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Quote: Originally Posted by bnbrmy FI and I started ttc over a year ago. We had no luck. Recently I had horrible stomach pains (turned out to be kidney stones) but in the process of trying to figure out what was wrong I was told I had a cyst on my left ovary. It is pretty simple to get rid of. Birth control is very effective in removing them, I know about 6 women who all took birthcontrol to remove cysts and every single one of them ended up pregnant within two months or so. My doctor put me on BC for three months, but never diagnosed me with cysts. This was a few weeks after we returned from our HM- (after we got back, I had a period that literally lasted 6 weeks). I will say that I haven't had bad pms and have had lighter periods since stopping the BC, but still no bebeh. We've been ttc seriously since I went off BC, 3 months. I was going to give it another 3 months until I go back to the doctor, since my doctor didn't seem overly concerned on my last visit. At the same time, it's hard to not to be discouraged. Everyone talks like getting pregnant is easy, like once you start TTC it's just going to happen. Yeah, I'm not so sure it will be. Also I keep getting it in my head that it's better to not try, in case it doesn't ever happen, then we don't have to face that kind of disappointment... I don't know if that makes sense, but it pops in my head from time to time...

I found that getting the alcohol from Costco doesn't actually save that much money and takes a huge amount of time. Biggest cause of stress for the whole 9 days we were in Kauai! Honestly, it wasn't that much cheaper than the Stop n' Shop, but they did have a better selection of bubbly. I would've just had the caterer supply the booze, since they only charge you for bottles opened, and you don't have to worry about how much to buy. And remember, you still have to pay the caterer for the glasses used. Be aware that you can't return anything to Costco that has been chilled, or with damaged labels, not to mention anything that was cracked open. So the "stress-to-savings" ratio did NOT balance out, IMHO. If you do supply your own booze, be sure the bartender is stocked with only one bottle of each at a time- keep the rest in a back-stock area. Our bartender (or someone) cracked open about 4 large bottles of rum that never got used, so we couldn't even return them to Costco, and we didn't have enough time to drink them : Like I said, we did a brunch reception, 30 ppl, and including the cake, full service, and a waffle and omelet station it was around $4k. The food was something like $40pp, and soooo good. Contemporary Flavors did an awesome, awesome job... and their cakes are way better than Icing on the Cake, too

yes! Contemporary Flavors is awesome. We were also lucky enough to visit 6 months before our wedding and they set up a cake tasting for us, and reviewed our menu options with us. They did full service bar & brunch for us. Kept my champagne glass full, and used all natural and local ingredients as much as possible. My WC set everything up, Diana Gardner alohanaweddings.com.

Thanks for the heads-up! I just changed my BDW username because I was being harassed by vendors I had used because I had posted some negative experiences. I guess they can still find me thru that pipl.com site... boo!!! I'm kinda nervous to look up my name on there! Another bonus of taking my DH's last name

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Stephanie that's an awesome cat story! Miranda, I think you're doing the right thing by trying to take this cat to the vet. Even if you don't end up taking him into your home, letting him use your garage or a shed will be a big help to a feral cat during the cold northern winters.

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Did you book your officiant yet?

It was really difficult to give up the idea of a beach ceremony, but I had wanted a backyard reception rather than a restaurant or a resort. It was hard to reconcile these two desires, and logistically it just worked out better to have the ceremony on the property. It was so beautiful I didn't even miss the sand and waves!

I finally did my wedding review (w/ pics)! I hope it will give some of you a little insight and inspiration for your Kauai weddings here's the link: http://bestdestinationwedding.com/fo...-w-pics-49865/

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I wasn't able to find a ttd dress, plus I felt like it would be take up too much time from the reception to do a ttd session on the wedding day. But, I will say that I had a silk chiffon dress and it got wet and sandy anyway. (However, we weren't rolling around in the surf, or anything, haha!) By the time I got back to the reception it was dry and all the sand just brushed away, and after the reception I was able to hand wash the bottom with Woolite. I'd ask your seamstress if you could do the same with your dress have fun!!

