WAJA2009

Hi Guys, I haven't posted on these forums in a while....anywho, I got married in Jamaica June 20, 2009 at Moon Dance Villas in Negril. It was fabulous to say the very least and I am gonna do a review soon...but I have a question....now that we have our paperwork from Jamaican Govt showing that we married in Jamaica, what do we do next? Is there anything further we need to do to be legally married in the US?Do we need to get a license in our state or is that unnecessary? Help me out!!1

Hey guys, I am the Original Poster in this thread. My wedding waas June 20 and I decided to go with this dress, but I added my own twist. The flowers on the shoulder were way too much for me, but to my surprise, the flowers were actually removable. I decided to place the flower underneath my bust area instead and it turned out very elegant. Here are a few photos for you to see. Its not the best photo as I am still waiting on my professional pics, but it should give you an idea. Hope this helps someone out there.

So I am leaving for my wedding tomorrow (ceremony is on saturday) and I have EXTREME writer's block. We are writing our own vows and I want it be perfect but I am having trouble coming up with the "right" words to say. Fiance has already completed his vows (months ago) but everytime I write something, I ball up the paper and start all over again. Anybody have some insight on this? did anyone else have trouble writing their vows? What helped you? I'm sure once I'm on the beach and calm and relaxed the words will just come to me, but right now I'm stuck. HELP!

UPDATE Well, my wedding is officially a week away and I have gone through more drama with this than I could have ever imagined. My father insists on bringing the girlfriend and even told her that he would not come if she doesn't come with him. To my understanding, she is still coming to Jamaica but will not attend the wedding because she doesn't feel welcome. I don't really understand that as there will be activities every day that she will also not feel welcome to attend. which means my father will not attend. At this point, I really don't even care. I am so happy that I am getting married in Jamaica and will have 2 weeks to just relax that I probably won't even notice that they are there. I just hope my mother doesn't notice either for her emotional sake. Anyway, thanks for all of your insight! My wedding is next week and I can't wait!

My BD shoot is this weekend and I am a nervous wreck! I'm very camera shy and I have never taken professional pics before. I wanted to do this for my husband to be and for myself and I want to get a little risque (i.e. nude) but I haven't really seen any photos of women doing tasteful nudity sooooo.... ....has anyone here done nude photos for their BD shoot? My photographer is very comfortable with doing nudes and apparently does this for many brides but I have never actually seen any so I don't have much inspiration to look upon. I want to do it, but I don't want to look awkward. I If you've done nude, what was it like? Any tips on how to pose etc?

I started a thread a while back about whether or not I should purchase partyflops and I decided to go with partyflops afterall. I am VERY PLEASED with my purchase. They delivered them super quick (my wedding is 2 weeks aways and I ordered in the beginning of May and it got to me 2 weeks later from Mexico and it took about 2-3 days to arrive once shipped)! They are super cute and personalized exactly how they showed me in the pictures. THey are also very comfortable. You can purchase them with or without their logo, just ask them. Alex is great and he is very responsive and answers all your questions within the day. I HIGHLY recommend them for personalized flip flops! Just my two cents. I'll post pics of my flops soon.

I just wanted to chime in and let you know that I too booked Paula and Damian and our wedding is June 20, 2009. I'll be sure to give you an update with pics so you can see how it turned out (I'm sure it will be nothing short of amazing)! I love Paula and Damian! They are really responsive and seem like a bunch of fun.

so, we're getting married at Moondance Villas and four weeks and the wedding coordinator is so busy that none of our requests via email have been answered. Everytime we call her she says she's "been so busy" and has not had a chance to work on the things we need for our wedding. Obviously, this makes me a little nervous and so many questions are going through my mind. When is she going to work on it? Will all the things we need be available by the time she does start working on it? Oh an HOW MUCH IS IT? What if the cost is over budget? ETC ETC ETC Has anyone else experienced this? Has anyone else gotten married at Moondance Villas? I've heard such great reviews but I am not too happy with the fact that things still aren't done and we only have 4 weeks.

