Lady_Di

Quote: Originally Posted by Future Mrs. G We could and FI offered, but that is not something I want to do. That would just absolve him of any responsibility and commitment to me as a father. Even if we did pay, who knows if they would actually show up?!?! I have visions of SM at the last minute pulling some stunt and he wouldn't show up. My mom contributed money towards the wedding and she would be very upset with me if I paid for his trip. The way I see it, he made that choice and he has to live with it. We're not going to let it ruin our day! That does make sense. He will regret it when he sees your godfather giving you away! Enjoy your wedding day, no matter what!

Quote: Originally Posted by Future Mrs. G UPDATE They're not coming citing financial difficulties. It hasn't sunk in yet, I'm still trying to absorb the news. He told FI & I in the restaurant and TOLD ME NOT TO BE UPSET AT HIM!! I'm sad, angry, disappointed and deeply hurt. I feel that I'm not important to him or a priority. As I've said in a previous post, they've known about this since June 2008 (1 year & 4 months). Since we got engaged, they bought a manufactured home and a tent trailer. I'm trying not to be upset at someone who clearly doesn't give a shit about the most important day in my life. FI and I are totally doing our DW our way and I'm going to ask my godfather to give me away. I know he'll be tickled pink to do it. If my dad figures out a way to come, he can sit and watch for all I care. I'm sorry for my babbling post. I'm experiencing so many emotions now I don't know where to start. Thanks for listening ladies. gosh, im so sorry to hear that! is there a way for you guys to pay for his trip?

Quote: Originally Posted by Meyer2010 Ladi Di, Did you just email her some questions or a request for a quote? I sent her a request for a quote and it took about 5 days to see a response from her. I know they are really busy so just be patient! I know its hard but it will be worth it! I think I'll be finalizing my order next week. I'm sooooo excited!!! Good Luck! ~ Erica She replied back today and i will be ordering a sample from her! Sometimes, just need to be patient since you know we, brides, want to hear from a vendor ASAP! hehe

Quote: Originally Posted by Lady_Di I loveee the starfish sandals! I clicked on the thread you pasted for the pink sandals but it redirected back to the main forum. Could u let me know what company or where to get them?? Never mind, i found them and bought them for my bridesmaids. I just LOVE them!!

loveeeee the pictures! gosh, i dont know if i will be able to let myself go for TTD. i'm so shy! haha, our TTD will be next day and i hope we won't be too drunk. sigh..i'm concerned about my FI. he tends to get drunk sometimes. i cant wait for our time!!

For anyone that got in touch with Sharon, how long does she usually respond to emails? I emailed her yesterday about getting a sample but no reply. Maybe i'm just being too impatient! haha

I loveee the starfish sandals! I clicked on the thread you pasted for the pink sandals but it redirected back to the main forum. Could u let me know what company or where to get them??

oh good that they will send someone to the resort! i think we have to pay a pass for them to come, right? could you find out when you are down there for a site visit at The Royal?

Quote: Originally Posted by SSNM Ceremony no; reception yes! Would you ever perform a strip tease for your FH? Nooo, I'm so shy! I guess you can call me a prude! Would you ever have a threesome with your DH & other girl?

Quote: Originally Posted by jennieestelle Does anyone know how long it usually takes for someone from the Royal to get back to you to confirm your wedding date? I faxed in the form with my $200 deposit last week and haven't heard back from them yet. I am just really wanting to get my official date set so I can send out invitations! Thanks! Just email them again. That is what I did. she didnt send me the confirmation until I asked her.

Quote: Originally Posted by echo2_62 Mel - I really liked these dresses too!! I'm sitting down with my BM's tonight (one lives out of town but is here for a visit) so that we can go through these. We'd been looking at the loose fit convertible dress otherwise. I'll see what they think though because I'd really rather have them buy something they can wear again - that's why I'm now in love with VS dresses!!! I'm buying all the shoes for both my bm's, FI and the gm from Dessy Accessories and you can have the girls flip-flops custom coloured to match your dresses, or at least accent them in whichever colour you want. There are three calgary bridal stores listed that they work with so you could probably check with one of them to see if they have the colour swatches in store to compare? I don't know that for sure yet though but will have to check myself once we know our dress colours... i bought two of VS dresses and i did not like them. they definitely showed the panties lines so the girls would have to wear thongs. they also showed my stomach which isn't exactly attractive. so i went with another dress at Macy's. so i would recommend you to just buy that dress and see how it looks...if u dont like it then you just return it, only losing the $$ for shipping & handling.

