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Quote: Originally Posted by bcbride I finally made a decision between 2 Maggie dresses and I chose the RD 1044! Yay!! RD1044 - by Maggie Sottero HI I am also a Maggie Bride and I too chose the RD1044. I have never seen it in person but it looks great on the wesbite. Do you have a picture of you in it? I'd love to see what it looks like on a "real person" and not all photoshopped on the model. My dress should be in next month. Crossing fingers! There is no boutique in my area that carries this dress so I am a tad bit nervous about how its going to look. The Ireland, which is the same cut was fantastic on, so I know the Rd1044 will fit me right, just worried about the flowers, since I am a busty bride, but we'll see soon.....

I have been WAITING SO LONG for someone to say that they have a pic of themselves in this dress because no store in my area carries the sample. I am the OP of this thread and I actually bought this dress without ever trying it on, with high hopes that it will look great, but I am super nervous, so I'd love to see your pics because they will me see what it looks like on a "real" person, and not some "model chick." I just sent you an email requesting pics. I'd love to see! BTW, my dress comes in April and as soon as I get it I will upload pics for you all to see!

*sigh* same story, different bride! I know how you feel all too well. I too have a march deadline and gave people @ 2 FREAKIN YEARS to save their money and book. But nooooooo, they want to wait until the very last minute to make their deposit payments and complain about how "its too much money". PuhLEASE. I send out reminder emails every month as everyone was on a payment plan, but to no avail! You're not alone.

Oh wow, I like that broom! Where did you get it? I plan on jumping the broom as well but I have no clue about decorating it. You're supposed to put it in your house and frame it (so I've heard) so I don't want it to look tacky. I would love to see pics of your broom once decorated.

I have also heard the "Oh if it was only Turks and Caicos" comments and its mainly from people who have never been to Jamaica, who "heard" negative things. Since the time of my original post in this thread, I have actually embraced the idea of a smaller wedding. I decided not to have a bridal party/groomsmen (a headache on its own), which has saved hundreds of dollars and I can splurge a little on other stuff like favors and upped the package with my photographer. I invited 150, so far 15 are on board. Oh well. Anyone having the Jamaican wedding blues, please know that this will pass and at the end of the day as long as the most important people are there, its all good!

Quick background info: I was expecting about 65 guests. It looks like I may have about 30-35. I have 2 MOHs 4 BMs and 2 Junior BMS (my little sisters), so already there are alot of girls in the party. Here are the problems: 1. My 2 Moh's/best friends since 7th grade are acting like a$$holes! They haven't paid ANYTHING towards the wedding deposit, which is DUE March 1 and I gave them 2 years to plan. Funny thing is they were the ones that were the most excited when I got engaged and encouraged us to have a destination wedding. Now, they keep saying the economy has them strapped, but its complete bull because they are actually making MORE money than they were before the economic downturn and nothing has affected them personally (i.e. foreclosure, job loss, etc.) They don't want to go to try on BM dresses. They always complain about the fact that they don't have a man, which is annoying, like I should guilty because I do have one and I don't rub it in, believe me. Just recently, one of my MOHs told me that she would be fine just sitting in the audience! Well, gee thanks! 2. 2 of my other BMs have also expressed that they don't care one way or the other if they are in the wedding. The other one, I don't barely even talk to. Here are my questions 1. Should I just drop the whole bridal party idea? I don't want to have people by my side that don't care to be there. I haven't done anything wrong, except find a man that loves me and it seems like they can't be happy for me. Instead, they just bitch and complain about their situation and how they can't find a man and they are never getting married and blah, blah, blah. I have been a good friend and I am not pushy at all when it comes to the wedding. I tried to make sure that the dresses I chose were dresses that were affordable and can be worn again. I told them not to worry about a big lavish bach. party, because I did not want them to spend more money than they already will to come to Jamaica for the wedding. I don't even talk about my relationship with my FI because I know that they are so fixated on the fact that they don't have a man than I don't want to make them feel worse by telling them how happy I am. It's all stupid and trivial, I know, but its the way it is. I thought these were my girls, but it seems like they just aren't the least bit enthused about being in the wedding or even attending the wedding. 2. Is anyone not having any bms? What do you do instead? 3. If you have no BMs, who throws your bach party. Do they still do it? Do you do it yourself? So confused and sad

Hi, I am getting married at Moondance in June and we booked the entire resort initially now, we have only about 20 people that will be able to stay at the villas (some are staying offsite) and we gave everyone a deadline to pay for their deposits. The deadline we chose is a week before the deadline that Moondance gives us to cancel villas without penalty (for us its March 11). Soooo, by March 1, whoever has not booked, will be automatically dropped from the resort and we will just roll with who we have on that day. We set up payment plans for all those who said they were going to come and gave them a deadline for the last payment. Otherwise, if you cancel later, you may find yourself paying a cancellation fee if you have to cancel villas. We were very confident that we would have the whole place booked at first, but many surprises came along the way. FYI.

