It is not your responsibility to pay for your guests that is why it is cheaper to have a destination wedding. A couple of questions, is he willing to help your family out as well? Is he helping everyone or only his immediate family (i.e. mom, dad, sisters)? Also, if you were to marry in California, would you be expected to pay for his family to travel out there then? Sorry about all the questions, but I know your frustration. Ugh! Men!