I can't speak from a man's experience, but from my own with my ERing, which is platinum, I find it to be kind of heavy. I am happy with the choice but it definitely has some weight to it. Also, despite me being VERY careful with it, it has some scratches on it already!! I am told they can be buffed out and that it is normal for this to happen, but it might not be the best metal based on what you described!
You may want to ask a jeweller about it when you go shopping. That is what they are there for, and they will hopefully recommend something that is perfect!