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Quote: Originally Posted by Afrommert I asked my fiance about this. He laughed and said we are only there for 5 night and he's spending all 5 night with me Then I talked to one of my bridesmaids and asked if my fiance could stay the night before the wedding with them, she laughed and said NO WAY MAN lol, they are only coming for the weekend and want those nights to themselves So there ya have it i guess..... I think your FI is sweet for being old fashioned Awww, that's really sweet!!! Maybe my FI want's time off before the life time commitment I don't blame him! We're going to be in Mexico for 12 days so we plan on spending a good 5 of those days with guests and after the wedding we're moving to another hotel for some us time

Quote: Originally Posted by thefuturemrslutz I wonder how strict the resorts are going to be on these "start times" and end times...I am having the same problem trying to decide when to do everything. Right now I am looking at 6:00 wedding...6:30-7:30 cocktail...7:30-whenever reception. Question: Are you guys taking all your pics before the wedding? Or are yall waiting to see your FI at the wedding and taking joint pics after the ceremony? Do you have a time cut off on your reception? Ours is 11pm at AS so that's why a lot of us are having earlier receptions. My sunset time is 7:15pm which is perfect as the sun will be setting during cocktail hour & a half which is when I'm taking pictures. Despite me and my practicality of wanting to take pictures BEFORE the ceremony as I wasn't originally planning on having a cocktail hour, FI put his foot down and said he ABSOLUTELY wasn't seeing me before the wedding and it was bad luck. We're not even staying together the night before, he said he'll go crash with his BM (who's coming with his fiance so I don't know how she'll feel about that) but who knew he was so old fashioned?

Quote: Originally Posted by meghan hmmmm....i have not been told yet that I could do that. Amy suggested it and said that is what she is doing. Amy, have you been told that you can start your reception at 7? I think I'm the Amy you're referring to I was never given any rules on what time I could and couldn't start and my spreadsheet with Karisma states all these times so no problems there. My coordinator also told me yesterday that any changes to your plans can be made at the resort once you're there. That made me feel a little better.

Quote: Originally Posted by Katie_2010 haha I promise to learn Nicole but only after I've made it to senior member!! lol I want my blue banner!! haha I knew it! I was gonna bust you and tell Nicole, she's trying to get that banner! LOL, I too did the same thing

Quote: Originally Posted by Afrommert Underneath dyed pink Sorry about the sideway pics, im new at this posting pics deal lol Your dress looks so pretty!!! What designer is that? It's a trumpet/mermaid right?

Quote: Originally Posted by ~Crista-Lee~ I love your idea! It's a win win solution. We've actually agreed to sit down tonight and just plan, discuss and conquer! The wine is already chilling in the fridge.... Perrrrrrrrfect! I love that, when FI and I can just go, let's chat over a glass of wine, I know things will get done then

Quote: Originally Posted by meghan omg I just realized that the reception for a private event is only 4 hours...I thought it went to 11 pm! This means if our reception starts at 5:30, our party and dancing is over at 9:30!! If we want to go later we have to purchase an extra hour and half....god only knows how much that will cost. Has anyone else been told about this? Is anyone doing a cocktail party? If so, how much is costing you per person approximately? I'm having a cocktail reception on the wooden palapas on the beach. It's $10 per person for an hour and a half, open bar & 5 passed hor'derves. 5:30pm - 7:00pm with dinner immediately after. We'll probably go to the disco @ 11pm

Quote: Originally Posted by ~Crista-Lee~ My Groomzilla struck again this evening... He's asked me to compile all of my lists and to put together a list of costs and get this... do a proposal. I understand that he has that type A personality and that he is concerned about costs getting out of control. He also wants the invitations done right away because he's scared people are going to book their vacations for the year soon. I understand his anxieties but part of me just wants to make him do the all of the planning to avoid frustrations and my own stress from getting out of control. I know we'll look back and laugh at of this eventually, I'm just hoping we don't lose our minds in the next 9 months... it could be a very long 9 months and I can only imagine what more we have to do and haven't even thought of.... I think it's time for a glass of wine! Haha! Oh man... pardon my bluntness but I have been called a Type A personality quite a few times myself and this is what I would do to gain the upper hand (first thing that came to mind anyways): I would have accepted to requested proposal and put every piece of information together, complete with pictures, spreadsheets and all the details and presented it on my laptop. I would have dressed up, thrown on some of my now copious amounts of lingerie, highest heels I've got and do the presentation seriously... slightly teasing though, he wouldn't be able to focus, it would totally throw him off. You have your way, in more than one, bam!