Quote: Originally Posted by Alyssa what a great review - thanks for being so honest! i know future Kauai brides will really appreciate it Thanks! I was glad to share my thoughts- both good and bad- throughout this process. You know, since there aren't as many Hawaii/ Kauai brides, we really need to share our opinions and experiences... Quote: Originally Posted by weddinggirl72 Your review was so detailed - thank you! It reminded me that I need to stay calm during the planning process and during the event b/c little things will come up that might be hard to deal with but in the end it's not about the little things its about marrying the one you love. I think your pictures are great, so colorful - GREAT flowers and yes the tent looked AMAZING! Just curious, was it a high number of your guests who didnt show up b/c of the trip/costs? Or was the number expected? I'm a little worried about this for my own wedding with the economy being bad. Also, did you have any guests who said they were coming and didn't? weddinggirl, the issues with guests and invites were some of the most complicated, and made me want to just elope! More than half of the guests didn't RSVP (both yes and no's), I had more "maybes" until 2 weeks before the wedding than I could count, and 1 no-show. I felt bad because I didn't have a hotel or resort to block off rooms for group rates, which I think complicated things. We urged our guests to check out vacation rentals in our area, and provided them with contact information. We also offered several people the chance to stay in our rental for free, but either the timing or the airfare got in the way. I definitely have to give the wc props for doing up the tent! I just told her I trusted her judgement, and that we wanted local flowers. She pulled off an amazing set up! All I picked out were the table cloths!!

PART 2 The most important thing, of course, was the ceremony. We had originally planned to have our friend perform the ceremony, but that was left up in the air until the last moment. So the wc booked minister Kelvin Ho. Since our friend did make it, we asked minister Ho to perform the invocation and blessing, and our minister did the sermon and the vows. You should know that minister Ho does a ritual that involves breaking open a coconut that the bride and groom share, then offer to their ancestors. It’s really is the coolest thing I’ve ever seen during a wedding ceremony. It’s very real and spiritual, and now showy at all. There were flowers everywhere, all tropical varieties including tons of orchids. Our bouquets were beautiful, even though I wasn’t specific about colors or blooms- I just requested that everything be as local as possible. We had a solo guitarist who played Blackbird by The Beatles. I had a pretty long walk from the room where I got ready, down the stairs that wrapped around the house, and across the lawn. I probably walked too fast but at least I took a moment to take everything in. And I didn’t forget to breathe- until I got to the altar! Luckily minister Ho provided us with a moment to collect ourselves and got us centered on the task at hand, thus avoiding a teary breakdown for everyone. Minister Ho ended his part at exactly 11:11, which I took as a good omen. The most meaningful part of the entire day was our dear friend’s sermon. It means so much to have someone who truly knows you stand up before all of your family and friends, and declare that you and your husband belong together, then lead you through the vows of marriage. It was a ceremony that not only bonded my fiancé and I together as husband and wife, but also bonded everyone present to us as family. That experience made every other detail of the day, and all the planning, wane in importance and significance. Although every piece was special, and contributed in making every moment of the day meaningful, nothing could’ve made more of an impression on us than that ceremony. I really can’t say enough how beautiful a day it was, how amazing the location or how exceptional everything was. We were married in the morning, and followed with a brunch reception. The food was great, and the service was excellent. The wc hired Contemporary Flavors catering service to do our buffet-style brunch reception and the wedding cake, which was coconut cake with macadamia filling. Yummy. Sooo yummy! I went to a wedding in Kauai earlier this year and that cake was not nearly as good. We went through hell (long story) to provide our own liquor, which was purchased at Costco. We figured we’d just return whatever wasn’t used. Unfortunately, at least 4 unused bottles of liquor were opened, rendering them non-returnable. I’m not sure if we saved any money in the long run, but I can tell you that it took a lot of time and cause some major headaches. I still would’ve provided the champagne, but maybe asked the caterers to bring the liquor and mixers. There are upsides and downsides with choosing a private locale over a resort or a beach, and vice versa. We were thrilled to find a spacious and amazingly beautiful location, though it wasn’t on the beach. Luckily beautiful and secluded Moloa’a Bay was just down the road, and provided an amazing backdrop for our photos. We did have to rent a tent and a porto-potty for the number of guests we had, which was ok. I had wanted just tables and umbrellas (because the wedding was in August), but with the weather constantly changing in Kauai, what can you do. Once I saw what the WC did with it, I was in awe! Everything she did with the flowers and arrangements was above and beyond anything I had asked or expected. It was truly a tropical paradise. She also put some small cocktail tables outside the tent, which came in handy because in the midday heat that tent was getting warm. We had a small dance floor, which served mostly to entertain the kids, and just used our iPod for music, since we were very specific about what we wanted to play. For a daytime reception, dancing wasn’t that important, so after our first dance I changed into a white sundress for the cake cutting. That was the best decision I made… next to getting eyelash extensions! I was so much more comfortable and I didn’t have to worry about my gown getting ruined. It’s not easy planning a DW, because you’re basically relying on someone else to carry out your vision and pick up on the nuances, and leaving so many details in someone else’s hands. You are going to make sacrifices, and mistakes, and have regrets. The only thing I know from this experience (and really, knew all along), is that no matter how big of a dilemma you face now, in the end it will work out, and in planning your DW, you must, above all else, believe that. the end!!

