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My FI and I have been living together for the last 2 years so I dont think things will change much.oddly enough friends who have gotten married in the same situation say things just feel different. Our biggest adjustment when moving in was definitely our sleeping arrangements. since I was an only child I was use to having a queen bed to myself so I would do the diagonal spread. this drives my FI crazy because he ends up wedged on the edge of the bed. As for the combining money we decided that after we get married we will have our separate accounts but we will have a joint one that will got to stuff for the house and things like that.

I'm in your same boat as well. The backlash I'm getting is from one aunt who told my parents "maybe they should do something more convenient for everybody, like getting married on the east coast". This is very silly because she is the ONLY one in my family who lives on the east coast the rest of us all live in California! thankfully my parents are completely backing me up so that a bit of a load off. oh and the grandma quote is one of the funniest things Ive ever heard!

All very good points. We finally came to an agreement that in the case somebody was in a desperate situation we would help out but not everyone. Since we are giving everyone a year notice and we are not having any attendants (so no money spent on dresses or tuxs) they have more than enough time to prepare for it and if the dont maybe it just wasn't that important to them to be there. yikes I'm sure this is just the start of touchy issues that come with planning a wedding!

Thanks for all the feed back everyone, helps a lot to hear other opinions!

Quote: Originally Posted by Hartyt509 No WAY!! the reason for a DW is to save money. Also if you are paying for his lot its only fair to pay for yours!! Stick to your guns I wouldn't pay for their travel expenses they either want to come or they dont lol Exactly! I told him that if we help one out we have to help them all. I see the background behind the thought because I would be really bummed if my friends didnt want to come because of the money they would spend. In reality my FI has lived out in California for 6 years and even though he goes back to Maryland 3 times a year nobody has come out here to visit him once. So I feel like if he can make a effort to get out there to see them They can make an effort to come see him get married.

I think he was under the impression we would maybe help them out a bit or something like that. Once we get there we are getting everyone gift baskets, paying for a nice rehearsal dinner, reception dinner and probably a brunch.

when having a destination wedding is it proper to pay for your guests travel expenses or are they expected to pay? My FI and I have been arguing because his family is from Maryland and since we are getting married in Cabo this is going to be about 1000 or so for them to travel to see us get married. He feels that since we are saving some money having the DW that my family, who are gracious enough to pay for the whole thing, should maybe offer to help out his guests from Maryland. Is it totally off base that I feel like since we are giving them a year notice that they would have plenty of time to save up and make a vacation out of it? It also doesn't help that all my family and friends are from California ,a much cheaper airline bill obivously, so I think he might feel like his family and friends are getting the short end of the stick.

awesome thanks so much! her site looks great and wow what a deal 40% off! I am definitely going to check her out.

I'm sorry if this is posted in the wrong spot but I was not sure where to put it. Im having my ceremony in Cabo San Lucas and then we are having a reception back in Los Angeles for everyone to attend. I definitely need help planning the reception so I was wondering if anyone could recommend a good wedding/event planner in the Los Angeles area?

I found a dress that I just love there but I'm hesitant to buy it because I have heard some bad things about them regarding their customer service, alterations and so on. I went and tried on the dress which looked great and other than the sales woman trying to push me into buying it right then and there( which I can easily ignore) they seemed ok. If anyone has any advice or personal experiences it would be great to hear. here is a picture of the dress. Its perfect not only because I'm getting married on the beach in cabo but I am also only 5 feet tall so most of the other dresses I tried on overwhelmed me.

Thanks everyone for the comments they helped a ton!

So my plan for my wedding is to get married in Cabo San Lucas on May 16, 2009, just close family and a few friends attending, then to have a reception back in Los Angeles for everyone. I want to have the reception on Saturday May 23 after we get back from Cabo but I just noticed that this falls on memorial day weekend. Would it be bad form to have a reception on a holiday weekend and would this possibly effect the attendance? There are no reservations made yet so dates can be easily changed.

hello my name is Nathalie my fiance is larry. We are from Los Angeles CA and our wedding date is May 16 2009, in Cabo San Lucas. I must admit I have no clue how to plan a wedding. We love the Hotel Finisterra and want to have our wedding ceremony there and then a reception the following weekend in Los Angeles, so it is going to be interesting to plan both events.pretty much I am here for all the help I can get!