Quote: Originally Posted by ~Crista-Lee~ My Groomzilla struck again this evening... He's asked me to compile all of my lists and to put together a list of costs and get this... do a proposal. I understand that he has that type A personality and that he is concerned about costs getting out of control. He also wants the invitations done right away because he's scared people are going to book their vacations for the year soon. I understand his anxieties but part of me just wants to make him do the all of the planning to avoid frustrations and my own stress from getting out of control. I know we'll look back and laugh at of this eventually, I'm just hoping we don't lose our minds in the next 9 months... it could be a very long 9 months and I can only imagine what more we have to do and haven't even thought of.... I think it's time for a glass of wine! Haha! Oh man... pardon my bluntness but I have been called a Type A personality quite a few times myself and this is what I would do to gain the upper hand (first thing that came to mind anyways): I would have accepted to requested proposal and put every piece of information together, complete with pictures, spreadsheets and all the details and presented it on my laptop. I would have dressed up, thrown on some of my now copious amounts of lingerie, highest heels I've got and do the presentation seriously... slightly teasing though, he wouldn't be able to focus, it would totally throw him off. You have your way, in more than one, bam!

Quote: Originally Posted by Katie_2010 Oh and amy, can you add 'wedding cake' to my list of things I need to get done? No need to repost it until you do the next update though see this is why I'm not sleeping - I'm in bed trying to sleep and had to log on here on my iPhone to say about the wedding cake because I'm worrying about it and keep forgetting! It's been added!

Quote: Originally Posted by thefuturemrslutz ha we are doing the same thing tonight! I cannot handle the arguing! After reading your posts about your Fi saying, "lemme run to the bathroom, wait I'm hungry; after my smoke...," I am beginning to think you live with MY FI!!!! hahaha maybe they should hang out! LOL!! Well when you come to LA, we know we can stick them together and we'll go have fun

Quote: Originally Posted by Katie_2010 omg, all these posts about FI has made my night!! (it's 11pm in the UK) I'm soooo not laughing at you, but you all telling your stories has been hilarious lol i have to give credit where credits due, FI seems to have been much more involved that most on here...but don't kid yourselves that that's necessarily a good thing!! it's only because he has to have an opinion on absolutely everything (even if he knows nothing about it) and just means we have to 'discuss' every single little detail. you're all getting 'YOUR' day...I'm getting chris's!! lol (ok bit of an exaggeration but just giving a different perspective from someone who's FI is the opposite!) I can't remember who said it on here but it did remind me of my FI - I do all the legwork and DIY stuff, and then he looks at it and states all the things he doesn't like about it and what i should do with it to make it better!! it's like he's my boss!! the jobs i've given him to do I have no idea how he's doing with them coz everytime I ask him what's happening with them he tells me 'to chill out and stop hassling him - he's got it all under control'....AARRRGGGGHHHH that makes me panic even more!! haha lol but I do know he's started on his speech and he's taking it really, really seriously so I'll take the rest with a pinch of salt anybody else find that the closer you get to the wedding, the more arguments you have?? we've been bickering over stupid things (both of us) most of this week!! think we're both stressing a bit and I've not slept through the night for the past 2 weeks so i'm tired and probably a bit ratty too. for gods sake...who'd get married?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!??!?!?!?!?! hehe Yeah to be honest, if FI was putting in his 2 cents it would be worse, I'm the bossy controlling outspoken one in the relationship so if he challenged me on any of my ideas it would probably lead to an all out brawl. This past week we have bickered almost every day! I had a talk with him today at lunch (since we work together) and we agreed to have specific days to work on wedding stuff where he can't give me a million excuses of why he can't try on a vest for 30 seconds

Quote: Originally Posted by Katie_2010 oh oh oh, you have to find out!! We will defo have to try and meet up, it will be great! you should so come and check out my hotel too!! Yes! I would love that! What time is your wedding on Friday? I have a welcome cocktails thing @ 7:30pm for my guests.

OR Amy - You can even do grey converse if you wanted to!! http://lindseyjanies.files.wordpress...6/5457ac-w.jpg http://media.theknot.com/ImageStage/...arge_image.jpg Converse with a suit ok or no? > Clothing http://blog.weddingpaperdivas.com/wp...se-wedding.jpg My BF wore white Converse for her wedding that we relaced with pretty white ribbon and glued white flowers to it, super cute and her husband also wore white Converse, all the groomsmen had black Converse.

Quote: Originally Posted by Afrommert I may be totally down with the converse, but it sounds pricey?? How much are they Its such a great idea... You can find Converse for around $30, just standard black ones. I'm doing to be looking to see if I can get it cheaper. I'll also let you know because sometimes during holidays Converse.com gives a 20% off coupon and free shipping so don't worry I'm on it!