I love Sharon's work! I emailed her to get a sample for this bouquet!!

Quote: Originally Posted by SSNM I think so...if I liked the house. Would you eat your FMIL's dinner if you really didn't like it but didn't want to hurt her feelings? Yes, I would! Would you ever wear a wig like Kim on Real Housewives of Atlanta?

great great show! i smiled the whole time... too many hilarious scenes and the scene at the end with pam leaning her head on jim's shoulder brought a lump in my throat!

Quote: Originally Posted by jesmcan Hi Ladies, Did anyone ask by any chance about getting married at Pelicanos? Do they allow this? If so does anyone know what there max amount of people is? My ceremony will be at the beach by Pelicanos...if that's what you meant.

I've been watching Modern Family. Sofia Vergas is gorgeous! My man is drooling over her.

I think I am going with a friendship bracelet with their intitals enraved and a tote bag. I already paid for their dresses and am in process of paying for their sandals. I think I may pay for their makeup/hair the day of the wedding. Maybe I don't need to get them gifts if I am paying for their dress, sandals, makeup and hair?? What do you think?

Quote: Originally Posted by amandseth I totally sympathize with your situations, but honestly, there is not a lot you can do to avoid the straglers. Pushing too hard may just put people off coming all together. As brides, its so easy to get caught up in the need to know mentality, especially when looking at preparing OOT bags and making decisions on outings. But as an invited guest, they are just looking at weighing the financial implications with the obvious great time they will have. Many people can not make this decision so far in advance, and need to see where they are at financially closer to the actual date. Hopefully though, you will get that feedback and be able to at least know how many guests are thinking of coming and estimate how many you will have. If you need to adjust the number a couple weeks before the wedding day, the resorts and tour operators will have no problem accommodating you on a couple weeks notice. As for yout OOT bags, buy 5-10 extra items beyond your estimate. If you don't use them, you can always try selling them to another BDW member after your event. I hate to see you lovely ladies stressing over your RSVP's, with still so much time left before the wedding. There's not much you can do about it, so there is no sense in worrying. It will all come together in the end, and as long as you and the grrom say your vows, that's what ultimately matters, right? Your guests will have a great time regardless of if they didn't get an item in their OOT bag, or missed out on a tour. It's ok to lay out an expectation to return your RSVP's by a certain date, but I really advise against pressuring your guests too much. They have to sacrifice time and money from thier own lives to attend your event, and you may come off as unappreciative of that if you begin making demands. great post...it is easy for us brides to get caught up with our planning and not see it from the invited guest's point of view!

Quote: Originally Posted by KRama Yuck, that's no fun. Don't you just wish that your attractive, intelligent friends could just fine attractive, intelligent men?? As for your friend, is there someone else that she may be able to invite to stay with her? I have a similar situation with my bridesmaid. Her husband is refusing to come, says it's a waste of money (WTF That's a whole new story...). She was concerned about paying extra and staying alone so I told her she could bring a friend, her cousin, her mom...whoever to take his place! yeah this is a good idea! encourage your friend to bring someone...he sounds like a LOSERRRR.

I just don't want people to be booking like a few weeks before my wedding because I want to surprise my guests with a catamaran the day before the wedding and I can't reserve if i don't know how many people will be coming and i also definitely don't want to pay for people who won't show up after RSVPing yes. I am debating if I should be straightforward in my invites which will be sent out early Jan, something like "you will not get a dinner plate if you do not book by April" i dont know if that will be considered rude or tacky!

Booooo! My FMIL was not supportive at first but now she accepted the idea that we are going to get married in Mexico, regardless.

i am in the same boat as you...as of now, no one has booked. it is just me and my fiance and it's almost 7 months from now. i sent our STDs in august and i'm not gonna stress about it until i send my invitations in january THEN i am going to stress about it.

Quote: Originally Posted by flipflop.tee You FI man crush might be Johnny Depp since he's dressed up as him playing Willy Wonka...lol You got a point, girl! Hehe.

Quote: Originally Posted by Jtswedding NOOOO!!!! I try when I was like 12 bad bad experience would you ever spend your whole pay check on a pair of shoes? No, that would just hurt too much! If I made lot of $$ then sure!! Would you ever give up one of your kidneys to a stranger?

Quote: Originally Posted by Melidell Yes! What a cool experience- but maybe only for one night lol. Would you ever drive on an ice road? no, i'm too scared to try that! would you ever flirt with a married man?