Is there anyway an administrator can change my profile name? I posted some personal things on this forum and just realized that I am not that anonymous with my name. I wasn't really thinking about that when I first joined. Help!

okay, I asked a total of 7 girls to be in my bridal party originally. As time went along, some of them expressed that they did not care about being in the wedding party and two of them even said they were fine with just being an attendee. One of them I don't speak to anymore. The others just don't really seem enthusiastic and weren't sure if they were still coming to the wedding and none of this is for any particular reason that I know about. It just happened this way. My two best friends who were maids of honor are still throwing me a bach party and bridal shower and have now confirmed coming to the wedding. Anyway, due to all of the above and due to the fact that only 35 people are actually coming to the wedding (this number was originally 75 people) I decided that it was best not to have bms/gm and just have everyone enjoy the wedding without having to worry about getting a dress etc. I am only asking my sisters to dress in the same color and walk down the aisle, and sit down. I asked the others to just wear the same color (a different color from my sisters), but they will not stand next to me or walk down the aisle. However, I still would like to honor my maids of honor in some way but I just can't think how. I keep hearing/reading about honorary bms but don't really know how that works. Any suggestions?

Will do Jennyjen, and I can't remember if I responded to your pm, but your dress was gorgeous! You kinda had the same idea as me, except I was trying to combine the maggie ireland with the rd1044 but ended up figuring out a better look with the flowers. Will post pics tonight for you girls to see.

Okay well my dress FINALLY CAME IN. At first I didn't love it because like some of you said, the flowers dominate my shoulders, but since the flowers are detachable (thank God) I opted to just place the flowers right underneath the bust area. It's gorgeous this way and now I love the dress. Its very fitting, yet flowy at the same time, perfect for the beach. I will post pics tonight so you guys can see.

Oh wow, I didn't know they came like that! Even better. Yea, Alex has been a blast to work with thus far. Quick responses and efficient! Makes things so much easier. That's another check on my list!

update!! I bought michaels flip flops and tried the DIY route. I bought paint markers, acrylic paint and stencils and tested the designs out on two flip flops. The designs turned out great, until I actually wore them. The paint started rubbing off (and I used an acrylic sealant to seal the paint). It was too messy and too time consuming, soooooooooooooooo.... I'm going with PartyFlops! Lol. Oh and here is our inspiration for the pink and blue wedding : Google Image Result for http://bumataystudio.com/Ventura/details1.jpg

Quote: Originally Posted by RoryS Does your Dad know what his gf said to your Mom? Maybe he's only hearing one side of the story (hers), and doesn't know what went on. Also, when you told him use your discretion - he probably thought it was ok. Men don't read between the lines very well... Would it help if his gf apologized to your Mom? We sometimes say things in the heat of the moment and then later on regret them? Would it help if the relationship could be thawed out a bit before the wedding? Perhaps you and your Mom would feel more comfortable. It's still not an ideal situation, but I'm sure you want your Dad to be there and it is it possible he could take gf's side and not attend? Is his gf a reasonable person? My Dad would never not attend because of his girlfriend. The most that would happen is she would stay home and he would be bitter about it. My mother would love an apology but honestly, I don't think an apology will make her more at ease. She still loves with my father from what I can tell so the mere fact that he is bringing his girlfriend to flaunt will pain her. My mother will have to overcome her feelings eventually. I just don't want the wedding to be the place where she has to confront her feelings. Also, I totally agree about men not being able to read between the lines. My dad told me that I should have flat out said "no" and he would have respected my decision but for some odd reason I thought he was sensible enough to know that use your discretion=don't be a selfish ass and leave your chick at home! lol. Guess I had to flat out say that. I still haven't talked to him yet.

Everybody, thanks for your responses. Just to clarify, my mother never called the girlfriend, she told my father this and my father then told the girlfriend. My mother didn't want her around my younger siblings because of another situation and out of anger my mother told my father that the children did not have to be around the girlfriend if they don't want to and she didn't feel comfortable with them being around her either. The girlfriend then felt the need to call my mother and curse her out. Now I understand the girlfriend being mad and feeling excluded, I was once the girlfriend who was left out, but I never disrespected the mother of my fiance's child, despite how much she doesn't like me. The fact that the girlfriend called my mother (and emailed her) and spewed such hate for her left a bad taste in my mouth and obviously my mother's. I agree with the previous poster about putting an end to this mess at some point, but the wedding is not the place to heal broken wounds. My father needs to let her in our lives slowly then eventually, if the love is true and she proves that she isn't this mean spirited b*tch, she'll be accepted. Now I gotta face my dad. I'll let you know how it goes...

