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Wow Kate, you absolutely make me want to go there! Great review and I'm so glad you had such a great time.

Here is the email address I used... [email protected]

Oh Yamille, I didn't even think that you are getting married in a different month from me!

Quote: Originally Posted by BachataBride Gee! Thanks Sara!! I know, I know!!! I'm procrastinating!! I'm having a really difficult time with it - there are so many mixed feelings! (I was hoping it would be forgotten - me & my big harassing mouth!!) I promise to at least start it this week & hopefully finish it this weekend. Ha, it will never be forgotten! We'll wait... I don't know how patiently tho. lol

Welcome back Jen! I'm so sad January is over.

Quote: Originally Posted by egsarah Hey girls! The resort finally got back to me and we are BOOKED!! December 12, 2009!! SOOOO excited to be a Paradisus bride!! Congratulations egsarah. You will love it!

Quote: Originally Posted by yamille Congrats and welcome to the paradisus page! So I decided to book the mariachi band through ajua weddings. They are planners but can arrange things separately if you don't need full service. The 6 person mariachi band ends up being $725 which included the band, transportation and the coordinator fee. I know that I still need to tack on the $300 outside vendor fee but it's still a little less than going straight through PRC. On another note.. for the ladies that already got married at PRC- did you feel that the fans were necessary for the ceremony? When we went for our site visit I remember there being a very strong breeze so I'm curious. I think they look pretty on the chair but am wondering if they are really "needed". Your input is appreciated! Yamille~ don't get fans! It was windy, no one needed them. Not one was used. And they take up a lot of space to pack, even though they don't weigh much. They are one of the things I wouldn't do again. They are a cute idea, but not needed IMO.

Quote: Originally Posted by DanielleNDerek congratulations Kelly. You look soooo beautiful. Great review. Your favors came out really cute. I loved the Paradisus Palma Real and i really want to the Paradisus Riviera it looks beautiful and sounds great. Maybe next year me and hubby can go, we'll have to get some resort tips from you if we go. Again congrats! Thanks Danielle. It was really great! I would go back in a second. I might leave the other 26 people at home next time though!

Quote: Originally Posted by DanielleNDerek Good i think you need to take things into your own hands as much as you can. But i think he really needs to make the time to find a place to live with his wife. And i'm right there with Kat if you need someone else to kick him in the ass to get him moving. How long have you guys been looking for a place? Ha, we've been looking for a place for like a year! We actually found a house, made an offer which they accepted, but after the inspection it just didn't work out. So, things have been slow moving since then and that was like October/ November. Quote: Originally Posted by Duchess Wow, I can't imagine what you are going thru Kelly. That is really ridiculous! I wonder if he is secretly scared of that final step. Regardless, he has to get over it. I agree, there has to be some fear there. But we've lived together before. So, I'm not really sure what his problem is. He just keeps saying he wants to get the best deal because the market here is finally coming down. In our area of CT property values haven't really dropped as much as other areas of the country. He's right, they are coming down. I just think we've run out of time. There's no more time to wait around to see what might happen and there is always someone who will get a better deal than what you got. Anyway, I think he's upset that I'm refusing to see him or really talk to him until he makes a plan of what we are going to do. He called last night and said that he is going to accomplish some things on Monday. We'll see what happens. I just want a plan in place and some sort of action to be taken toward moving forward. He doesn't have to come home with house keys tomorrow! But, that's what he thinks I want.

You definitely need more than one hour. I would go with a 2-3 hour package. Time flies! And, you should tell your mom that your dress doesn't really get trashed. It comes out cleaner than before because by the end of your wedding night the bottom of your dress will be really dirty! Mine was definitely cleaner afterward.

Have you shown her any pictures? Maybe she would change her mind after seeing some. I know that I loved getting to spend the afternoon with my DH away from everyone, having our TTD pics done. It was a great way to see another part of Mexico also. I would definitely have regretted not doing them. We've got to convince her!

Quote: Originally Posted by Kat81 Kelly, I am so pissed for you! Why aren't you guys at least staying with one another? Seriously, why does he think he got married and then gets to keep on with life like nothing changed?! If he likes the condos I say take a day off go pick up his lazy ass and drive him to the real estate agent to put in an offer. Thanks Kat! Its so nice to have people on my side Although, I haven't talked to anyone who thinks he's right. Everyone thinks its ridiculous we're not living together. Its so embarrassing telling people. And my parents want to know wtf is going on. I was supposed to go to dinner with my MIL tonight, but had to cancel. I was so depressed I'd be terrible company. So, while I was on the phone cancelling dinner I broke down and was sobbing. She's great and totally understands where I'm coming from, but I hate making her the middle-man. Its not fair to anyone to do that. She agrees that DH is being ridiculous tho. So, here's what I think I'm going to do. I'm going to call the mortgage lady Monday morning to get a new pre-approval. I have all the info. Then I'm going to call the RE agent and go back to see the condo one more time to check out all the little things that may need to be fixed. He doesn't need to come. Then I'm telling him to sign the 1% deposit check and sign the offer. He called me tonight and tried to pull the I'm so busy at work all day while the lady at the bank is at work, so I don't have any time to call her or get anything done. Yeah right, so you mean to tell me that during your oh so busy day at work you don't call my brother 4 times a day, talk to the owner of your racecar to make stupid racing plans and talk to your two friends who's a$$es you are up? HA. Fat chance buddy. He's full of excuses and I'm out of patience.

