Oh dear, I know the pain in this... my mother 2 has her problems with the booze and she was diagnosed 5 yrs ago with being Bipolar. With that being said .. I finally had to call it quits with my mother a while back. I wasn't going to called the "black sheep" anymore and I wasn't going to stand for the way she treated me my whole life. I have older(10 yr older) half siblings, so all along my mother was sorta done with the parenting of me. I seriously got the short end of the stick and pushed my way through it all to be NOTHING like what she said I would end up. Needless to say after my son was born things changed and I thought that she was actually going to treat me like a person for once.. YA didn't happen. So I ended it after crying and deciding what was right for my son and me. That was 3 yrs ago. Fast forward to today, my son still brings up Mimi and wonders things about her... he remembers her. But has she even sent a card or anything... no. So when we got engaged.. we never told her.. I know she knows, and I know she knows our wedding is right around the corner. It hurts because she is my mom... but I can't deal with the BS that I know will come along with her if we let her back in. She's my mom for gawds sake and she isn't even going to be at my wedding..
It's one hefty decision to put on a girl... so I know.
Sorry I hijacked your thread for my own venting... totally didn't mean too ... It just typed it self...