ok so we e-mail a lot, so i emailed her... this is what i said.
Mom... I am inviting everyone to the wedding. and the party at home. I originally wasn't even planning on having any kind of reception at home but I know that i am probably the only wedding you guys are going to get to have. so I am sending 2 sets of invitations when i actually send the invitations out. The wedding on the beach IS the wedding... so inviting people to just the party at home would be like inviting someone to just the reception for the normal wedding. I don't care if i send out 200 invitations and only 10 say yes...
the save the date I am ordering has my wedding date on it, that's the date that will be my anniversary. they also have our wedding website, people can go to the website and it will have the information for punta cana and cleveland. The "wedsite" is still a work in progress so when it is completely done i'll show you. it will be very clear. I don't think too many people will be too confused. I'll try to get you a copy of the proofs of my invitations so you can see how clearly it is spelled out.
she hasn't responded. I guess there are no questions to really respond to but i hope she isn't offended. we will see... in the end i know, I am paying for all of this, and it is my wedding so things will end up my way (not to be bridezilla lol)