blackrose - eek! Sorry that that happened to you I still dont think that just b/c they are getting married before you, she stole your thunder though. They will have their day and then you will have the 8mths after that and your day! And if you want cupcakes, HAVE cupcakes. If you want those bmaid dresses, have those bmaid dresses. Dont change anything just b/c of someone else! Otehr than your FIs family, noone else will be at both your weddings, right? sorry you feel your wedding has been tainted