OMG, I hope you get better soon! Just try to relax because stress won't help whatever's going on. Just focus on getting better and maybe it will end up not being quite so serious (I hope) and things will all work out. You're in my thoughts and wishes!!

Quote: Originally Posted by meghan haha that's really funny about your DH getting upset about trying on flip flops lol. I made Matt feel really bad about not doing the invites like he said he would, and when I woke this morning, he had a whole bunch done that he had worked on last night....guess you just gotta put your foot down and let them know how upsetting it is when they don't do things they say they will. I think they just don't get it and it's not as important to them. I have set time aside to get them done now. All tonight we are working on them and he is not going anywhere till they are done! That's awesome!!! See no need to be stressed, after all of our stories you can probably tell that you actually have it easier than most of us My FI wouldn't have done what yours did, he would have forgot again

Quote: Originally Posted by ~Crista-Lee~ Meghan - I can totally relate to your stress right now. Funny thing is, it's over a very similar issue. My FI was pretty much hands off but every time I went to make a decision on something he suddenly had an opinion. The latest is with the invitations. We decided on passport invites, I put together examples and designs as our friend who is designing them for us. After a week (yesterday) my FI came back to me with all of these "proposed changes" and thoughts on how it should be done. When I sat down last night to go over this with him... he wanted nothing to do with it and pretty much told me that I was really falling behind with all of this wedding planning stuff and that I've barely done anything! Are you freakin' kidding me? Needless to say I then promptly proceeded to the a pub with friends for a drink last night. I just now finished emailing him a very long email with examples of wordings... I think I have a groomzilla who magically thinks things are just going to get done and it's not very much fun. !!!! I would have smacked my FI upside the head if he told me that... My FI isn't like that, his favorite response is "I don't care." or "what do YOU think"... which I reply, I JUST told you what I thought now it's YOUR turn"... which he replies "I don't really think anything about it" <--- what is that?! Good luck girl, the passport invites I JUST finished the design finalization for was really tough stuff, there is SO much that goes into them, I keep asking myself why do I have an invite that's 6 pages long?! That's too much info!! Hee hee

Quote: Originally Posted by Afrommert lol, im lovin these men do nothing, because i can totally relate. I called my fh and asked him what he was doing (and he is very persistant on antagonizing me about what "he" wants to wear in the wedding). So his response was im at footlocker, i said cool, what your getting, he said tennis shoes for the wedding ceremony AHHH, im gonna jump out of my own skin. He hates dress shoes and hates dressing up, i dont know why this bothers me so much. Maybe because this is the one and only time he HAS to do this and he is NOT wearing tennis shoes with his suit, im gonna kill him. Pray for him that he makes it to mexico in 24 days!!!!!!!!!!! lol. LOL!!!!!!!!!!! This is amazing, what is he thinking?! He can't wear althetic sneakers to the wedding!!!! Ok this is what I did for my FI and he loves it so much he actually spoiled the BM's gift.... idiot. I came up with the idea to make his BM custom Converse with his name on the back and everything, FI insisted he get some too because it was so cool and I said ok, these will be your wedding shoes ok? He was like a little girl about this, told his BM immediately and I got so mad at him!! So these are cool, I made everything off white to fit the vintage tone of the wedding and I'm having all the GM's wear Converse as well. Would this work for your FI? I know it's not dressy but I've seen it in weddings and I think it looks so adorable on the boys.

Quote: Originally Posted by ~Nicole~ Haha Amy, I was dying laughing at your explanation of trying on the vest. That is my DH to a T! I remember I was super stressed and I had spent hours and hours researching some things I was intersted in. His flip flops came in (yes, I ordered them online lol) and I asked him to try them on. He jumpd off the couch and said "Holy F*CK, why do I have to do everything?" I looked at him like, what are you talking about... you haven't had to do anything! LOL. He was so put out. Oh and he made a huge deal about putting his pants on so that I could pin them, drive them to the cleaners, pick them up for him a few days later and give them to him. Geez, so much work on his end..... idiot lol. P.S he never tried them on after they were hemmed to make sure they were ok... it was "too much work". I'm sending my FI out to stay with you because their twins separated at birth... LOL!!! The sad thing is, I'm sure you know, I'm not even exaggerating... word for word that's how it went down. My favorite is when we start arguing and he says, "I do SO much for the wedding, give me a break!" Then I love going, oh please list out all you've gotten done... he always mentions, I helped with all the gluing of the save the dates!!!! We did this last May... and this is always what he tries to "throw in my face" yet we both equally did them. He's literally done nothing all by himself.

