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Quote: Originally Posted by Rhonda Hi ladies! I just wanted to say good luck to all those with weddings in the next few weeks! I leave tomorrow morning! Yes...still going despite the crazy flu! My friend called me today in a panic, which really annoyed me...who calls the bride the day before she leaves for her wedding in a panic? I'm hoping for the best with this flu thing and hope that everyone makes it safely. I feel like I have no other choice at this point, but, to move forward. Also, my very best friend from high school and bridesmaid called to tell me she probably won't make it now because her dad is seriously ill with pancreatic cancer....i feel so terrible...it's so hard to be happy when she is hurting so much. On a happier note, we got legally married tonight! Yay! Anyway, I plan on posting my planning thread and of course, wedding pics when I return! I leave tomorrow morning too It's just the flu. Have a good trip Rhonda - and a good trip to Blkatz who left this morning ! My parents are already on their flight ! They arrive in Mexico tonight !

Quote: Originally Posted by Blkatz I just spoke to a few good friends that are doctors-and here is their advice...it is the flu. People in Mexico who passed away probably did not have good healthcare and did not realize how serious it was. We bought tons of hand sanitizer and plan on using it. Our dr friend said to make sure you wash your hands and to bring TamiFlu just in case you have flu symptoms. Agree. I'm planning on getting hand sanitizers at walmart or Costco when we get in Mexico and add them to the OOT bags. Can you get Tamiflu over the counter ??

Crap ! I had not thought they could restrict travel... If they don't do it before Wednesday at least we can be there and have our wedding. The only important people will be there - me, and DH...

Quote: Originally Posted by Blkatz I just had 4 guests cancel because of the flu situation. I am besides myself right now. We leave in the morning and I dont know what to do. This is crazy. Flu is in the US and in Canada as well. So, it's the same risk ? Me not understand.

Quote: Originally Posted by yoAzul Ayita are you worried about this swine flu...i know there is a thread already on this but since you are leaving on Tuesday I wanted to get your thoughts...Im worried they are gonna post travel advisories..ugh i'm not worried at all : http://bestdestinationwedding.com/fo...6-4#post777064

Wow 300$ ! I thought these guys were expensive but at least honest ! that sucks ! Hope you have a good trip ! I'm getting all excited too ! Tuesday is so close !!

The bad news is : it exists and it is in Mexico city The good news are : - it's not in the touristical areas - Yucatan or Pacific coast - there is vaccine and it is efficient. - all of the American people that got contaminated recovered. This is because there are efficient medicine. If you catch something flu-like, see a doctor immediately and you will be fine - the odds are really, really, really low that you get this in your stop-over. I was only posting this for people actually travelling to Mexico city. And travelling my kind of travel (ie, I do take the subway, go to popular places, etc) - make sure to throughly wash your hands often. Have some purell gel or similar with you. Less than 2oz so you can take it in the Mexcan flights (US is 3 oz, Mexico 2oz only). I'm sure everybody will be fine !

Quote: Originally Posted by kiki317 I just saw a news report that says if your going to Mexico- don't change your plans and not to worry. Just wash your hands and all of that. Also you cannot get this diesease from eating pork products (thank God cause i love bacon!) don't worry ladies!!! Agree to that. That's the mail I sent to the one of my guests going to Mexico City after the wedding - bacterial wipes, wash hands, avoid subway. Better be safe than sorry, as this is more like SARS than like Flu.

Ooooh girls I'm so excited ! I'm on vacation ! My tables issue just got solved ! My carrying cash issue just got solved (I am going to paypal and add the paypal fees - less expensive than travellers checks anyway) !! I just got some little receipts books from office max to do my receipts and... I feel so excited !

I just wanted to make it clearer : right now it's concerning mostly Mexico DF (ie the capital, Mexico city), not the other areas. We also had two cases in Texas...

Hum, I read in the news that schools and universities were closed today in Mexico to avoid the propagation of flu... and where news is really not good, it would be a swine flu virus, that mutated from pig disease into a human one (like the bird flu). "It's a worrisome new strain that combines genetic material from pigs, birds and humans". It was even recommended to Mexican people not to shake hands and to avoid subway ! Mexico shuts schools in capital in flu scar | U.S. | Reuters BBC NEWS | Americas | Experts probe deadly Mexico flu At Least 20 Dead, Hundreds Ill in Swine Flu Outbreak in Mexico - KTVN Channel 2 - Reno Tahoe News Weather, Video - Apparently the virus first appeared in South USA and propagated to Mexico, mostly Mexico City. If you plan to travel to DF, be careful !

Woops - I realize I put this in Riviera Maya instead of Mexico ! Mods, can you move it ? Sorry !

