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Congratulations Meredith. Sounds like everything was great!

Welcome back Meredith! I'm glad you had a great time. I can't view your photo. Make sure you are using the IMG code from photobucket. I'm off to read your review now...

I just emailed my hubby this article. lol Hopefully it motivates him! Do more housework, get better sex Who knew cleaning could be such a turn-on? Men who do more housework may be having better sex because of it, according to US experts. Women are happier with men who do more around the house and might be more willing to reward them sexually, said a report published on the website of the Council of Contemporary Families (CCF). "When men do more of the housework, women's perceptions of fairness and marital satisfaction rise and the couple experience less marital conflict," the report claims. The study shows that American men's contribution to housework has increased about 15 percent in the last 40 years. "We sociologists generally don't go there, but therapists say there's a direct correlation" between men doing more housework and the frequency of sex," the report's co-author sociologist Scott Coltrane told a French news agency. In a comment posted on the CCF website, psychologist Joshua Coleman agreed that sharing household chores "is associated with higher levels of marital satisfaction - and sometimes more sex, too!" "Wives report greater feelings of sexual interest and affection for husbands who participate in housework," Coleman added.

Ok, I'm so jealous that so many of you have FI's and DH's that help you even a little bit. I've got to get mine trained!

Quote: Originally Posted by syl1115 I feel you. I work part-time, go to school full-time, take care of all bills, dr. appts, cleaning, dog, etc. and today DH said "don't worry about the trash, I'll get it". Well I went to work while he slept in and when I got home at 5, what do you think was still in the house? Not to mention that he still has not cut the grass because on the only nice day of the week, he had to ride his motorcycle for 15 hours! Then when he came home tonight, he had the NERVE to say, "what's for dinner?". I wanted to throw a leg of lamb at him! He seems to think that since I am not working fulltime, I am supposed to cook dinner everyday, clean the house and do all of the other stuff. I would give him credit for doing all of the laundry, but I am mad about him throwing everything in the dryer! Even after I tell him what not to put in there! Uggggggggg! omg, my dh is the same way. I swear he thinks because I don't work "full time" it means I'm home all day popping bonbons in my mouth like Peg Bundy. I'd love to challenge him to go to college at my age and get all my homework done. He wouldn't last a day!

At least its not just me. I swear, I've asked him for help folding laundry in the past and he gets all 4 year old on me and tells me he "doesn't know how". He thinks just cuz he's cute he can get away with anything! That is good advice~ I should stop doing things and when he runs out of clean clothes he'll have to do something.

So, I know there is a thread on here about someone who is marrying an idiot. Well, I married one too! Today I was trying to explain to dh that sometimes I need help with household things like the laundry, dishes and cleaning and guess what his response was... you'll LOVE this. He said... its my JOB to do those things. Yup, that's right, he had the nerve to say that out loud. My JOB. Keep in mind that I am taking three college courses, working part time, I'm the sole person looking for our future home and I do all the household stuff. What does he do, you may ask? Well, he thinks the only thing he needs to accomplish each day is getting up for work every morning. At first I was pretty pissed, but now I just find it laughable that he actually said that to me. I told him that I would be happy to have those things be my job, if it means that I can quit my actual job that I get paid to do and he would pay all of my expenses. Of course, he did not think that was a good idea.

Quote: Originally Posted by yamille This weekend was not the best. I'm annoyed. I drank too much and I even ate smore's at my friends birthday party. several. and I drank. I'm a little upset with myself but I am about to get serious! I have 1 month till my wedding this is crazy. To monday! Well buddy, at least we are in sync! lol I'm in the same boat. Here's to Monday being a better day!

You could make it clear to people that while you can't decide who goes to the resort, their "extra" guests will not be invited to your wedding. Some people don't realize that there are still costs to a dw and you shouldn't have to pay for univited guests. This would at least mean you don't have to hang out with them on your wedding night.

Jac~ glad to hear Cattie is feeling better! I hope you get a good nights sleep tonight. I have only been doing ok the last couple of days. I'm hoping to really get my act together tomorrow and start early with a workout.

Ooh, I admit, I watch the reruns of this during the day. Arian is a mess!

I think he should give it a little more time. My DH is allergic to cats and I have two. It took the cats a while to adjust to not sleeping in the bedroom with me. One of them would bang into the door for hours trying to come in. It was so hard for me to leave him out there! But, now they're both fine with it. Just make sure you vacuum every day to control the hair. When dh and I started dating he knew about the cats and I would never get rid of them, even if I had someone who would take them. Having a pet is a life long responsibility.