PART 1 Although we traveled from NYC to Kauai, it hardly felt like a destination wedding. I think it’s mostly because we wanted a private location to hold the ceremony and the reception, and we planned for 30 – 40 guests. This was by far the most complicated part of planning this wedding. I tried contacting wedding coordinators, rental agents, even property owners, but no one could or would find a location to accommodate our needs. The thing is, if you manage to find a house that will allow a wedding, you’ll need to rent the property for 7 nights, plus put down an event fee, hire a coordinator, put up a tent, and probably provide a porto-potty for that many guests. We were about to go to a resort in Maui when I contacted the owner of an estate called Shangri-La in Moloa’a. She was amazingly nice and was willing to accommodate an event for up to 70 guests, and I don’t think she even had a minimum night’s stay in the house. She even recommended a WC, Alohana weddings. This ended up being the best advice I got throughout the troublesome planning stage. I worked with Diana, and she was so down to earth, and easy to talk to. She never tried to tell me what I wanted, or what would work out best- she listened to me and actually worked with the (sometimes vague) ideas I had. Diana and her team handled the entire set-up of the ceremony, and all the flowers and table settings for the tent. She described how she was going to decorate the tent poles, but I had to include the picture or you’d never believe how amazing it was! It’s pretty much what all the guests commented on! Christie from blue sky styling showed up to do my hair. She’s a very cool chick and loves reggae just like me. And yes, she’s a terrific hairdresser. She also help my bm’s pin flowers in their hair, since we were all pretty clueless. The photographer was from Kilohana studios, another very cool guy. He did get some of the “getting ready†pics, which initially I didn’t want, but of course I’m glad I have. He did a great job getting great candid photos along with all of the posed photographs you’d expect.