OK so we're having this VERY interesting discussion in the May 09 thread that I thought would be useful for everybody ! I personnally only discovered this issue today and it leaves me just enough time to get prepared for this... Plus, some already married brides could share their good or bad experience - which would have the advantage of being live experience instead of us elaborating on what could happen... So the whole discussion started in post 923 of the May 2009 thread - were we supposed to bring our receipts with us for the OOT bags and other wedding stuff : http://bestdestinationwedding.com/fo...-93#post775349 Here is the summary of all the info that could be gathered so far : First, what you can find on the Mexico customs site : Aduana México - we're allowed to bring personal belongings, in a reasonable quantity - on top of the personal belongings listed, you can bring up to 300$ per person and this can be grouped per family if you arrive together. So, if you're travel with your already husband, and have the same name, you cna put all your stuff in one suitcase. If it's your FI or you did not change your name yet, allocate the stuff between 2 suitcases so that each of you have no more than 300$ - I understand that above the 300$, they compute customs duties at variable rates, and if you owe less than 50$, they let you go. Over 50$, you have to pay. From the experience / hear say from other ladies : - you'll have no issue if you don't have too much luggage, and/or if your light goes green. But of course if you have a lot, even before the light goes on you can have questions - if they start looking in your suitcases better have your receipts or it can turn nasty... it can also be fine but do you want to try your luck here... - if you have receipts it usually goes fine... - if you did not keep your receipt, make some. You can find templates from microsoft : http://office.microsoft.com/en-us/te...423521033.aspx or buy some paper ones you can fill by hand at Staples or Office Max : Adams Write & Stick Receipt Book, 2-3/4" x 5-3/8", 2 Part | Staples® Here are some useful threads on the subject : http://bestdestinationwedding.com/forum/t18697 http://bestdestinationwedding.com/forum/t18621 http://bestdestinationwedding.com/forum/t28422 http://bestdestinationwedding.com/forum/t6221

Quote: Originally Posted by dbellie1414 I got ya covered on the fake reciepts!!! Go to microsoft.com and under "templates" type in receipts, they'll give ya a template for receipts (that's how I did mine)! Look at the attachment I attached it's the same thing! Also, staples or office max sells forms for reciepts that you can fill out with a pen!!! Yes I bookmarked it earlier today ! found it in another thread, awesome : http://office.microsoft.com/en-us/te...423521033.aspx You can make different ones - they don't all have to look the same ! also what I understand from the customs site, is that even if you're over the limit, they compute your taxes and if you owe less than 50$ you're exempt. ? I think.

OK I found this super useful link in one of the thread that popped out from a search for "customs" in the Riviera Maya forum : Aduana México They say, 300$ per person, can be combined with family, on top of the free stuff listed which is : personal belongings, one camera, one video camera, one cell phone... My flowers alone are more than this... I will have to make up something Just for my peace of mind.

This is my last day at work !! And now I'm worried about this receipt thing, but I'm wondering : it's only for presents right ? Or is it also for your personal items (cloths ?), and the flowers, and the candles ?? Raaa.

And yet another one form Ogden Nash : TIN WEDDING WHISTLE Though you know it anyhow Listen to me, darling, now, Proving what I need not prove How I know I love you, love. Near and far, near and far, I am happy where you are; Likewise I have never larnt How to be it where you aren't. Far and wide, far and wide, I can walk with you beside; Furthermore, I tell you what, I sit and sulk where you are not. Visitors remark my frown Where you're upstairs and I am down, Yes, and I'm afraid I pout When I'm indoors and you are out; But how contentedly I view Any room containing you. In fact I care not where you be, Just as long as it's with me. In all your absences I glimpse Fire and flood and trolls and imps. Is your train a minute slothful? I goad the stationmaster wrothful. When with friends to bridge you drive I never know if you're alive, And when you linger late in shops I long to telephone the cops. Yet how worth the waiting for, To see you coming through the door. Somehow, I can be complacent Never but with you adjacent. Near and far, near and far, I am happy where you are; Likewise I have never larnt How to be it where you aren't. Then grudge me not my fond endeavor, To hold you in my sight forever; Let none, not even you, disparage Such valid reason for a marriage. (Ogden Nash)

We liked this one but decided agianst it because of the rope. However, it is still very uncommon and it was full of meaning for us : Our union, by Hafiz Our union is like this: You feel cold so I reach for a blanket to cover our shivering feet. A hunger comes into your body so I run to my garden and start digging potatoes. You asked for a few words of comfort and guidance and I quickly kneel by your side offering you a whole book as a gift. You ache with loneliness one night so much you weep, and I say here is a rope, tie it around me, Hafiz will be your companion for life.

This one I love. We are not going to read but we put it on the second page of our programs : To Keep Your Marriage Brimming Ogden Nash (1902-1971) To keep your marriage brimming, With love in the loving cup, Whenever you're wrong admit it; Whenever you're right shut up.

