I'm so sorry. This is horrible and this should be the happiest time of your life. You should do whatever you feel is right for you but if it were me I would postpone the wedding. I would want it to be a happy time and not just something to "be over with". I would let a little time go by, let everyone calm down and hopefully it will be a happy time again in your life. If not that then I would just elope and save the money. Good luck to you.