Hi, I am getting married at Moondance in June and we booked the entire resort initially now, we have only about 20 people that will be able to stay at the villas (some are staying offsite) and we gave everyone a deadline to pay for their deposits. The deadline we chose is a week before the deadline that Moondance gives us to cancel villas without penalty (for us its March 11). Soooo, by March 1, whoever has not booked, will be automatically dropped from the resort and we will just roll with who we have on that day. We set up payment plans for all those who said they were going to come and gave them a deadline for the last payment. Otherwise, if you cancel later, you may find yourself paying a cancellation fee if you have to cancel villas. We were very confident that we would have the whole place booked at first, but many surprises came along the way. FYI.

I'm in love with the Maggie Sottero RD1044 dress, but am nervous as heck about it. I ordered it in January and it should be in by April 24th. Here's the link http://www.maggiesottero.com/dress.a...2&style=RD1044 Has anyone else tried this dress on? Does anyone have pictures of themselves in this dress? Its looks great in the pics but, wondering how it looks in person because I've never actually seen it. I tried on the Maggie Sottero "Ireland" and its exactly the same cut as the RD1044 just different accessories.

Thanks. I actually found the Becks thread before but she is no longer giving out the template for the passport invitation. I'll do another search. I guess I am just being lazy!!

I'm trying to do a combo of both boarding pass and passport invitations but I'm not sure about what wording to use. Also, how did you guys cut them? I can't imagine cutting them with regular scissors, one by one, too tedious for me. There has to be a faster way, but what? All information is helpful. I have some of the templates for the boarding pass, any templates for the passport invitations? Heeeeelp!

Thanks for the tips. I definitely try not to push her to do anything that she doesn't want to do and I am EXTREMELY patient with her. I guess at this point I'm frustrated and I feel like I have to walk on eggshells when she is around because I don't want her to be angry or upset as she will get angry or upset over the smallest things (i.e. her clothes don't fit right or the edges of the bread aren't removed from her sandwich). I always include her in things I do and she helps alot! She loves going to the mall so I always try to make a trip there. I guess she just needs time to heal from all of the flip-flopping going on in her life right now. I'm sure she will come around. Right now, its just stressful. She is also in the wedding as the flower girl and her father's ring bearer. My little cousin, who is also my future stepdaughter's age, is a flower girl and she told future step the other day, "I can't do the flowers all by myself so you HAVE to come to the wedding." Future step daughter said "Alright, I'll come then!" Lol. Anyway, thanks for letting me vent.

He tries to but she never really says anything to him when he talks to her. I don't think he's ever really broken it down about why he and her mother are not together. She doesn't even call me anything, she won't say my name. If she wants something, she just yells. (for example she'll yell "Can you help me?" or "Somebody come here") I told her that its disrespectful and tried to come up with cute nicknames that she can call me, but she won't budge. Trust me I am very compassionate and patient with her, and for a while we've had a pretty good relationship. I just don't know how to cope with her behavior now. He says that her mother has talked to her too. To what extent, I don't know. From what I understand, her mother always tells her to respect me and she doesn't say anything negative about me (not sure if I totally believe that). I'm sure she'll be okay eventually...or at least I hope...

My fiance has a five (soon to be six year old). I love her. I'm afraid that she does not want her father and I to get married. She lives with her mother and is obviously close to her mother, who does not really like me because she still likes fiance (at least last time I checked). Lately, my future stepdaughter has been extremely rude and disobedient. I know she is probably confused since her mother just ended her relationship with her fiance and her fiance had children that my future stepdaughter was very close to (long story). Thus, I am very patient with her and I try not to take her disrespect personally. However, I can't help the apprehension I feel about how she feels about her dad and I. My Fiance recently told me that she draws pics of him and her mom together (which is natural) and everytime I ask her if she is excited about going to Jamaica (or DW location) she says "no, I'm not going". Anyone else dealing with something like this? I just wanted to vent. Just nervous.

I am trying to create Passport invites but I need a little direction. I am curious, what information did you guys put in your passports? i am also doing boarding pass invites as well, with a tear off RSVP card and just need some ideas. i dread the time consuming factor of these invites, but I definitely think it would be alot cheaper to DIY. Do any of you have templates that you can share from your project? I tried to download some but it said I don't have enough points Your help is greatly appreciated.

That's a great idea to have them walk down the aisle but then sit down! I like that idea. I actually thought about that and I've seen that at many of the DW weddings that I viewed online. I don't know. Most of them don't even mention the wedding and my two MOH's both told me the other day they are not sure if they can make it, which has me discouraged about the whole bridesmaids/gm thing. I am just over all of the hoopla and just want to have a beautiful wedding and celebration with as many of my family/friends as possible. Having official "bridesmaids" and "Groomsmen" isn't really that important to me as it once was because they don't seem too enthusiastic about it anyway.

