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I was reading some opinions on the matter, and a few people had comments such as "What if someone sneaks a weapon in their anus? Are we going to have to get cavity searches before boarding?" I'd be willing to submit some pre-flight documents and profile screening to mitigate the suspicion that I'm carrying harmful things in my panties. Or, they could deploy actual agents who specialize in counter terrorism efforts to screen those who raise suspicion. But instead they're going to harass every innocent who wants to fly.

I think I would be more ok with the situation if I thought their procedures were needed and would be effective in stopping a threat. Unfortunately, there doesn't seem to be a lot of evidence that supports the TSA actually mitigating a terrorist threat in the past 10 years, and a determined terrorist could still fairly easily internally smuggle a weapon on board. I think there are more intelligent solutions to tracking suspicious persons than subjecting every traveling American to this.

I'm trying to get a promotion at work that would involve me flying very frequently, so the regular exposure concerns me. Plus, they haven't been able to study the long term effects of the machine or the effects of prolonged exposure to the rays from the machines. It also really concerns me that the images can be saved. I don't think that most of the employees would be inappropriate, but the TSA doesn't do a thorough enough screening to prevent creepos from getting employed. Plus, there have been reports of inappropriate comments from the screeners after people go through the machines AND they make children go through them too. I just don't trust the government to keep this system secure and safe. I think it would be a different story if they had the computer scan the body and then alert the staff if there's something suspect and delete the images immediately. There have already been over 100 images reported being leaked. I don't feel safer with these measures in place, and some people have been able to opt out citing religious purposes but others have not been allowed to opt out no matter what the reason, which kinda defeats the purpose of subjecting the general public to these new procedures. As for my wedding, I don't really want to subject my guests to these options. If they make them standard in our local airports, I might consider not doing a DW.

Hey, I wanted to give a belated follow up and thank you to all of the girls who helped me out. I wore the dress; the bride loved it and the wedding was great! There was an inappropriate guest there, but it wasn't me. Some other chick wore a very short, very tight, very low cut little black dress. Thankfully, the bride looked so amazing that I don't think anyone was looking at any of the other females in the building. I mean, I seriously didn't know that she could look that awesome.

The wedding planner :-)

Is anyone else concerned about the new body scanners and pat down methods being put into place by the TSA? My biggest concern with the scanner is that the radiation has not been proven safe and allows screeners to save the images. I don't really want to get cancer and I'm not a big fan of giving away pictures of the goodies for free (Although, I'll pay my BD photog to take some more flattering ones!) However, the alternative to the scanning machine is a full body pat down where they can grab your breasts under your bra and pat down your genitals. If you refuse to either method, they can try to bring an $11k civil suit against you. Thankfully, not all of the airports have started using this method, but I'm almost to the point of panic just thinking about what would happen if they implement it in the airport we're supposed to fly out of for the wedding.

Make them both your Maid of Honor. If you want more than one, you can have more than one.

Hey guys... great job to those who are hanging in there! Any talk of Season 11 yet?

Hey... is it too late for me to join in? I've been MIA from the forum for the past couple weeks, but I reallly need in on this season!

Do you ladies think that this would be appropriate for formal night on the cruise? Or does it look too bridesmaid-y?

Found it! Â http://www.jlmcouture.com/Jim-Hjelm-Occasions/Bridesmaid/Additional/Style-5824 Â Wow you're good.

Does anyone know who actually designed this dress? I can only find knock offs of it, but I'm looking for the original. Â http://cgi.ebay.com/ws/eBayISAPI.dll?ViewItem&item=110554658560&ssPageName=STRK:MEWAX:IT Â I tried looking around and I couldn't figure it out, but I figured one of you lovely ladies would know!

I need to join... and soon! I've been putting on a few pounds since Season 9.

If you have a sephora's near by, they will give you a how to lesson with a shopping list. Also, most spas will give you a lesson on how to do your own make up. And there are tons of YouTubes on DIY wedding hair and makeup. Just find one that you like!

Rosie, I'm really glad that things worked out for you... ish. For the "optional" things, you really don't need to spend a lot of money. You could have a student photographer if you don't care much about the pictures for this party (unlike the beautiful pictures you will be having at your DW). Flowers aren't needed and V-day candy would be good enough. :-) Plus, the party should be a good time and you can spend some time with your friends and family. A wedding is a party... not a fundraiser.

