I think several brides go through this in some form of fashion when they decide to have a destination wedding because others feel it is inconvenient. But like you told your family and like I told a few people as well, it is about why my fiance and I want and no one else. We are having ours in Las Vegas so the cost is not really too much but his mom just got over arguing with us about our location. He finally just told her that unless she is paying for the entire wedding that it WILL BE in Las Vegas, NV. We are paying for everything ourselves so everyone else will have to deal with it - come or not - the wedding will go on.