It has taken me some time to get this review out. I had many thoughts to sort out, much stress to recoup from, and a few personal issues to endure upon returning from Hawaii six weeks ago. The past 16 months have been informative, and although I will never get to put the lessons learned to practice in the future, I hope that by sharing my thoughts and experiences I can help at least one person on this forum with some insight and feedback. First off, I feel that there are ups and downs along the road of planning a DW, and that this forum has been more than accommodating my rants and babbles. Also, I've taken quite a few weeks to reflect upon my experience (and I wanted to make sure I got my deposits, pictures, etc) before I opened my mouth again. As I write this, I have to ask myself again if the entire experience was worth it- the money, the trouble, the people who couldn't travel- to go all the way to Hawaii to marry the man I've already spent a third of my life with... I am going to start off with grades, then go on to the detailed review, and add in some pictures, too! AIR TRAVEL: US AIRWAYS, F,F,F,F!!!!! can I just say WORST EXPERIENCE EVER, and leave it at that? And btw, they don't have closets anymore, so you have to crush your gown into an overhead bin... CAR RENTAL: Alamo, A I don't drive, so I don't really have an opinion, but if DH is happy, so am I. ACCOMMODATIONS: Private vacation rental, Shangri-la, Moloa'a Bay (6 guests) A Gorgeous! Amazing! Private! Minutes from beach! They do rent out 3 sections of the house & the cottage separately, however, I couldn't imagine sharing the main propery with another party. The wing is gorgeous, it's a perfect master suite, but I didn't think it had enough of a kitchen, and there's no delivery down there! Also, in places this secluded your cell phone may not work (ours didn't, but moh's did). The six of us hung out all night on the wrap-around lanai, eating dinner we prepared in the giant kitchen in the main house. We took moonlit walks to the beach and saw sea turtles resting on shore. There was a pool, and a jacuzzi further behind the house, closer to the cottage. Other than that, the cottage is set a good way off from the house, and has it's own driveway, which goes behind the main house. There were issues with that part of the property being rented to someone else on our wedding day, which I found surprising because we also paid an additional fee for the event, so I thought we had the entire estate on our wedding day. All in all, it worked out, and was quite the awesome place to stay. WEDDING COORDINATOR: Alohana Weddings, A Overall, great job! They went above and beyond all expectations... CATERING: Contemporary Flavors, A Great food, exceptional service... HAIR: Christie, Blue Sky Styling A She's awesome, and has great stories! Also told me I did a good job on my own make-up, very reassuring! PHOTO: Kilohana Studios A Very easy to work with. Got our preview pics up in about 10 days. Also gave us the photos in their original format, in addition to hi-res JPEG, which made DH happy. What else?? Oh yeah... THE SITE!! Again, Moloa'a Shangri-la...B+ Beautiful place, full of flowering trees and buddhas, indonesian art, even a sculpted pool! Everyone was blown away by the beauty of this place. We were lucky to find it. The only negative was this thing with the cottage, and that I didn't know that they considered it to be separate from the property, therefore were free to rent it to someone else on the day of the event. To be fair, it is far enough away from where we were, but you never know who may come wandering out! Also the misunderstanding caused serious headaches. On top of that, I was very worried about my guests doing any kind of damage inside or outside of the house, because the place is someone's home. I was very glad we got to enjoy it, but if I had a rowdy bunch, there's no way I could've taken the chance!

Christie is awesome. She did my hair, and I know another wedding she did hair & make-up for. Very cool lady!

here's a link to one of the other threads... http://bestdestinationwedding.com/forum/t43121

I was waiting till I got the photos back to post anything about my wedding experience, but I should have them in a few days. Anyway, everything worked out alright. The location was absolutely beautiful and we had a blast. I guess the owner just wanted the cottage for her friend, and it wasn't a bother. The people who own the property are plenty nice and accommodating. But I will say that if I had to do it over again, I would want to know up front what the event fee covered, as it does not include the cottage as I had believed. It was definitely ambiguous, and lead to frustrations that could've been avoided. I'll be writing my full review as soon as I get the photos!! Glad to be back!

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Rosa, She finally got back to me today, thank goodness. She is really calming and I love talking to her... I'm probably costing her a fortune on her phone bill, and that's why she doesn't call me back right away, lol! I will definitely be posting a very interesting wedding review once all is said and done!

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Wow, there a lot of people in this boat, huh! We were pretty upset because only 2 of our good friends are coming- and most of them were offered free accommodations, too. I also don't have many family members coming to the wedding, while my FI's relatives mostly live on the west coast, it's easier for them to make the trip to hawaii. I can only imagine how disappointed you all are with out any of his family making the trip... does he have good friends that are coming? When I was upset about people who aren't going someone on this forum told me to just remember that the day is about the two of you, and you can't let the people who aren't going take that away. The people who are there will just make it all the more special. .. it's definitely helped me get thru some of the guest-related stress

Quote: Originally Posted by The Mandy in Chandy Oh you poor thing!! But I had to laugh, too. It would have been funnier if you were naked and chasing the car though Yeah, thank goodness you weren't naked when the car rolled down the hill, that would've been reaally embarrassing!

jeez, now we leave in 4 days and can you believe that my WP is still AWOL! I've left 3 msgs in 3 days. No response! And now I'm having troubles with the property that we rented for the week, and our wedding day. The owner is loopy as hell, anyway. Now I'm too stressed out for words, and I really can't take it. This is not good for me...