I hope this doesn't sound trivial or stupid but here goes.... I expected a party of about 65 people to attend my wedding. As we are getting closer and closer to the date, I only have confidence in maybe 20 people going! Now, there could be more people, but the chances seem very slim. Everyone has a deadline of March 1 to pay for their stay at the wedding site/resort so we will know who is really going by then. I currently have 8bms (including two juniors) and my fiance also has 8. We think it would be silly to have the majority of the wedding attendees in the wedding party, but we have already asked our bms and GM to be a part of the wedding. Now, we want to cut some back. Maybe just have 2 on each side. Most of the wedding party doesn't really seem like they care one way or the other, and many have expressed how paying to coming to the wedding is burdensome, so this may actually be a relief. Sooooo, my question is this.... How do we politely tell them that we don't want them to go through the trouble of being bridesmaids and groomsmen?

I originally started with 6 bridesmaids/groomsmen. As my wedding attendance dwindles, I don't know if I will have bridesmaids anymore. I think it would look silly having say 20 guests and 12 people in the bridal party. (I had 65 guests confirmed at least 30 have backed out and the other 30 have yet to make significant payments and the wedding is in June) Honorary bridesmaids are the new black! Many people are doing that. Go with what makes you the most comfortable. There are no rules to weddings. You can whatever you want!

I meant to ask this question in my last thread but it came out wrong. I don't want to do a "traditional" corny first dance. I'd like to do something fun that shows our personalities. I am stumped on ideas though.... Hoping your guys can share your ideas to help me with mine! Thanks

I know there should be some type of grand entrance. Usually the grand entrance involves a first dance. We generally think the traditional first dances are kinda corny, but I want to do something. The choreographed "funny dances" are getting played out as well, but I'm leaning more towards that than the traditional slow dance. Anyone doing something different for the first dance? Just looking for ideas outside of the box.

I am also using Stacey Clarke Photography. I agree with the other poster that she is fairly new but she is updating her website with new slideshows and so far, it looks like her work just keeps getting better. She trains under Paula and Damian of Sungoldphoto.com and they were my first choice! We originally booked them, then thought they were too expensive and went with Stacey Clarke. We tried to get them back after we changed our minds and decided we would just pay the cost but they had booked up in a matter of minutes!!! But I'm confident Stacey Clarke will deliver some great shots.

I am thinking about doing a turquoise and brown theme, and I am playing with the idea of orange-y type flowers but, need some other opinions or pictures of people who have used these colors. Bridesmaids are wearing Tropical Aqua chiffon dresses from Jcrew and the Groomsmen are wearing all white. I don't want to do plain, boring white flowers. I want some color...just need help deciding which color flowers to choose. Soooo...for those of you who have done these colors or plan on doing this color combo, what color flowers did you/will you use?

The shirts are nice but I'm on the white shirt bandwagon too. On another note, where did your husband get his linen (is that linen) suit from? My FI is looking for something like that but he hasn't really found a place yet.

YEY!!! My date is June 20! Yes it is a small world! What's your date? Oneika, Miriam, Kim, they have all been fabulous. I have yet to send her my decorations and flowers etc, so Oneika is waiting on me to get it together but she is on top of things, which I love, because I'm definitely not organized either. Where in DC does your brother live? Trust me when you see Moondance, you'll fall in love! It's gorgeous. We booked the whole place at first too, but people are dropping like flies (see my post "Jamaica Wedding Blues"). I think we will end up usin only half of the resort. Yes, good idea to book other places, I need to look into those that you mentioned because I want my guests to have options as well. Keep me posted on your progress. Too excited!

I am so sorry to read that! You would think that if you give people ample time to save, they would have no problems coming to your DW. 21/2 years is Waaaay more than enough time to save for a DW wedding. Its so sad to know that the most important people, especially parents and siblings, can deem your wedding uneccessary and not a big deal to attend. I mean, are we missing something? All we can do is enjoy it in the best way. One thing is for sure, you and your future hubby will be there, and you will have eachother to share your beautiful day. It is all about the two of you anyway. It's just so shameful how some people can be. I have a friend who swears she can't afford it yet, she's been all over the world in the past year. She's been to about 4 different countries in 2008 alone. Somehow, Jamaica is just too expensive, but South Africa is not? Ha! Oh and I can't tell how many people say, "Oh if only you had chosen Turks and Caicos..." What does that mean? If I did choose another island, your so-called "broke" butt would miraculously come up with the money to attend? People are FULL of it. Thank goodness for this forum. I'd have nowhere else to vent (well, aside from at home with the FI).