Quote: Originally Posted by brandynd You want a story? Okay….here goes. My saga has continued, and my FMIL is not getting any better about being a decent human being. Update to where we are—Our DW was cancelled because everyone was backing out, finance issues, and FI’s mom being a royal PITA. Okay, that’s fine. We’re now working on planning our local wedding, church and all.
FI’s mom is demanding that he give her back the deposit that his sister paid for her trip to Mexico, because after her bitching and complaining for months on end about the cost of the trip, FI agreed to pay it off for her. She didn’t have insurance, so the TA gave her a voucher to use in the future, and she still wants him to give her $600….ummm, no.
It doesn’t stop there. I’m on the hunt for a new wedding dress, because the one that I had obviously isn’t going to work for a Nebraska wedding in the middle of February. FI’s mom got wind of it, and very verbally expressed that she doesn’t think I deserve a new dress, because I’m not working right now, and she seems to think that FI’s income is how we’re surviving. WTF?!? First of all our finances are none of her business, and secondly, we’re both really money conscious, so we have a buffer savings for situations such as the one we’re in.
I was over at FI’s sister after hearing all of this and the dress topic came up. She immediately got all excited and started talking about how “The four of us should go find your dress.†Meaning her, myself, and FI’s 2 sisters. I told her I was going to be going with my mom, and she started saying how since my mom wasn’t paying for the dress, she didn’t need to go. OMG, I wanted to smack her.
She refuses to help with anything, including paying for the rehearsal dinner, which before we had decided to have a DW she had agreed to. Now, because FI’s father passed away in May, she says that she doesn’t think it’s fair that she has to pay for the entire thing. She seems to think that all of that responsibility should have landed on FI’s dad, who she’d been divorced from for 20 years, and who she still owed several thousand dollars to for FI’s big sisters wedding. Yet she can afford to buy new Coach and Burberry bags every other week, and to take vacations to Vegas with her girl friends every few months? Hmm…great priorities.
She hates everything that I have planned for the wedding, and constantly undermines every decision that I make. She’s pissed that the wedding is in my church. She says it is too far away (I grew up in a small town about 15 minutes away from Omaha) and that she thinks FI should be married in her church like his two big sisters were. She also threw a fit about our wedding colors, ivory, black, and green, and says that our wedding will look like a funeral (my BM’s will be in black and white dresses).
Last I checked this WAS my wedding..shouldn’t I get to have some say in the things that I want? I’m so sick of being called a bitch, and being made to feel like I don’t know what I’m doing. The whole situation is so irritating, and I just want to scream.
And before you start in with the “I’m sure she has great intentions,†kick, I just want to come out and say she doesn’t. The woman can’t stand me, and I can FEEL IT. It’s like when you walk into a room, and the person there just goes out of their way to make you feel uncomfortable? Like that. I went and was finding photos of FI for our slideshow, and she still has pictures of FI and his ex girlfriend all over the place. FRAMED! Okay, that was fine, I was thinking that maybe they were just really good pictures. Oh, no….she started telling me “Oh that’s Tina, she was such a NICE girl. I really liked her. I was sure they would end up married. Did you know that when he met you they were talking about working things out?†There is NO WAY to spin that to make it seem like she was being nice! Who does that?!?!
Ugh….sorry for the novel. I know most of you have read about her antics before, but things seem to be getting worse, not better, since we moved our wedding to the US. I think I need some valium, or a cocktail, or an excorcism for FI’s mom. You are right, there's no way to spin it! She is one big fat PITA! I'm sorry you have to deal with her and her bs. Keep sticking up for yourself! And I want to add there is no picture good enough to warrant leaving up that has an ex girlfriend in it. That is completely rude.