Haha, well kudos on uninviting your sister. I understand that sometimes there are other life events that happen on the same day, but I'm under the impression that a 13 y/o would NOT want a 32 y/o at her B-day party... or at the very least wouldn't care if she was there or not. And if it's THAT important, send the husband with a gift. It's not like they can't spend a couple hours apart.... or maybe his family said that he wasn't allowed to go without your sister babysitting him!! At the end of the day, you don't need the drama, so just let her go her own way. And if you still are having trouble getting the minimum 75 people to show up, invite some local BDW girls. We'd attend and even bring a gift!

I would call her or visit her and have a talk. Explain that it hurts you that she's acting that way, and ask her if there's anything you can do (besides changing your wedding) to accommodate her as a first time traveler. I would go so far as to give her the story on WHY you want a DW. Then let her know that even though it saddens you greatly that she's refusing to be a part of your big day, you are not willing to put yourself out there to get hurt EVERY TIME you have a wedding thing to attend. If she wants out, that's her choice, but you don't want to keep begging her to join you in activities, no matter how much you love her or want her to be there.

Glad to hear you found a photog in your price range that makes you happy! I agree with everyone who said that a competent pro definitely makes a difference. I'm always surprised when I see myself in a pro picture vs a regular picture. SO MUCH difference, and I look SO MUCH better. But, I also think it's a good idea for you to have a photobucket site or something like that where you give all the guests the userid and password to upload any of their pictures from the trip.

Oh thank God. And BDW. And of course all of you! I was mini freaking out, because I did NOT want to be THAT GIRL.

Hey Everyone, Due to a hectic work schedule (quarter close = yuck), I had to short change my shopping for a dress to wear to my friend's wedding tomorrow. It's a day wedding, cocktail/informal. I have a bunch of cute dresses but most of them are too white or too low cut for me to want to wear to another bride's wedding. I'm more a friend of the groom, so I'm not so close to the bride that I would know exactly how she would feel. I went out and bought this dress, but now I'm wondering if it's too white to wear to someone else's wedding. Please help! The wedding is tomorrow morning... well, I guess, later today. http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v2...3/8d2defb6.jpg

I had a boyfriend I dated for three years who would buy me jewelry. Unfortunately, I'm allergic to most costume jewelry (anything under 14k) and I break out into hives. I let him know this, and I told him that he never has to buy me jewelry, but if he does, it has to be the good stuff. Well, I got (on separate occasions) two different necklaces, a bracelet, and a set of earrings that I can't wear. What's more is that the earrings he bought were picked out by one of his female friend's mother who I disliked very much (she was super condescending, holier-than-thou, and called me a whore behind my back)! She assured him that they would be good enough for me because they were "Black Hill gold" and that was really good. This guy also got me a book on yoga that said "How to lose weight by doing yoga" in big red letters on it. Thankfully FI is a good gift giver. I knew he was a keeper when his first gift to me was a full day at the spa!

Haha, yeah, the USPS is ridiculous some times. Last time I went to the Post Office, the girl told me something that was wrong, and I showed her on the website how she was wrong. She proceeded to tell me that she'd been doing this job for 9 years and she knows better than I do. I told her that "just because you've been doing something wrong for 9 years doesn't magically make you correct. It just means you're barely competent enough to not have been fired yet."

I wholeheartedly agree with everyone else. A wedding is a bad investment even if it's your dream reception with everything exactly how you've always pictured it. The trade off there, is you're getting a dream come true in exchange for a buttload of money. In this case, however, you're getting diddly squat and flushing your money down the toilet. You wouldn't spend $25k so his parents could have a downpayment on the house they've always wanted, so why would you do it for their dream wedding? I would politely tell them that you are investing your money in your future, and it's not an option for you to spend any more on the AHR. Then tell them that you understand completely if they do not feel the AHR is affordable and that you won't be hurt if it needs to be canceled. Stick to your guns and don't let them guilt you! And seriously... WTF?

Beautiful dress! I wish I were a couple sizes smaller.

Is there someone else you can invite along as a friend for your mom? That way you don't feel badly about not being at her side 24/7, but you still get the pleasure of having her around.