I read the other "no Kids at reception" thread but my situation is a little different so let me try to explain! We are having a formal reception at a hall with catering, and slideshow and DJ...basically the whole shebang lol. FI has a huge close nit family which includes 6 children, then we have a 4 yrs old daughter so all together that makes 7 children that definitely want there. And then of course we would like our best friend's little daughter there as well as a playmate for our daughter since they are best friends as well. The problem is that MANY of our other guests (including extended family of mine that I haven't seen in years but I "have" to invite them) have young children but we do not wish to invite all of the kids. If we did we would be well over 20 children and that's a lot of extra $$$, and chaos and would make 1/2 our guests have to leave early to go and put them to bed. What the heck can we do inthis situation? I feel like, it is my day and we can invite whomever we wish without having to explain any of our decisions, but at the same time I don't want anyone thinking that I don't like their kids or whatnot because they are not invited. I love kids, I really do...I just don't want 25 at our reception! What to do?
P.S. My biggest concern lies with my cousins on my Dad's side of the family- I haven't seen them in years but my Dad really wanted them invited so of course we will...only there 10 children that come along with that. I'm afraid of hurt feelings.