like the other girls stated, what is the issue with him accompanying you guys to the wedding? you hinted at other family financial issues or maybe the resort is not kids friendly? Last minute we had to leave our son at home (he is 2) because due to his illness he could not fly out given the condition he was in. So we had to cancel all plans for him literally a week before. We were saddened, however, we did check in multiple times a day and celebrated before we left. Hope this helps..