I am having sort of the same issues but have definitely made up my mind. If it is very important for you to have your family there, then I think you should try to come up with some type of compromise like you stated having something in your state. We discussed ahead of time about the possibility of family not attending and decided we would be ok with whoever decided to come even if our family did not. Fortunately for me, my family is excited about going to Las Vegas, but his mom & dad are saying they can't come! Not sure what their final decision will be but we are going to Vegas - even if it's just the two of us.