So, sometimes its Q & A, like this... 1. "I'm eating at a large calorie deficit and exercising really hard, yet the scale isn't moving. What gives? Plateau, huh? Ninety-nine percent of the time, it's one of two things. If you're not dropping pounds, yet your inches are changing for the positive, odds are you are actually losing fat but also gaining muscle. That's what's balancing out the scale. I know it's a frustrating situation, but if you've been looking in the mirror or putting on clothes, you've probably noticed that you're looking better and your clothes are fitting looser, so it's not all bad. When this happens, I've found that approximately week 6 is the magic time when the scale starts moving, so hang in there, tiger! The other probable cause is that you're undereating, which can force your body into starvation mode. Back in the days when folks hunted and gathered, there were no 7-Elevens. Because of this, people sometimes had to go for days with little or no food. According to Darwin, people who survived these times of famine were the people who, well, survived these times of famine. And in order to do this, their bodies adapted by slowing down their metabolisms and holding onto emergency fuel supplies (aka "fat") during lean times. This is starvation mode. Almost every time I tell someone to eat more to knock out a plateau, I get an argument because people who've lost weight by eating less have trouble adjusting their mindsets. But as your body composition changes, you have to eat to support it. If I can finally turn them around, the scale almost always starts moving again. And, sometimes it tips like this... 1. If you know you are going to an event or gathering, eat something before you go. Eat a balanced, small healthy meal before you leave the house. Or have a large apple in the car on the way there. Then you won't be so hungry and might not be so tempted. 2. If the food all looks good and is tempting -- allow yourself to sample a bite of everything. Just a bite! You'll feel satisfied. 3. Or you could allow yourself a small serving of your fave food there (that would be potato salad for me!) and then fill the rest of your plate with healthy things like, grilled chicken, veggies and dip, etc. Then you ate healthy AND you had a little treat. Not to bad, eh? It can be done, it is just a matter of having the right mindset going in. Remember, too, that the main focus of these gatherings is to enjoy being with friends and family. The food is secondary to that, always. Some of this stuff we probably already know, but could maybe use a reminder. Then there are articles on things like, what exactly is in your bottled water etc. So, let me know if you think its helpful and I can pick and choose some things to post once a week or something.

Wow girls, I miss a day and I missed so many posts! Hope everyone's weekend is going well. So, I get emails from BeachBody which is where my P90X dvd's are from. They give some interesting info on all sorts of topics from exercise to eating to drinking water etc. I was thinking of copying and pasting some of the info into the thread once in a while. I think its from a pretty reliable source. What do you guys think? I don't want to 'spam' the thread if the group doesn't think its beneficial. I will go and copy and paste now just to give you an idea of what I'm talking about. Give me a sec...

Quote: Originally Posted by ErinB Katrina, your trip so so amazing!!! That is what I can't seem to get DH to understand - we can go other places. I have a friend doing an internship in Munich in Spetember and she will still have her apartment for Oktoberfest and she has invited us. DH doesn't want to go! Weould it be bad for me to go alone and make it a girls' week? Kelly, good luck on the house search. It is really frustrating. I'm kind of amazed that DH and I made it through the process. We had completely different ideas of waht would make the perfect house and we both came to the realization that for our budget, we were both going to have to compromise. Erin, I think girls week sounds fabulous! I can't believe he doesn't want to go. If it will help, I'll ship my dh to hang out with yours and I'll go with you. That's part of our problem with the whole house thing too. Dh has no idea what he wants. So some things I think have a lot of potential he just flat out says no to, but then can't tell me what he'd want instead. And, I'm the one doing the initial searching because I have free time during the day, so it makes it even harder. I think he thinks the house fairy is going to come to our door one day and have the "perfect" house for us. I'm more realistic that we're going to have to do some work.

Wow Susan, that's a alot of stuff! Glad to hear you are ok.

Omg, I had to crack up at all those messages. She's nuts! But in a good, she's excited way. lol I know I'd probably be frustrated, but you just have to laugh.

Quote: Originally Posted by katrina kelly, is the market tough in connecticut? i only kind of know the derby area because a friend of ours lives there. It actually took a while for the market to come down here like it did in other areas of the US. I'd say that just in the last few months have we seen any major changes. The problem is we are limited to two cities to look in based on my school, his job and where we'll probably make the most on resale and then in those two cities there are only a few neighborhoods we really like. So, I guess we might be a little picky. We were looking at condos at first, but prices there just haven't come down enough for us at the complex we really like. So, we are starting to look at single family homes. I'm heading out tomorrow with our agent so hopefully we find something we like! We live about 10-15 minutes from Derby right now.

Quote: Originally Posted by lgarner83 Definitely Ann! Obviously you do so much work for BDW of course you should be able to play. I would be happy to accept and save your wednesday scale pics if you decide to play! On another note...I have no motivation to exercise!!! I'm eating great but my activity level needs to be boosted big time. What do you girls do to exercise? Ann, I agree, if you want to put the $15 in and play to win its a good idea! That's a lot of money! Now I'm way more motivated. lol I'm just getting back into exercising regularly. I've been a slacker for a while now. So, I'm starting with walks around my neighborhood (about 3 miles) this week and will switch to interval training next week of jogging and walking. I foolishly signed up to run a 5k May 10 thinking it would motivate me to get moving, but it really hasn't and if I go run it I'll probably die. Oh well.

I agree. I was in my friends wedding that was on a cruise, but I couldn't make it to her AHR. It was not a big deal. I was there for the real thing! You should pick the date that works for you and your FI. As for your friend that is having the bday party, I assume she has put some time and effort into her planning as well, so I could see her being upset she would have to change the date. But there is more than one day in a weekend. Can you guys do the party one day and your friends party the other day of the same weekend (sat/sun)?

Welcome to day 1 everyone! Hope it goes well for you. I'm eating egg whites right now! woohoo lol

Great review. Every detail looked amazing. Glad you had a fabulous time!

Sorry, I'm confused too. They can't make the AHR or are you having another ceremony at the AHR or will they miss the wedding?

All I can say is, WOW! Those are fantastic!

If the new TA won't ask I would call the manager at triple A and explain the situation. If that person doesn't help I would all Pleasant and see if they will do anything. It can't hurt.