Quote: Originally Posted by syl1115 Ok, I'm not trying to be a smart ass, but I will take your place, put my DH in your DH's place and you two can live in our house. I am in need of some space! But honestly, I am so sorry you are going thru all of this. It has to be very disappointing for you too. Can you just find one and give them a good faith deposit then tell DH you bought a condo for the two of you and he just has to sign papers! Why is it that men must procrastinate so much? Sylvia, I might take you up on that! I can just tell him I found a house in OH! lol I swear, my DH thinks that time is standing still and somehow we are guaranteed 60 more years together. I hate wasting time. And he just doesn't get why I'm so pissed. Which makes me more pissed! Its so frustrating not being able to just do everything myself. We'd be moved in somewhere already.

Quote: Originally Posted by BachataBride That sucks Kelly. Did you give him the ultimatum that if he didn't step up you were going to take care of it?? How did he respond?? Why is he not taking this seriously? Maybe that's a stupic question - if you knew that then you could deal with it. Oh honey, I feel for you. Hopefully he will get his ass in gear soon before you go crazy!! I can't really do anything because in our situation he is the one with the money. Its so frustrating because I contacted a Real Estate agent and we went to look at condos and then he doesn't do ANYTHING! He says he wants to make an offer on one of them, but then doesn't DO anything about it. I told him that the Offer Fairy isn't going to come ask him if he wants to buy a condo. He has to DO something about it. He doesn't get the fact that we are out of time. There is no more time to look around and get a better deal. We are MARRIED! The prices on these condos have come down more than 50k since we first looked at them. He loves them, so its not like I'm trying to rush him into something he doesn't want. He says he wants it and then doesn't do a damn thing. Its so freakin frustrating. I told him not to call me until he was going to tell me where we are going to live. Of course, I wanted that to be in like 5 minutes and he hasn't called all day. He keeps saying we have plenty of time. I told him I could get hit by a bus tomorrow and he would regret not living with his WIFE. Errrr... so pissed! And, he could just tell me he doesn't want to buy right now, but rent. I don't really care at this point as long as we live together.

I confess that I'm depressed, sad, lonely and PISSED OFF. I tried to talk to DH about our living situation (us not living together yet) and all he could do was joke and then ignore my questions. Finally I got pissed and started yelling and then got upset. Nothing is resolved. He had nothing to say. There is no plan in place. Every night that I go to sleep by myself I get more upset. I'm so hurt that he doesn't seem to care that we are not living together.

Wow, those are really great! It looks like you had a fabulous time!

Quote: Originally Posted by egsarah Kelly thanks for the great review!! I'm just starting the planning at the Paradisus and am so excited! Your pictures turned out fantastic. I LOOOVED your bouquet and was thinking of doing something similar. Did you have to pay extra or did that count as your tropical bouquet? Thanks again for sharing. I didn't pay any extra for my bouquet. I love stargazers! They were so pretty. Quote: Originally Posted by samanddan I have another question for you. Was there a different set up for the wedding party table?? Also did you buy the hanging lanterns? Also did you pay extra to have the arch with the cloth on it (during ceremony)? I have emailed daniela but it takes her like a month to get back to me. starting to make me really frustrated. Thanks soo much again for helpin out with answer and posting ur pics, it looks like ur wedding turned out gorgeous. We had the wedding party table decorated just like the rest of them. We brought down almost all of the decorations including the candles used for the centerpieces. We also brought the hanging paper lanterns. Daniela put the lanterns together including putting in the little light bulb and the batteries and she hung them with fishing line that I brought down. The arch for the ceremony is extra. They charged us $100. I loved it though, especially compared to the other weddings I saw that week that didn't have anything.

Quote: Originally Posted by BachataBride Wow Kelly...we are way too much alike!! Are you sure we're not related...or twins even!!?? LOL I too was not going to wear a veil, but my friend convinced me to bring hers with me "just in case". I was planning on just putting it on for a few pics - but once I was dressed & ready to go I realized I wanted the veil. And I'm so glad I went with it - I love the look of it in pictures. Especially this one...I love how it flows behind me as we're dancing! We are way too much alike. There are actually pictures of me from our wedding that I really like, but wish I still had my veil on! I really love it. Maybe even more than my dress.

Those are great!

I vote for a veil! I had no intention of wearing one, but last minute I bought one at my bridal shop. I absolutely love the pictures I have with my veil on and am so glad that I decided to buy one. I didn't wear it all night, but really did love it. The one I got was short, which I really liked for a DW because it was less formal. I say go for it!

Welcome back Tracy! You look great!

Connie you look so pretty. I am sooo in love with your flowers!

I love that wave crashing behind you!

Wow Connie, those pictures are fabulous!

You've all inspired me to change my siggy pic too!