I know you guys give great advice so I'll try to make this long story short.... Background info My parents just recently got divorced (Sept) and my mother is still not over it. My father who is 50 is dating a younger woman (32) and of course he's eager to show her off. She has called my mother and told her she was a slut, whore etc because my mother told my father she "didn't want the girlfriend around her children" (I have 3 siblings). She never apologized for this and my mother is still salty about the fact she called her these names. The problem At first my father wanted to bring his girlfriend to my wedding and I told him from the very beginning that it was not a good idea because my mother would be uncomfortable, which would make me uncomfortable, and I don't want my mother to be uncomfortable at my wedding. I never actually told him no I just told him to "use his discretion". Later on he told me that she would not be able to come anyway, so I was relieved since I really did not feel comfortable with her being there. Then, over this past weekend, my father told me that his girlfriend IS coming and she already bought tickets. I AM FURIOUS!!! This woman is not his wife or mother of his children, she's just his girlfriend. A girlfriend I barely know, thus she is of no importance in my life. My mother is going to be upset and emotional at the wedding and any other festivities that the girlfriend will attend and this just cannot happen. I would to believe that my mother will not be emotional because of this, but its not a realistic thought. I know she will. She is not good at holding in her emotions. What should I do now since the girlfriend already bought tickets? My wedding is in June.

wow. Thanks for the heads up! I will going to Michaels ASAP! And blue and pink are my colors too! I was just about to start a blue and pink thread because I want to do fuschia tablecloths with fuschia orchids but I need some type of runner to offset the fuschia in the tablecloth and the flowers. What type of setup are you doing

....I bought some cheaper flip flops ($2.50 each) and had my monogram printed on them myself? Walmart sells cute flip flops for 2.50. Party Flops are 5.95 for women and once you add shipping you pay almost $9 per flip flop. If I buy Walmart flip flops and get them printed myself, what would the cost be? Where would I go to do this? I tried googling information on this but can't find what I'm looking for. Anyone else thought about this? HELP!

yea, someone sent me a picture from here ( I can't remember who) but it was hard to see, but I think she mentioned something about it making her look short. Actually from what I could see, it made her look short and the flower part was kinda awkward. I guess if I don't like the flowers I can remove them and put jewels in the front like the maggie sottero ireland dress Ireland - by Maggie Sottero

Hi guys I posted before about my Maggie Destination dress that I bought (RD1044). I'm still waiting for it and still nervous about it. It seems that none of the stores have the dress to try on, so I was wondering if anyone has recently tried the dress on with pics. I want to see how it looks on a "real person", not the airbrushed models. I'm nervouse because I've never actually tried the dress on and anxious to see what it looks like to see if I need to start looking for a new dress. Plus, the dress looks different in the magazines than it does on theMaggie website. I sure hope this is truly the dress because it is gorgeous in the pictures. Dresses Destinations by Maggie Sottero Wedding Dresses Magazines: Saving Grace | Brides.com RD1044 - by Maggie Sottero

yep I'm going with everyone else on this one, dress #1 is the best. Although they both look similar, the longer train on dress 2 made me go with number 1. You look Gorgeous!

Any June 20 Jamaica brides around? I'm getting married at Moondance Villas in Negril! Can't wait!

Thanks for your reply. Yea, apparently all of the "all inclusive resorts" are like this (I don't know if that is true because like you I have never heard of that). i just wanted to add that we are throwing a party for everyone at nearby restaurant that has a pool, cliff diving, and live music and that is taken care of by us, so maybe that will make up for it....

My fiance' and I chose Moondance Villas in Jamaica for our upcoming wedding and chose the All inclusive option for $95 per night. Our guests are paying a total almost 1200 to stay on the resort for 5 days (not including airfare) including their all inclusive rate @ $95 a day, which I think is a lot of money (which is also why we started planning 2 years ago). It just dawned on me that the all inclusive covers the food for the wedding and now I feel kind of bad because it seems like each guest is essentially paying for their food for the wedding day. Our wedding is coming up in June and I expressed to my fiance that maybe we should give our guests the money for that they paid for the all inclusive rate for that day but he thinks I'm over analyzing and thinks that it is the norm when it comes to destination wedding and all inclusive resorts. The other problem is that even if we wanted to give back the amount they paid for the day of the wedding, we don't have the money in our budget since we never budgeted for this in the first place. What should we do? Anything? What are you guys doing about food for your wedding? Is is per plate or it all inclusive