so I decided to move to my parents in New Brunswick....get a new start at life....the hard thing is that he will always be in my life because we have children....I will always let him see them whenever he wants and eventually move back after I have had time to heal and get my stuff in order....
It's surprising how common this is when people think that they have found "the one." The same thing happened to me 5 yrs ago, minus the kids, and I caught him cheating which is why he was so distant and messed up about the wedding. Imediately, I changed the locks and packed his things and delivered them to a buddy of his for pick up. I needed to gain control over my life, which is the best thing I could have done. All it was for several weeks was me in a daze and a state of limbo wondering what was going on and him being absent and not talking about the problem. So, that's my recommendation to you: GAIN CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE. Remember that people will treat you the way you allow them to and his behaviour to you is unacceptable. Do not let him have the control over your life now, don't move if you really don't want to, yes he has access to the kids but don't allow him to use that excuse to see what you're up to in your new life.