Quote: Originally Posted by snoopAsh I am FINALLY sending out my invites today! I am so happy to get this off of my list of things to do! http://bestdestinationwedding.com/fo...0/#post1145335 OMG, this must feel amazing, I'm jealous! My invites to me have been in the works for 5 months now.... they will go out next month!

Quote: Originally Posted by renee1811 I think all of our fiances are the same! My fiance said he really wanted to help with the save the dates; I had a few girlfriends who offered, but my fiance was dead-set that he wanted to help. I set an evening to do it, he made ONE and then decided he wanted to go play Halo instead---gah!! From now on, all of the DIY projects are going to be done with my girlfriends, lol. AmyB, I think you should do the backdrop and make it as incredibly cheesy as possible AmyKH, I LOVE LOVE LOVE your BD pics! You look absolutely stunning. After seeing yours, I was motivated to start going to the gym/eating better. My session is at the end of March, so I have some time to get in shape! LOL!! I have to block off an agreed amount of time with FI and literally kibosh the tv and computer and he just finds excuse after excuse!!! Last night for example I asked him to try on his vest to see if he wanted to keep it or not (waiting now for a month) he says "oh I have to go to the bathroom"... ok that's done, now try it on, "I'm hungry, let me eat first"... ok done, go try it on "after my smoke"... fine, now he's laying down on the couch and watching tv... ok so try it on now, "later" <---- this is where I typically snap and rip his head off. What is this process, this is what I go through EVERY time I ask him to do something for me related to the wedding. Thank you so much! You have plenty of time, I waited until about 1 month out to REALLY crack down and get crazy on my diet and exercise. I need to now get back into it because I gave myself a week off after the shoot.

Quote: Originally Posted by amybermuda Paradise Catamarans are awesome. There was a girl Carrie on here who got married at AS and she used them twice during her wedding week and raved about them. We are paying for transport to and from our hotel (50 mins) and then alcohol for the drinks and snacks for everyone. I believe we have 35 people going and the total is just over $2100. Fi's parents are paying for it like the "Rehearsal Dinner" we would have had if we'd had a traditional wedding. We literally booked this last night. You pay 20% down and then the rest you can mail a check a week before you leave to their address in Rhode Island. Also, we are doing a trip to Selevatica for the zipline tours which is $90 pp including transport from our hotel. Lastly, we are doing a night in Cancun clubbing. The RT vans are like $250 each and carry 12 people. I used Riveria Maya Excursions for this. DJs: What is this about 3500 for the bells and whistles DJ? I saw $1500 for a DJ on the price sheet and thats it, I didn't know there are options for DJs? I was really hoping that $1500 would include the balloons, glow bracelets, and the other props. Wow, this is all information that I needed! I want to do a zip line tour and also know that we planned on renting vans for transportation into Cancun for my bachelorette party Thanks so much for this info!

Quote: Originally Posted by Afrommert taylorwd, THANKS, ill check into that for sure? Do you mind me asking how much you guys paid?? OH and girls, somthing really funny.... we decided to dance our way down the isle... OMG this is going to be so fun. My bridesmaid is a chorographer and shes putting our fun dance together right now, were alll dancing down to good night by black eyed p's!!! here is our inspiration: YouTube - Broadcast Yourself. then search jk wedding entrance LOL, AWESOME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! im so excited to have some fun!!!! And only 2 ppl in the wedding party know as of today, im having a wedding party meeting here at my house next week and im serving margaritas and then were going to play the youtube video of a regular traditional ceremony, then play them a dance one and say you pick one!! lol! im super geeked! hopefullly we get everyone into it. Thank god i have a fun group of ppl in my wedding right!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! AMY I LOVE IT!!! Ever since that JK wedding video came out my bridesmaids and mom have been encouraging me to do it. I totally would I just didn't even know what to choose but Good Night by the BEP is PERFECT!!! You better have someone recording this... and you better share it with us!! I can't wait!

Quote: Originally Posted by Katie_2010 oh wow...where does his family live? maybe I know them!! haha I know, me too!! It's going to be soooo weird being in Mexico knowing you're there too and so close! and for once, we'll be in the same time zone too!! lol never know, could end up 'bumping' into you round Playa Del Carmen or Cancun!! Ooo good question, I don't know where they live. I know! I wish you'd come crash my wedding, that would be awesome Absolutely, I'll be out there Monday, May 3rd with my laptop so let me know if you want to meet