i also had a bit of a problem with my parents, they were like no ones going to go and to me i don't care. who ever is meant to be there will. the important people will make it. i had to break in down in $ for my dad. average wedding in nyc 50 - 60, 000 and thats low. what do you make in envelopes maybe 20-25 if your luckey. therfore your out 40,000. ok destination wedding, max with everything 15,000 and thats high. no envelopes only out 15,000. its a no brainer:) lol he than saw it my way, lol.