I totally see your point, but look at the reverse side... Would your feeling be hurt if she were in your position and it was your shower? I guess it really depends on the type of person she is, and you know her so do you think she would be upset? If not... I say in bed with the new hubby and order in breakfast! But if it's going to eat you up inside and feel guilty that you didn't go, then I think I would suck it up and go. I mean, you do have the rest of your life to wake up to him. I guess I'm not much help. I can really see both sides of the situation.