're really making it hard for us. My fi has a friend who's one of the trainers there and that's how we heard about this dog. I went there yest and fell in love with her, so hopefully we'll get her. Please keep your finger crossed for us. (Sorry this didn't have much to do with weight loss). Also what's the sacred heart diet I'm getting ready to look it up. TTFN.

Hey ladies I'm just about done my OOT bags. I'l just have to purchase a few snacks from sam's like right before we go. I got enough stuff for 45 ppl but we ended up with 39 ppl. So I have a few leftovers. We had 45 ppl rsvd but only 39 have booked thus far. The prices for our cruise have gone up drastically as we are months past the booking deadline so I really doubt that anyone else will book, but if they do we are prepared.

Ok I'm in the minority on this one. I would def send out invites. As some ppl stated invites are like a keepsake. I have alotta ppl who aren't attending my wedding but will probably keep the invites forever (mainly bc Ana DeRoux did an amazing job :-) ). But I did thing differently. I didn't send out STDs just invites 11 months in advance... All of my group has booked at this point thou... Good Luck.

Lol Josie I feel you on the tax thing...

Can I ask you all a question.... Why did you choose to get married in November? That's a question I've been hearing every since I started planning. We had no real reason for choosing November. The anniversary of our 1st date is Oct 6 (we celebrate the anniversary of our first date bc we have no idea when we actually started our relationship. It was just like after our first date we were a couple. I stopped talking to this guy I had been dating, and my FI supposedly wasn't dating anyone else... sorry I digress). We wanted to get married in October but the cruise prices were a bit expensive and it was still hurricane season. So we settled on Nov. Also with my FI's job he chooses not to take big vacations until after June, so a spring wedding would be out. Lastly it just so happened that I chose for us to get married on Marine Corp Birthday and my FI is a retired Marine...Umm so yea that's it in a nutshell. So now we'll get to vacation for our anniversary at the beginning of winter. I love going someplace tropical when it's cold.

Has anyone used the Wilton Print DIY Favor tags? I can't get my printer to print the actual tags, I'm assuming it's bc the paper is shorter than normal paper. Is it possible for me to get it to work

I am so mad that OTC doesn't have those palm tree pens anymore. I'm also not doing the first aid kits anymore either. My bags are just ab done now, and I'll be like $200 under budget...