Quote: Originally Posted by Maybride2009 You girls are making me nervous about forgetting something! I might as well start packing a month in advance! JUST DO IT ! lol ! Two of my suitcases are ready since two weeks now !! the one with the OOT bags stuff, and the one with the kids stuff and all my little dresses This week-end is big packing week-end ! I did not pack in advance for a trip since I was 13 and my mom was busting my ass !! Serious ! I usually finish 1 hour before leaving - but I Soooooo don't want to forget anything ! I just booked the car to the airport ! Since we're gonna have 6 suitcases (I'm serious...) it would not fit in a normal car, they proposed suburban or stretch limo so I got the stretch ! Yoo-hoo ! you don't leave for your wedding or come back from honeymoon every day !!!!

Quote: Originally Posted by Kristy! FMIL was MOH at her best friend's wedding last year. She totally forgot the groom's ring at home (2 1/2 hours away). Trust me, there are worse things that could happen. They just used the groom's BIL's ring. No one knew the difference. Definitely expect that something will be forgotten. That's just how it works. If it makes you feel better, Carly forgot her dress! Luckily her parents were flying down the next day and brought it for her. I know In my dream we were using our everyday rings : DH wears one already, and we used my e-ring...

Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah ! I dreamt that we had forgotten the bands at home !!!!!!!!!!! No, I'm not stressed

Quote: Originally Posted by mrsm109 Really I'm not sure. He invited me to a dinner with him and his colleges (which for the most part I can't go because of babysitter reasons, honestly I've never been to go in the 3 years he has been with the company) but today I could. As soon as I said I could he stumbled around and said he would have to call me back. When he did he said sorry he was mistaken, I was no longer invited. Each time it always is like this. I was hurt because a few months ago he said he was embarrassed of me. When we decided to get married he said things would be different, but there not. When he uninvited me my feelings were hurt. He then told me I wasn't understanding and he didn't want to marry someone like me. I'm crushed. I don't even know what to say. I'm embarrassed to tell the people close to me. Thank you so much for listening. We really do (as far as I knew) had a great relationship. I just don't know what to do now...I'm so hurt I'm so sad and so sorry that you have to go through this ! Specially knowing you have kids and the whole situation must be even more difficult to deal with in those circumstances... Something is striking me in the post above : if you were in a "great relationship", as you said you thought, what is it that needed to be "changed" after you get married ? It sounds to me that he has been already doing/saying things that were hurting you in the past, and that maybe you did not want to notice/consider because you are so attached to your relationship with him. You also say you don't know what to do without him. I think he knows it and I think this is where something is not going well in here - he's taking advantage of it. When they have a person that is dependable on them, certain men like to take advantage of the situation. He likes to have you at home and nowhere else so that he can be free of what he's doing outside ? Telling you he's "embarassed of you" and he "does not want to marry somebody like you" so that you can feel dimished and don't even try and fight... Another thing that makes me think this is the way it is, is that he says he does not want to marry someone like you, but then - what does he want ? Is he waiting for "the one" to show up and he will leave you and the kids altogether ? Well, if the answer is yes, then YOU should NOT want to marry him and grab your kids and go ! If the answer is no, then he is manipulating you... to keep you under his control ? To keep you from interefering with something else ? I don't have these answers. I'm very sorry to write all this. Both answers are ugly and I realize this... In both cases we have a guy that has children with you but thinks you're not "worth marrying" or even doing things with...This is unacceptable. Sometimes, it takes a lot of courage to face the reality of the situation. Specially if you have been in a relationship with a man that diminishes you - your moral, your state of mind can be very low. Your objectivity can be hindered. You may be in a situation where you actually believe you're not worth a lot... The good news is, if we are in the second option, and if you want to try and save this relationship, that things can still change, but the change has to come primarily from you, not him. Obviously, he has issues, but you're not going to convince him of that... On the other hand, you have to gain self-confidence. You have to believe, genuinely, that you deserve respect, love, and that you can live without him, that you're not dependable. Everybody deserves respect and love, and on this I will agree with Marie-Sam - no man can tell you that you embarass him. But you have to believe it and act as such. If he thinks that he can tell you that he's embarassed with you, that he can tell you you're not the kind of person he wants to marry, and that you'll just eat it up and nothing happens, he'll just think he can lack of respect for you all along and things are not going to get any better. You have to show him this is not that way. But the first person that needs to respect you is yourself. You owe it to yourself. I think counselling would help you a lot in this very long and difficult path of re-finding yourself and re-discovering how wonderful a person you are. After doing this, you will probably know what to do better than any of us. This is probably hard to read and you may not agree with everything, but you should think about it...

Wow. I've used Expedia for years - and I mean, up to 50 trips a year. Hotels, flights, cars. Never had an issue. Did I get lucky ?

I had no problem n my side, but I registered with the site *first* and checked the box saying I did not want to receive offers from partners...