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It looks gorgeous on you! I can't wait to see the whole shabang with veil and accessories!

Thanks for all the positive support ladies! I'm very concerned that she's going to be going. However, my aunt is going as well and I am sure that I can enlist her to babysit her sister while they are there. I hadn't even thought about appointing someone to watch over her. I guess I am still stuck in the mindset that she is my responsibility. She's talking about cashing in an old life insurance policy that my dad's family got for her when they were still married. Lucky me. I really don't want everyone to get the wrong idea. My mom is a wonderful, caring person when she is sober. Unfortunately, those times are few and far between. But I really appreciate everyone telling me that I need to look out for me and not feel responsible for her. Fi and her used to get along, but when we got engaged (Christmas Eve 2006) she went around telling my whole family that the ring that he worked two years to save up to purchase was a fake. How rude! Poor fi was so concerned that everyone was going to believe her nonsense that the following week he brought all the paperwork for the ring to our New Year's festivities. I was absolutely ashamed of her. My dad hasn't talked to her since and for divorced parents that always got along. The whole thing has been my own little nightmare, but I really appreciate everyone's kind thoughts and advice! I'll keep you all posted!

Welcome and congratulations on the upcoming nuptials! You aren't behind. Don't fret. Our wedding is in March 2009. We just booked it at the beginning of June and sent out save the dates two days ago. Eight months to go and we have plenty of time. You'll be fun. Happy planning!

Welcome. Congratulations and happy planning!

Quote: Originally Posted by LC_Rachel I know...weird huh? How come we insist on having long hair for weddings so in the year or so of planning we begrudgingly grow our hair long waiting for the day after the "I do" to cut it all off? I know my hair lacked any cute "style." It was just long and plain and I craved the thought of having something a little more chic and playful. It's so fun to get all kinds of hair compliments. I vote for everyone to CHOP IT OFF!! My intention was to keep it long until after the wedding as well, but I realized looking at pictures from a party this weekend that I hate the way it looks now. It's so long and thick that I don't do anything with it anymore. I have this huge claw clip it gets pulled up into daily. So yesterday I made an appointment to get it whacked off and colored back to a decent shade of blonde. I still have 8 months til the wedding and it grows like a bada** weed so I'll have some back, right? Hehe!

I have this mother situation... I'll try to be as brief with this as possible, but basically I am trying to look for a tactful way to tell my mother if she is coming to the wedding that she needs to mind her p's and q's. My mom and I have an unusual relationship. I have often played more mom to her than she to me. She has an alcohol problem and the whole family knows it, but my mother refuses to acknowledge it or accept help. Throughout my life she had difficulty holding down a job and in my teens I worked (in the evenings every single night after school) to pay our rent while she was laid off because she mouthed off at work after drinking too much. Anyway, originally she was not going to be able to afford Jamaica and was going to stay home with our pets. Now honestly, this should have upset me as most brides would be bothered if their moms couldn't make their wedding, but I was (everyone forgive me) a little relieved. However, she is now trying to see if she can swing it even if just a three night stay. Don't get me wrong. I do love my mom. No matter what we may have endured I would still do anything to help her, but I am worried about her behavior. She has a tendency to be mean when she drinks and at an all inclusive resort, I am very concerned that this will be an issue. Also, she is extremely critical of me in these situations. Everytime something positive happens for me (college graduation, first new car, townhome, engagement, promotion at work, planning the wedding) she has some underhanded comment. It has gotten so bad that I often refrain from sharing my good news with her until I absolutely have to. Fi insists that it is a jealousy issue because she is not happy with her own status in life, but that doesn't make me feel any better. She is also very critical of how I look. I have heard a lot lately about hot my hair doesn't flatter me and what am I doing to lose weight... yada yada yada. I understand that in her own way these things are done with the best of intentions, but I find it very hurtful. Basically... now that I've finished ranting I'll lay out my concerns. 1) I am extremely concerned that she will say something inappropriate to one of our guests or staff at the resort. My fi barely tolerates her now and I am afraid that if she misbehaves at our wedding that he will snap and I do not want to take sides. 2) She tends to be very abrasive and physical when she has been drinking and I am worried of a confrontation (with anyone). 3) As much as she picks on me for gaining weight, she has gained quite a bit herself (beer gut) and insists on wearing these awful bikinis. Is there a way to tactfully tell her that I can help her find a more flattering swim suit or that her current apparel just ain't right? HELP! I won't even get into what she did when we got engaged, but I am very worried about what could happen at my wedding. Any input? By the way, my dad... he's a darling and I have no concerns with him. Now at least that takes a load off my mind. ::wink::

They look great! Awesome job.

Congratulations and happy planning!

Awe, happy belated legal day! Can't wait to read the full thread.

It's sounds like you had a wonderful time. Thanks for the great review!

Congratulations and happy planning!

Hello hello! Congratulations on your engagement and all the best in planning your big day!

Quote: Originally Posted by Maura hahahahaha omg he would die. i stuck a booger on him once like 6 months ago because he was being a brat, and to this day he has not gotten over it, so i cant imagine if i got anal leakage on him...he would NEVER get over it!!!! LOL Hahaha! You stuck a booger on him! That is great. Hiram threatens to pick my nose all the time so I threaten to fart on him. We're never going to grow up! I just got back to this thread as I have decided with now less than 8 months til the wedding, I really need to buckle down. We went to Canada this weekend for my fi's friend's 30th birthday bash and I saw some pictures that we're taken of me and I was physically disgusted by how I look these days. I don't even recognize myself and feel really bad for fi. He tells me I'm sexy, but I'm 60 lbs heavier than I was when we started dating 7 years ago. It's not a pretty site but I think it was the motivation that I needed! You all have given such wonderful feedback on her including the greasy butt story that I think I just have to dive right in and get myself back into a not so round shape. Thanks all!

Quote: Originally Posted by JHarwood2Be Gisele looks like she needs to eat a sandwich in that B&W. Hahahahaha! If I were even within 50 lbs of her size I would be willing to do a boudior session... as it stands right now, it is NOT gonna happen!

Oooh! They are beautiful!

Yay! Congratulations Martha!

I just caught up on your thread and wanted to say congratulations! You'll have so many wonderful experiences occurring in such a short period of time. It can be very overwhelming but it will be even more wonderful. Best wishes and happy baby and wedding planning to you!!

I think this is a great idea! Something I might consider if I were about 50 lbs lighter.

This is an awesome deal! Thanks so much for posting this Jennifer!

Oh! I want to see it! I agree. Put it on youtube!

Woot woot! Yay! Another Sandals bride!

Welcome and happy destination planning!

Congrats on your legal wedding and happy planning for your destination one!

Congratulations on your engagement and happy planning! If you are planning for destination, this is the site to be on!

Congratulations and happy planning!