Ok I feel our pain those are pretty bad I was originally with the girls who sad suck it up but those are BAD. Yes it does not reflect on you but technically everything reflects on you, you are the bride after all. Is there anyway you can say your bridesmaid made you invites and you had no idea so you sent out a few of hers and a few of theirs and only send theirs. How much do you wish you didn't see them before hand at it was a surprise. Can your mom say anything? Does the woman know you saw them? There may be a way out of it you just have to keep thinking